Since this discussion has crossed into the fetish area, I will just say..
There is a generally accepted rule (that I have seen a definate pattern with audioguy58 claiming
to go 100% against) OR just saying he is... He might just be doing absolutely nothing except to stir a pot to boiling here.
That rule is - Do not involve others in your fetish activity without their knowledge and consent.
Since there is no fetish police force that will desend on you for breaking that rule... Play at your own risk. Unfortunately if there is an "incident"... You will just make things just a tiny bit more difficult for the others, and vanilla people will just dislike "whatever fetish activity" even more.
(I will now get off my soap box...)