Why do you think masturbation is wrong?
Jonas Further, society only accepts masturbation is normal if it's done in secret.
Private, methinks, is how it should be done. If you force your children to keep their sexuality a secret they are apt to feel it's something to feel guilty about. They will likely feel they cannot discuss it with you and will get their information from other people which is not what many folks here want.
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Kaja Im sorry for you.
I feel exactly the same for you.
I find very disgusting the apology of sexuality in your environment.
I am sure you do not want offend to anyone, as usual, for that your carefully selected words
Kaja your parents use brainwashing
Yes... because a young girl spoiled by sex addition is much better than a girl behaving as is supposed she has... Bless brainwashing, then.
I am grateful everyday of my life for my brainwashing.
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Addressing the original topic, I do not see masturbation as wrong. It is an activity that does little if any harm to others or their property. It can I suppose, like many other human activities, cause harm to the person doing it if they do it to the point where other activities of their lives are impacted, though I suspect this risk is overrated. Most activities done to excess can be harmful, to a greater or lesser degree. Masturbation is one more. I do think if there are partners, then the partner under certain circumstances could be impacted in a negatively emotional way.
In general, masturbation impacts no one other than the masturbator, and thus nobody else's opinion should matter. I say in general because one can always thing of extreme cases - for instance I would not be too keen on the pilot of the airplane as was in, masturbating instead of flying the damned plane!
Ines there are not medical evidences about any benefits of female masturbation.
Then there is certainly no medical evidence of a negative influence or effect when women masturbate.
Ines Relief sexual tension, strength vaginal area, sleep well... are not benefits, since they are small, exist other ways to achieve those, or are unnecessary in most of girls
What speaks in favour of this is the beautiful feeling, which is not achieved by other means.
Ines I share most of thinking of my uncle, but I think that exist another reason, it reinforces the path of behavior, setting and accomplishing the prohibition, it is obvious that all bad behaviors of a sexual nature move away from us.
Since it feels right for you, that's what you should do. I think that's good.
Kaja your parents use brainwashing.
I don't think so. I am convinced that @Ines is very capable of forming an independent opinion.
I was also brought up as a Christian. Nevertheless, I came to the conclusion that there is no God and I am now an atheist. Education may have some influence, but it doesn't have to.
Foxies for instance I would not be too keen on the pilot of the airplane as was in, masturbating instead of flying the damned plane!
Either way he will have his hands on the stick.
Andrew It seems to me that the main benefit in this case is the pleasure derived from stimulation and satisfaction of sexual drive ...
No doubt. Also I've found, before I stopped doing it, at least two other benefits which helped me a lot:
- Achieving sexual release helped me afterwards to concentrate better on other matters, e.g. studying. Of course here on the forum we hear a lot of examples of where masturbation interfered with studying.
- It helped me get in touch with what I needed to do/have done to achieve a satisfactory release, which helped me with partners who did not either know or care (or both) what the girl they were with felt.
Your mileage may vary.
Ines Exactly.
I found a link to a study entitled : "The Role of Masturbation in Healthy Sexual Development". The title implies, I think, that masturbation contributes to healthy sexual development. But reading the study it's more a chronicle of problems: guilt, lack of information, being called a sissy, etc. I'm pretty sex positive but it was interesting reading about all the difficulties many young people had.
I think it was good to learn about myself. I don't need it though - like the want doesn't keep increasing with time.
But yeah - why not? I feel it is cheating myself - I want to only have one guy, I want to be a virgin when married. Just have all of that experience with only my man. Masturbating feels like cheating on that. Maybe if I only ever played with my clit it would be ok but being filled is part if my pleasure and that feels like cheating
From the link..... contradiction of stigma and pleasure. Most of the women reported either still struggling with the contradiction or accepting it as normal.
This is exactly how I felt the whole time I masturbated. But I didn't give it up because stigma - I learnt it was never stigma and more what I posted above