Megan The most common form of ADHD in women is Inattentive ADHD where there is no hyperactivity and as ADD presents differently in women than men it is very common for women to be undiagnosed for most of their lives. There are several questionnaires which you can do online by reputable organizations that can help you to work out if it may be something you are dealing with. I wasn't diagnosed until late in life and I can say that not knowing how it affects your life is not a good thing.

One other thing which can attract those with ADHD or Autism to Chastity is that it is a kind of pressure therapy. These kind of people find comfort from weighted blankets and long hugs. Wearing a Chastity Belt is like having a big hug down there and it can make you feel calmer and more centered.

For those who do have ADHD, their bodies don't get enough B vitamins and so supplementing with those can help moodiness and how they handle stress. They have to take much higher levels than what is said on the bottle.. Broad spectrum B vitamins are best where they get many in a higher dose. Having a multivitamin is useless, you could die on the levels of vitamins that a normal multi-vitamin gives.

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      Megan I've talked to an OT for anxiety and they can't diagnose but have talked about ADHD and it's like keeping track of what I need to do is as much effort as the doing and it shouldn't be that hard. - that's not what I thought ADHD was but you hear mostly about boys with it

          Jen It totally is that hard. Getting to the stage of being able to do something is most of the battle. Also it is hard to get anything done without having a list to refer to. Losing track of time is also chronic, feeling misunderstood and missing social cues that everyone else sees are also major pointers.

          Girls are very often either misdiagnosed or not diagnosed. The number of undiagnosed women out there is definitely at least two times those diagnosed and it may be more like 3 times. Boys normally show the hyperactive aspect which not everyone has, but it is what everyone looks for. Most girls don't have the hyperactivity but they do show the other executive function issues such as fidgeting or distractability, disorganization, bad time management or awareness and missing social cues among others.

          Not having the hyperactivity and being in a family of similar individuals I thought that I was normal but just misunderstood. It wasn't until I talked to a friend when I was about 40 who was diagnosed that I realized what was really going on. Now that I know it in me I can see it in so many people who have no idea what they are really dealing with.

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            Thomas Autism

            well, that I actually got assumed / diagnosed once... but that's been back then when I was very young... but there's like no influence of chastity on this ...

            Thomas long hugs
            that I can absolutely confirm, lol ... but I think that also depends on the type.

            Thomas like having a big hug down there

            true
            I finally feel understood.

                  make myself unpopular with such statements, but i would be careful with these diagnoses. especially as small children, many in my environment were diagnosed with ADHD or autism. of probably 5 or 6 cases, only one diagnosis turned out to be correct, in all the others, society seems to have forgotten that children behave differently from adults.

                  I don't want to deny that these illnesses exist and it must be terrible for those affected, but I would like to warn. please have these diagnoses checked constantly and get many different opinions.

                    Angelina I agree in times past when Doctors were less educated about it, there were more incorrect diagnoses of ADHD. However today in many countries doctors are much better at diagnosis. The rate of diagnosis is way under the actual numbers however. Since I was diagnosed I have become much more aware of it in people around me and I can see many definite cases in friends and family who have never been diagnosed, both in parents and kids. I would say only 50 to 25% of people with ADHD are actually diagnosed and given the help to function in a neurotypical world.

                    I would say that for most it is not an "illness" but a difference in brain wiring due to differences in genetics and hormonal function. For some though it can feel like an illness for sure.

                        Thomas I would say that for most it is not an "illness" but a difference in brain wiring due to differences in genetics and hormonal function. For some though it can feel like an illness for sure.

                        that's why the term diagnosis is always a bit difficult to formulate here, but that's true for almost all mental "illnesses". the problem i have with it is that it is presented as something wrong, i.e. a deviation from the normal healthy state. for me it is simply a different character, nothing more and nothing less.

                            Angelina For many people it is simply a difference in brain wiring, the problem starts when they are forced or expected to function in the same way that someone with "normal" brain wiring would. Then they can never measure up and will always be considered to have something wrong with them when it is just a difference.

                            Diet issues and toxicity especially from vaccines can be what makes something which is just a difference in processing and turns it into a disability or a real big issue. Vaccinated kids are 3 times more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD... it doesn't cause it just makes the symptoms worse.

                                Thomas

                                well, the question is at what point do we speak of a mental illness and what is defined as a normal deviation from standard behaviour? that's what i always see a bit critically

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                                    Angelina I think that the idea of it being a mental illness varies depending on the culture and how ADHD friendly it is. South American culture is much more ADHD friendly I have heard and what they would call a mental illness and what a very strict German culture would call mental illness are very different. So perspective and societal demands change how it is viewed. Many people who have ADHD are very happy with themselves it is only when the more neurotypical demands of others are placed on them that they become unhappy, feel inadequate and can have mental health issues.

                                    There are other very severe people who have other issues and perhaps very severe deficiences or biological imbalances whose condition prevents them from functioning at any level in the world and that would be considered by many to be a mental illness. The fact remains though that it isn't often a problem with the mind but most often the body which is causing symptoms in the mind. The adage that it is all in your head is seldom true..

                                        Thomas The adage that it is all in your head is seldom true..

                                        and there we have different opinions, i would even go so far as to say that the opposite is true. everything that takes place in the mind has an effect on the body, but it always starts in the mind.
                                        I highly recommend the books by Christian Schubert in this context (I'm sure there are also English translations).
                                        https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christian_Schubert_(Mediziner)

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                                            My doctor diagnosed me with adhd at FOUR years old. I was on over a dozen different drugs for over a decade when I refused to take them anymore.
                                            I never had it I was just a little boy that didn’t get disciplined enough by my crazy mother.

                                            So I have a skewed view of it due to my resentment of being drugged for so long for no reason.

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                                              Angelina Yes technically ADHD is in the mind seeing that it is the way that the brain processes things which is different, the wiring of the brain is different. However, the concept of "being all in your head" in English meaning that it is imagined not biological is what I am disagreeing with.

                                              Cb85 I am sorry that you were subjected to that kind of abuse. I wish I could take meds, but unfortunately I am left with what little I can do naturally and through building mental tools and habits. There are many cases like yours I am sure, but unfortunately there are so many cases of undiagnosed ADHD where kids grow up to be adults, never knowing why they are different and never getting any help to deal with their divergence in a rigid and inflexible world.

                                                    Thomas . However, the concept of "being all in your head" in English meaning that it is imagined not biological is what I am disagreeing with.

                                                    It's not like that in every case, I don't want to be misunderstood, but unfortunately mental illnesses are used almost inflationarily nowadays, so I'm cautious.

                                                        Angelina I agree that the term "mental illness" is way over used these days. There is a Neuro-Divergence for sure and those with ADHD notice this more than most people can understand. But it is the majority of societies and the way that people have been programmed in our world which is the real problem. It has put kids in a system which amplifies their differences and makes them into traumas instead of giving everyone the tools they need to know who they are and find the best version of themselves, emotionally and mentally, instead of convincing them that they need to try to be someone else.

                                                            Thomas It has put kids in a system which amplifies their differences

                                                            that's interesting, i would rather say that the problem is that our children are all being made the same and their individuality is not being promoted, which leads to psychological problems.

                                                                [Edited / Update: Didn't realize Thomas had already answered, when I wrote the post at hand.]

                                                                Maybe the term referred to differences in the sense of having differences among themselves, like problems to express themselves truly or difficulties to get along when people of more or less apparent "neurotypes" (or divergence, as Thomas put it) are involved?

                                                                Yet, I don't want to answer instead of Thomas. I only want to confirm a personal impression, that there is an interplay between individual people and this (sometimes strange and hard to get) "society" and their respective influences. Unfortunately and still far too often, im my opinion, that societal influence puts a lot of pressure on the individual - instead of encouraging to learn about each others perceptions and needs, first.

                                                                Now I'm definitely not saying that societies should tolerate every individual oddity. For from it. Yet it is far more easier to find dealings to get along with each other, when you learn the real background why someone acts and reacts their way. (And often, one has to find out for oneself as well, first. Besides, that certain foundations in our brains will probably stay hidden or at least unconscious forever… To weal or woe.)

                                                                It's a tragedy that IMHO many many people (including myself) -- perhaps because of that general "mood of pressure", feelings of being out of time, having to accomplish too many tasks whose necessity is sometimes completely questionable in too less time etc. or even fighting for bare existence -- feel even less compassionate, even less able to investigate those feelings (incl. our own), less able to learn about each other, and deal with our respective characteristics, ask for specific steps that might make our living together easier and so on.

                                                                It takes effort, sometimes seems like a waste of time to get really in touch with one another. And sometimes our affected minds just don't make it. It would be so valuable, still.

                                                                Thomas

                                                                Our answers crossed (didn't notice you already posted, while typing).

                                                                  Thomas

                                                                  Yet, my assumption that it's two sides of the same coin, was not too wrong, apparently.