Open question

MissBlossom I saw in the survey about whether you should wear a belt since you were single again, several involuntary wearers chose the most strict option, which also puzzled me. I would have expected them to dislike chastity, having had it forced on them, and to vote against it. I think only Christine voted as I would have expected.

May I ask which survey you are referring to?

Angelina

This one Laura

MissBlossom

of course it was not meant for all singles, only for @Renita and at that time it was meant more as a joke (nobody knew that she would soon really wear a belt again).

MissBlossom Then you are asking how could you insist someone wear a chastity belt if they live separately.

Renita
Yes, and it sounds like part of the answer is that she would risk being ostracized by her whole family.

MissBlossom I. Laura case, or in general? I think she is in a relatively unique situation where such a threat is possible.

pestulens think she is in a relatively unique situation where such a threat is possible

@Vanessa was in the same situation

pestulens
I was only talking about @Laura, but obviously other people could be in a similar situation.

Laura I guess it depends on the family. I know if my brother or sister asked us to ostraciz one of their kids over something like that, the rest of us would look at them like they grew s second head.

pestulens
Ah, family

Now if you only could rely on family being always honest.

They might tell you to ostracize them for completely different reasons, that will sound very reasonable to you.
And potentially hard to verify reasons.

Family has the big drawback, from my experience:

• you do not get to pick them.
• they might share your last name with you. (Depending upon how distinctive your family name is, that means you get associated with say a black sheep, if you are unlucky, and said black sheep gains public notoriety.)

Nowhere in this list I see anything that would make family more honest than any random person

Laura The family won't hurt you at least intentionally

George's point is that this may be true of many families, but certainly not of all of them. As he said, you do not get to pick them.

youdontknowme I can say so about mine

George All true, but you do know them. If you have a family member who is untrustworthy, you would know that about them in advance whereas with a random stranger, you don't.

Laura The family won't hurt you at least intentionally

Sorry, I can't confirm that. It depends on the family and it's great if it's like that with you.

Joh Sorry, I can't confirm that. It depends on the family and it's great if it's like that with you.

Eden Knight's family deliberately destroyed her life.
https://socdoneleft.substack.com/p/a-timeline-for-eden-knight

Laura The family won't hurt you at least intentionally

It all depends on what kind of family it is. The family is usually a great support for a person, but there are also various pathologies that can lead to harm.

Andrew

Yes, but it is strange, and bad families have social rejection

Ines Unfortunately, there are many such families. The vast majority of my former professional work consisted in contacts with them - juvenile delinquency does not come out of nowhere, it is usually the result of coming from a dysfunctional family.

Andrew While I wouldn’t call mine dysfunctional, it was the lack of constant oversight that allowed my behavior. But it couldn’t be helped.