...or you could just, you know... tell your husband to stop being an obsessive controlling dick about everything because it's hot and you want to go for a swim.
Accidentally flashing chastity equipment in public
Sin ...or you could just, you know... tell your husband to stop being an obsessive controlling dick about everything because it's hot and you want to go for a swim.
Why should I do this? I agreed to this kind of lifestyle. This way of living is consensual. I don't need to go swimming for my long term happiness, while feeling his love and seeing how proud he is of me gives me a lot of great feelings.
Jen Been hot here, pool's been great
OMG it's been like 40+ degrees here every day! Christmas was 40+ for six days straight... Two weeks ago it was 40 for the whole week... Today is 39. Tomorrow is 40. Saturday is 40. It's the craziest summer ever. You walk out the front door and it's like walking into an oven.
Sin It's snowing in USA
Sara2001 This way of living is consensual.
I think you two are letting your parents scare you into rigid hierarchies. A lot of this fear should just go away with some calm time on your honeymoon. Especially once both of your bodies enjoy hetero norm penetrative sex you should get over the fear that you have to 'enforce' you marriage. Hopefully you can be as relax in your chastity as I am.
My husband and I don't constantly live in fear they our genitals' will abandon us 
Joh I think it's worth trying before you reject it. If people are too close, just leave it.
right, besides, regardless of my belt, i wouldn't want to go to beaches that are too crowded, a bit of privacy is a must 
Sin tell your husband to stop being an obsessive controlling dick about everything
please no insults
I think at the latest when @Sara2001 lives together with her boyfriend in her own house/flat then there will be changes because then they will no longer be influenced by anyone in one direction or the other, at the moment it seems to me more like a test phase.
It will be when he is her husband and not before.
And I agree. Than they are free to decide mostly on themselves. A rest of influence always exist. They live not alone on an island.
Joh And I agree. Than they are free to decide mostly on themselves. A rest of influence always exist. They live not alone on an island.
I think we are already far beyond the suggestions of our parents. My father often says that he thinks that my rules are very strict and that we should be careful that it's really working for us like this 
But basically you are right. I am sure a lot of things will change this August. In the first few months we will definitely find out what truly works for us in the long run and then there will be more changes over time with more experiences or changed opinions.
Abby82 cant rly swim now because of ice etc, maybe again in june
It's a blizzard in Texas climate change 
Sara2001 think we are already far beyond the suggestions of our parents. My father often says that he thinks that my rules are very strict and that we should be careful that it's really working for us like this
I agree and Daniel is probably a wonderful man I am just concerned because we are on the internet and the internet has bdsm themes
Joh It will be when he is her husband and not before.
I'm not 100% sure,but @Sara2001 will probably be happy to tell us if anything changes in the living situation before the wedding.
Sara2001 My father often says that he thinks that my rules are very strict and that we should be careful that it's really working for us like this
if even your father says that, then you really do have a very strict lifestyle. 
Sara2001 I am sure a lot of things will change this August.
moving date or wedding date?
Megan I agree and Daniel is probably a wonderful man
We are absolutely not in BDSM. We think it's a play thing.
Angelina moving date or wedding date?
It's the same 
Angelina if even your father says that, then you really do have a very strict lifestyle.
I already said this. My rules are always the strictest to reduce any possible conflict at the beginning.
Sara2001 It's the same
I hope your wedding will be everything you imagined, I am very happy for you.
Sara2001 My rules are always the strictest to reduce any possible conflict at the beginning.
i am still amazed that it worked out that way. i always thought that it would create more conflict, but talking clearly helps a lot.
Angelina i am still amazed that it worked out that way. i always thought that it would create more conflict, but talking clearly helps a lot.
This is something you can't stress enough. If anyone ever thinks about entering a relationship with one partner who is the leader and another partner who is submitting to the other, talking is the key to happiness and success. Talking, talking, talking and reflection of what you two doo. And of course both need to feel that the other one has your long term goals and happiness as his first priority. Only when this is given, it can be healthy.
Sara2001 And of course both need to feel that the other one has your long term goals and happiness as his first priority
that is the most important thing, of course. however, i would never say that it reduces conflicts, but rather that it ensures that the conflicts become more solution-oriented, i.e. that it is worth entering into this conflict (of course objectively and with respect for the opinion of the other person).
But I think that's a bit small-minded from me now.
Joh Wow. To name it play thing is an understatement, in my opinion
Nevertheless you like it, do it.
We don't like to play with leadership and submission but we decided for true and real leadership based on love, honesty and trust and submission based on the same values.
Jen And hopefully even finding a solution to go to for a swim
We will see, I don't think it's very likely and it's not that extremely important for me.
Angelina that is the most important thing, of course. however, i would never say that it reduces conflicts, but rather that it ensures that the conflicts become more solution-oriented, i.e. that it is worth entering into this conflict (of course objectively and with respect for the opinion of the other person).
We think and made the experience that it's also possible to exchange opinions and to find a solution that is working for both of us without having a conflict. For us the key was to know the other ones points of view and of course it helps a lot that we have implemented the rule that he has to take care of my long term goals and happiness as the top priority while I have to take care of his short term wishes as the top priority. This way we have almost no conflicts and always a clear strategy how to solve them.