Saintprudence I’m a trans woman, a dedicated feminist, a chastity fan, and was raised in an extremely cult like version of Catholicism. All these viewpoints collide a lot; sometimes I’m very “it’s horrible that anyone would belt anyone ever” and some days I’m like “as long as Christine’s mom pays her rent, she should accept the belt.”

I think we all have your contradictions to a certain extent, I come from a position in which I was very reluctant about all this.
Reading you also helps me identify my own positions and evolve.

Saintprudence One outcome is that in general, I don’t push chastity, but when someone like Yolanda or our new friend BD1791 chooses to join the locked sisterhood, I tend to push as extreme a 24/7 locking as possible. (I know part-time locking is okay, but I’m not the one to advise it.) lo

It is the only way to establish a special connection, I have experienced it with my wife, the "click" in her head only occurred when she switched to 24/7, suddenly she knows that she is loved and protected even beyond her own actions, she knows that not even she can harm herself. I wouldn't say as extreme, but I do see, at least for now, advantages in being strict.

BD1791 Since starting this journey into chastity I have been struggling with these competing viewpoints. I've been struggling more since ordering my belt

If you didn't trust your man you wouldn't take that step.

Saintprudence I almost feel bad for how much my viewpoints have changed in the last two years

I experience the same in some months

            Rafael If you didn't trust your man you wouldn't take that step

            I trust him but taking the step to give up that much control is still a little intimidating. We will work through it and he's very understanding about my feelings.

                BD1791 I trust him but taking the step to give up that much control is still a little intimidating. We will work through it and he's very understanding about my feelings.

                I understand you perfectly, especially because I never had in mind to carry out a chastity belt.
                It was something that I suddenly found locked around my waist.

                You'll have a crisis, I'm telling you, but if you get used to it, prepare to be the center of your husband's life, my dear.

                Not only am I proud to wear it and serve as an example to the girls, but it has improved many things in marriage, many...

                If he pays attention to you being happy, you're going to ride a roller coaster, sometimes you'll be a little angry, many times very eager, but if he pays attention and presses those keys well, (help him do it), I vahen´t experienced anything similar in my life for such a long period of time.

                It is certainly worth it.

                  Saintprudence (Hi! I’m Prudence - resident crazy chaste religious girl turned evangelist for belting others 🙂. )

                  it's always nice to see you back on the forum (even after a long break) 🙂

                  BD1791 I think neosteel is a better quality belt but since Dr. Mende passed away there is no way to know when the store will actually reopen. I don't want to wait forever for a belt. My partner and I have been talking about one for a while and finally decided to do it. So... Idk. Yes it's more expensive but this way I'll have a belt for now and then can get what I think is a better belt when it's available again.

                  true, we don't know when (if ever) neosteel will reopen, but i wonder what you will do with the fancysteel once you have the neosteel?

                  Raquel My cousin is delighted to be able to change them, and sometimes the FS is a bit too tight and I would love to be able to rest by changing for another model.

                  yes, I understand that, only with @BD1791 I was surprised because she is a beginner, something like that is usually only common later after some experience.

                  BD1791 I assumed I wouldn't be able to slouch anymore. I'm horrible with that. Hopefully I get use to it quickly.

                  it all happens automatically at some point, just like sleeping. the body then knows subconsciously. 🙂

                  Saintprudence I think. Even Goody agrees now that in a committed, loving marriage like ours, masturbation should not be necessary because your partner should see to your needs.

                  and you don't even have to be religious for that, that's exactly how I see it, it has something to do with values in a relationship. 🙂

                              Angelina I was surprised because she is a beginner, something like that is usually only common later after some experience.

                              🤷🤷🤷 Idk... The belt I wanted is not available and there's no saying when it will be. Is it that weird I just decided to move forward with getting a belt?

                              Angelina but i wonder what you will do with the fancysteel once you have the neosteel?

                              I'll either keep it as a backup or sell it. I also though of the possibility of it being the belt I travel with so the neosteel doesn't get list or damaged.

                                    BD1791 🤷🤷🤷 Idk... The belt I wanted is not available and there's no saying when it will be. Is it that weird I just decided to move forward with getting a belt?

                                    that's perfectly ok, i was just a bit surprised, but in the end you have to do what makes you happy. 🙂

                                    BD1791 I'll either keep it as a backup or sell it. I also though of the possibility of it being the belt I travel with so the neosteel doesn't get list or damaged.

                                    sounds like a good idea. was just unsure, not that the expensive belt goes to waste in the wardrobe 😉

                                          Angelina but in the end you have to do what makes you happy.

                                          I can be impatient... It's one of my better qualities 😂🤣. I'm feeling pretty good about the decision now that neosteel is up in the air. Even if they reopen I suspect there will be some back orders that need to be caught up on.

                                              BD1791 How do you sleep with it on

                                              Not much difference between hip and waist belts.

                                                BD1791 I can be impatient... It's one of my better qualities 😂🤣

                                                i'm impatient sometimes too, but i'd rather consider that a bad trait of mine, but whatever. i hope you wear the belt you really want someday 😉

                                                dvoraks And you should choose according to your preferences as well as your body proportions - the hips are not good for every body

                                                i am very thin and even though i like the hipstyle because it allows for more clothes, i imagine that it could be very tight press on the hips. ouch!

                                                      Angelina i'm impatient sometimes too, but i'd rather consider that a bad trait of mine, but whatever. i hope you wear the belt you really want someday 😉

                                                      I also consider it a bad trait. That's why I had the laughing faces. Sorry if my sarcasm didn't come through. I honestly am not super optimistic that neosteel is going to reopen anytime soon. I hope I'm wrong but things seem very up in the air for them right now.

                                                          BD1791 I got this one:

                                                          https://fancysteel.com/collections/women/products/fs2-womens-chastity-belt-high-waist

                                                          No d rings on it because they appear to stick out kind of far. I'll get d rings on the neosteel when I can order it.

                                                          Unfortunately, of all companies Fancysteel managed to make the worst default implementation of rings I can imagine, at all. Instead of the nicely foldable D-Rings, almost everyone else manages to add (incl. the cheap, mass-producing Chinese manufacturers), fancysteel choose to add O-Rings on these "fancy" cantilevers 😤 , protruding no matter what you do 😞 . I guess they someone intended to somehow bolster their uniqueness with that design, yet I wish they made it more practical instead. :-/ Actually, I think their move completely fired backwards. As mentioned above ( https://unwedchastity.org/d/724-can-the-cable-on-the-neosteel-be-detached-while-wearing-it/113 ), you are not the only one who considered it a nuisance...

                                                          I hope the model you preferred more actually - and Neosteel as a whole - become available again, soon. I'd consider not having them in the game a serious loss for the community. (Well unless one works for their rivals, I suppose.) If you have to stick to the FS for longer, you might get back to Ines's and her solution to replace/upgrade rings on their own. Although you might then face the very problems, I wrote my note ( https://unwedchastity.org/d/553-d-rings/115 ) about.

                                                          Don't get me wrong. I absolute can understand your choice to really get your belt - and get it soon - than to wait indefinitely longer. There is much to learn and experience, anyway. Besides, the cable-based design of the FS comes with their very own characteristics. And if you can afford to be among the elite of users to have different belts at their disposal, in the future, all the better.

                                                          Wish you all the best. And tell us, when your FS has arrived!

                                                          BTW / Off-Topic:
                                                          They have different shield styles. Wanted to ask which one you selected, but I guess we'll better outsource to separate FS thread. ...
                                                          EDITED: Done - here: https://unwedchastity.org/d/596-is-fancy-steel-a-viable-option-for-secure-long-time-wear/201

                                                              Owl Unfortunately, of all companies Fancysteel managed to make the worst default implementation of rings I can imagine, at all.

                                                              Yes, I was a little disappointed with that. I think they were going for more of a fetish bondagey look but that doesn't work for my intended use at all 😂.

                                                              Owl as a whole - become available again, soon.

                                                              Me too. I'm a bit disappointed. The fancy steel is beautiful but I'm a little worried it won't be as good as a neosteel. I have nothing to base that concern on. It's just something I've decided in my head. I'm hopeful everything works out ok.

                                                              I will definitely keep everyone updated but manufacturing takes 12-14 weeks and then it has to ship. It will still be a little bit of a wait.

                                                                    BD1791

                                                                    yes, i understood the sarcasm. it's really hard to say what will happen next with neosteel. i think the family will want to have time for themselves for now and then.... i think there will be a reopening

                                                                    BD1791

                                                                    well, the advantage is that you can then think about thighbands on the neosteel as far as the D-rings are concerned.

                                                                          Angelina well, the advantage is that you can then think about thighbands on

                                                                          I think I'll get them on the neosteel for sure. They are flat so I don't really see a draw back (I say that as someone who has never experienced thigh bands 😂🤣)

                                                                              dvoraks but some people don't like hip belts...

                                                                              My mom.

                                                                              dvoraks for us are not so nice and secure

                                                                              You should try one and see.

                                                                              BD1791 I think I'll get them on the neosteel for sure.

                                                                              Would you like to wear thighbands?

                                                                                      Christine Would you like to wear thighbands?

                                                                                      🤷🤷🤷 I don't really know. I didn't really know they were a thing. They seem a bit bondagey to me but I've been told by a few people I should plan for potentially wanting them so... I guess I'm going to trust the people that know 😂

                                                                                          BD1791
                                                                                          Most importantly, again. Trust your keyholder! That is the bonding that should matter most.

                                                                                          I wish you a wonderful marriage, and if your equipment leads you there and serves as tokens for your commitment - I guess you have a wonderful story to live. And perhaps, you tell bits of it here, over time.

                                                                                          Sun does not always shine and the oceans can get rough from time to time. May it be worth it!

                                                                                              Owl I wish you a wonderful marriage, and if your equipment leads you there and serves as tokens for your commitment - I guess you have a wonderful story to live.

                                                                                              No need to rush into marriage 😂. Committed relationship is enough for me. I hope to have a wonderful story either way.

                                                                                                  BD1791 I think I'll get them on the neosteel for sure. They are flat so I don't really see a draw back (I say that as someone who has never experienced thigh bands 😂🤣)

                                                                                                  i hope you don't take this too seriously now, i don't really recommend thighbands, but i couldn't save that train of thought for myself 😂

                                                                                                  BD1791 🤷🤷🤷 I don't really know. I didn't really know they were a thing. They seem a bit bondagey to me but I've been told by a few people I should plan for potentially wanting them so... I guess I'm going to trust the people that know 😂

                                                                                                  well, if you have the good d-rings from neosteel at some point, you can always think about it, there's no rush. 😉

                                                                                                  BD1791 No need to rush into marriage 😂. Committed relationship is enough for me. I hope to have a wonderful story either way.

                                                                                                  for that i (and i think the rest of the forum) wish you all the best 😃