christmas presents

CharInChastity

Amira you agree with your father?

Amira

CharInChastity
Yes, I do agree with him about that. I want to learn to have control about that part of myself.

CharInChastity

Maija wow, that’s horible that your always in thigh bands. I’m starting to regret reading that with my daddy looking over my sholder

Angelina

Amira

interesting gift, i hope you manage it, it could be a pity if you promise too much, think about it carefully

CharInChastity I’m starting to regret reading that with my daddy looking over my sholder

You generally shouldn't do that when you're here on the forum 😂

Amira

Angelina interesting gift, i hope you manage it, it could be a pity if you promise too much, think about it carefully

is there a difference between gift and present? No, I think I won't.

Angelina

Amira is there a difference between gift and present? No, I think I won't.

no, it could have been a language error on my part, somehow i currently have problems writing in english. I mean, you promise to stay in your belt 24/7 until next Christmas, that's a big step and extremely hard, I hope you've thought twice about promising that

Avery

Amira I will give it up because I think that I shouldn't touch myself at all.

Then try giving up touching yourself (without using a belt). That will mean you are pure and chaste. Wearing a belt just means you are a prisoner. There's a gift for your parents.

Ines

Avery

I should say that being "a little prisoner" is far easier be a good girl.
I am not any whore, but I prefer my belt around me.

Avery

Ines I should say that being "a little prisoner" is far easier be a good girl.
I am not any whore, but I prefer my belt around me.

All true. All I am asking her to do is to go one day a week, to renounce the Sunday breaks. Do you feel one day a week is an unreasonable ask if someone truly has a commitment to being pure and chaste (her words)?

Max9

Avery I mean, she has decided to take the step and give up the sunday touching, but she probably also knows that it's very hard to do so on herself, so she is kind of asking them for help. I see nothing wrong about that

Ines

Avery Do you feel one day a week is an unreasonable ask

I can not say It, @Avery, I have not had ever such situation.

Avery

Max9 she probably also knows that it's very hard to do so on herself, so she is kind of asking them for help. I see nothing wrong about that

No, you don't. That's because you've never tried to do anything that's hard.

Max9

Avery what's the matter? Are you ok?

Avery

Ines I can not say It, @Avery, I have not had ever such situation.

@Ines I believe that Amira's experience puts in serious doubt the premise on which many of the posts here rest: that to maintain chastity a female must be in a belt, plus maybe a bra and thigh bands.

She was born in a Muslim country. As far as I know all Muslim countries require young women to be virgins when they marry and I have never read that Muslim girls wear belts. So millions of Muslim women over time put the lie to the idea you need a belt to stay a virgin. I believe if Amira had stayed in her home country she would have succeeded without a belt just like all the others. Why not?

But Amira moves to Europe. Soon she is told that she must wear a belt. What changed? Just the ideas of the people she now lives with. The ideas are wrong. Millions of Muslim women prove it.

Christine

A chastity belt for my mom.

Jonas

Christine I have ordered a belt right after taking her measurements.

This is an remarkable turn-around in your situation. It's also a large investment of cash, so you must be serious.

Christine And I have the belt ready now, so she is going to have fun soon.

....Or quite a frustrating Xmas/New Year.

In topic "christmas presents":

Christine A chastity belt for my mom.

Are you actually going to give it to her as a Christmas present?! 🎁

Christine She only can cancel it for good.

If she refuses or did cancel it for good, it would mean that she could never again try to convince you to wear.

Christine she knows, that no sex is possible with belt on.

It's the times when the belt is off that become the problem. Eventually belts have to be worn 24/7.

Christine She must obey her own rules.

It is absolutely fair.

curious

Avery
What has changed is the society around her.
For all of us there comes a time when we start to look for other role models than our parents and when peer groups have a larger influence on how we behave and see the world. If you live in an Islamic country, the peer group shares the value of chastity until marriage, virginity, e5c
In western countries similar values existed many years ago, but these days this has changed. The new normal (and I a not saying this is good or bad, just stating what is fact) is that about 50% of 16 year olds already have sexual experience and at 18 years only a small minority is still a virgin.
The more your own values deviate from what is considered normal in the overall society, the more difficult it becomes to actually adhere to those values and the more extreme measures to protect the values will be necessary. Hence a strict belt regime is the reaction to a society that is pushing for liberal sex.

Ines

Avery Amira had stayed in her home country she would have succeeded without a belt just like all the others. Why not?

You are right, but I believe that exist 2 main factors:

In one hand, in her country she will remain totally segregated, and reduced to home life. Even in more liberal muslim environment, this works this way.
Secondly, I believe most of girls, muslim or not, would touch theirselves if do not wear a belt.

Girls like you or @Jen are a step above us by virtue.
I think I am not a slut, but I appreciate that my belt is there so I don't have to check it.

Avery

curious The more your own values deviate from what is considered normal in the overall society, the more difficult it becomes to actually adhere to those values and the more extreme measures to protect the values will be necessary. Hence a strict belt regime is the reaction to a society that is pushing for liberal sex.

Certainly, it is more difficult. I have described in detail some steps I have taken to help out like showering in a public place and putting on a belt when I have a weak period at night. And I have talked about the people I run against from Brigham Young University and Liberty where they have taken steps to teach good values and isolate themselves from general society. But they don't wear belts.

Never said it was easy.

Avery

Ines I think I am not a slut

Please don't say things like that. Everyone knows that.

Avery

Ines Secondly, I believe most of girls, muslim or not, would touch theirselves if do not wear a belt.

We will never resolve this disagreement. In countries where what women wear out of the house is controlled by their religious beliefs and people stop to pray five times a day, I don't know. I bet the number is substantially less.

Jen

Ines Girls like you or @Jen are a step above us by virtue.
I think I am not a slut, but I appreciate that my belt is there so I don't have to check it.

Nah you're way more pure than me. like my reason for doing this - it's an excuse I've been telling myself and you guys. I lock myself up every night because I've got a fetish for the belt and for the denial. Like going to sleep with my body screaming at me under the belt is bliss. Wearing my belt is only depressing when I'm not aroused. And during the day any thought of touching - nah I love my "not since 2021" and the looking forward to the belt at night - and like it's easy actually. And it's actually been a year now!!!! Kinda blows my mind lol

Kaja

Amira I think that you do big mistake.

Amira

Kaja I think that you do big mistake.

if it is going to be a mistake then I always can step back out of it. Thank you for genuinely worrying!

Arno

Even it might be somehow off topic, but:
I wish you all a Merry Christmas! And concerned forum members a Merry Chastemas as well. 😀

Ines

Avery Please don't say things like that. Everyone knows that.

Yes, do not worry, I mean that I believe in these values, they are not forced in my, and however, I prefer do not test my weakness.
You and @Jen are different.

curious

Avery
But there is one major difference:
Your values are far less strict than Amira`s. For you, if you fail you start over and just go on.
For her even one slip-up is completely unacceptable. If you have a zero tolerance for failure, of course you will have to take far more extreme measures to ensure that.