Things going wrong with chastity, awkward situations and "fails"
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Damien Consensual unlock procedure, that's an intriguing idea. I'd be curious what the wearers (well the ones who have a say about it, I'll never get used to the concept of involuntary wearers)
Aside from truly abusive situations that the forum is always absolutely against, I think "enforced" chastity really is about the wearer consensually setting up a series of roadblocks between themselves and sexual experience. Even the belt itself is just a means of delaying gratification to the point where sexual decisions can be made with a clear head and in line with the wearer's values and life goals. This may end up being an indefinite, permanent delay, if that's what the wearer wants. The sex drive is powerful, bound up with very strong emotions and has the capacity to overrule reason. A chastity belt just levels the playing field: It allows good decisions to be made and mistakes avoided.
I think @Angelina has written about the idea of a simple time delay between asking for the chastity belt key and receiving it. This seems very sensible to me. I would go further and increase this removal delay so that it always equalled the number of days that the wearer had previously chosen to be in chastity. This would create a cool-down down period that respects both your desire to change and all the days you've been chaste: If you've committed to chastity every day for a week, then you should ask for removal each day for a week... and then be released.
Ofc where safety is concerned this has to overrule all other considerations. Safe-words are therefore necessary but leave a huge security gap that can be exploited by the simplest of cheating: the false claim. Their use really does need to be confined to mental and physical safety as opposed to being allowed to become a "Get out of Chastity-Jail Free" card. The issue then returns to the simple but thorny problem of maintaining consensual activity while impeding the will. Can people consent to giving up consent? I think the existence of police forces suggest that it is possible, but it does require huge checks and balances to prevent abuses.
Things going wrong with chastity, awkward situations and "fails"
Needed to visit doctor. Chastity device lock totally gummed up after 6 or 7 months of permanent wear. Key wouldn't turn. No way. Couldn't cut through the lock with available tools and time. Had to visit doctor wearing.
It was stressful more than embarrassing but it did force me to confront the idea that my chastity is really important to me. Much more important than a bit of stress and embarrassment. Way, way, more important in fact.
The experience also helped me to stop worrying about what other people think!! It is, after all, always very simple really: The response to chastity is like anything else... if people are being nice they'll think something nice, if they're in a mood to be nasty, they'll think something nasty!
Of course, this was all with a smaller chastity device. This Neosteel is a more impressive and shocking bit of kit!! It looks like I've been fitted with a parking-boot/wheel-clamp!!
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Yes indeed Neosteel chastity belts really are things of beauty. I chose unpolished, functional, with a big lock so I'm not really complaining!!
But a lock that fails to open is very disappointing. Was it one of those chinese copper cylindric insert locks?
It was a lower quality small padlock and I'd neglected to maintain it at all. It did however, in situ, put up far more of a fight than I expected it to! Well done little padlock! I salute you!!
Damien On the other hand, this Australian girl never had her own emergency key, so I found (and still find) it adequate that she could safeword out immediately any time, with the questions discussed only after the safe has opened. It was just - surprising!
i think the scenario is clear. there was a safeword and you both knew what it meant, so there is no more discussion. if the safeword is used, you have to grant access to the release, everything else is no longer your responsibility.
Damien Sounds like a less-than-ideal outcome, but hopefully she is happy with her decision.
Nothing you could have done ethically once the safeword came out, that is a line that should never be crossed.
I haven't written anything here for a while and only read along sporadically. But I can contribute an anecdote to this topic.
It was certainly 4-5 years ago. We were on vacation. I was also 'allowed' to wear thigh bands. One evening we were eating in a very good restaurant. However, even the toilet doors were so stylish that I was probably overwhelmed with the locking mechanism. Anyway, a lady burst into my toilet box, while I just hovered over the toilet bowl, struggling with skirt and thigh bands to eliminate the remains of my little business. I was apparently table talk between her and her date for the rest of the evening. But no matter. I never saw the lady again. So what.
My fail was Movie World. Wasn't planned but thought I'd be ok. DC Rivals is great!!!! And no problem with belt it's a really smooth ride. Scooby was horrible - the seat is like moulded to legs and there's a bump so the belt shield is right up against the bump and the ride is so glitchy it bruised me. Was dared for Superman too and it was ok - just had to sit up and keep my butt tight so belt wasn't against the seat. But yeah after Scooby I was done that was the fail.
i'm sorry to hear that. i've ridden roller coasters with a belt myself and i have to say that my experiences of comfort are also very different. the belt systems are always designed differently because it's about safety, i don't think anyone will have tested how well you can ride with a chastity belt beforehand.
Damien If I had only worn a KG, she probably wouldn't have even noticed. But the chain between my thighs was probably not to explain.
Anyway, I discussed with my husband years ago how we react in such cases. So far, little to nothing has happened. This was the biggest "incident" so far. And since it took place in a foreign place with foreign people who didn't even speak our language, our doctrine was and is to ignore and proceed as if it were a matter of course.
