How much do you think about quitting?
Jen
Don't make the mistake of letting fear guide your decisions. That goes not only for chastity belts but for pretty much everything in life.
Ask yourself: "What are the values I stand for?" or "What do I want to be / become?"
If your answer is for example: I want to stay in chastity until my wedding no matter what happens or how tempted I get to change my mind later, then go for a strict belting and discuss explicitely that you do not want an option to change your mind later. It might be hard, but we are amazing creatues when it comes to adapting to circumstances we cannot change.
If you do not follow through with what you really believe in because you are scared of how it will be, you will most likely regret it later, because you are not following your true self but just fears and temptations.
My step daughter wanted to quit many times though now is committed to wearing.
Sorry for butting in. 
Jonas The keyholder is there to enact the wearer's will, where that will is temporary blotted out the by sex drive.
That's a very interesting thought. Guess it doesn't really make a difference to the point, but how many wearers woke up one day and decided, they need metal underwear with a lock.
I started wearing mine for my girlfriend. And while I still keep telling myself I am only doing it for her, I often find putting it on myself voluntarily, when I get a "holiday". Weirdly I feel safer and calmer wearing it most of the time. For me until yesterday, I felt always in control of it, as I knew where the spare keys are.
Now that I have lost the control, my brain is playing a different movie. And I am in two minds if I prefer this actually. Or really really hate it. As it means I have no choice than accepting that I can't take it off without jumping through a new set of hoops.
@Jen do you think, losing the control of being able to decide to quitt would help? I mean without proving to the keyholder, that you are 101% sure this is the end of it and not just a moodswing?
KarimM you can manage two unlocked girls? 
My girlfriend would probably tell you that I am a handful for any human being belted or unbelted 
But interesting question. Dunno. I would be scared like hell no matter how long or short you set it. But on the other hand it means no begging, blackmailing, tantrums (well, probably still some tantrums) when I really really want to get out for no serious reason.
Curious though why you think you can't handle two belted women?
KarimM are the women in your house not allowed to take care of the cleaning themselves?
And I am sure you would still have conversations with your daughter, if she wasn't belted. The life of a teenager is a rollercoaster ride no matter what. Don't envy any parents with teenagers. (My mum would probably be proud and jealous of Ann for getting me into that fancy underwear. 
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Zoe Sorry for butting in.
No problems! I'm really glad you've started talking on here again, I found your initial experiences really fascinating.
Jonas The keyholder is there to enact the wearer's will, where that will is temporary blotted out the by sex drive.
That's a very interesting thought. Guess it doesn't really make a difference to the point, but how many wearers woke up one day and decided, they need metal underwear with a lock.
People tend to do a double take when they see a chastity belt. They laugh or are a bit shocked at the idea and then they move on ...but some for some of us the idea kinda sticks. It intrigues, it fits, it somehow feels right.
I often find putting it on myself voluntarily, when I get a "holiday". Weirdly I feel safer and calmer wearing it most of the time.
Yep. That's the kind of feeling! I feel the same. In my 20s I would have thought of a belt a as a fetish item, but now I see it's part of who I am, who I want to be. I feel better with my belt and I act better too.
For me until yesterday, I felt always in control of it, as I knew where the spare keys are.
Yes, ofc. That's a big step up. Not a game any more. You lie there and it hits you that you really cannot take off the belt and the realisation can hit you like a plank of wood.
It can feel so stressful, so frustrating and even makes me panicky on times but, for me at least, there is always this strong undercurrent that chastity enforced by a belt, is right for me.
¯_(ツ)_/¯ Okay, if that's who I am, then fine. That is who I should be.
Jonas
It can feel so stressful, so frustrating and even makes me panicky on times but, for me at least, there is always this strong undercurrent that chastity enforced by a belt, is right for me.
¯(ツ)/¯ Okay, if that's who I am, then fine. That is who I should be.
Thanks for your replies. I really really needed that today.
I hardly slept the last few days. It is freaking weird. Just a tiny detail has changed. It's not that I took off the belt whenever Ann wasn't there. Just knowing I have the option to end it whenever I want to was more than enough.
We talked about why I took it off. But there was no real good reason. I just felt like it.
Anyhoo, I am sure I'll get used to it. And until then, I "suffer silently" and curse the weekend in those stupid thighbands I earned myself. (Knowing me, I still haven't learned my lesson and will do stupid things soon again. On the upside, they pink too and look cute on me 
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I love your attitude and hope one day I will be this strong as well.
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Zoe Thanks for your replies. I really really needed that today.
I hardly slept the last few days. It is freaking weird. Just a tiny detail has changed.
Oh no! Losing access to the key isn't a tiny detail, it's massive!! 
And it's only when you actually want the belt off, (for whatever reason), that the penny finally drops: I. CANT. TAKE. THIS. BELT. OFF.
You're right, it's powerful stuff, chastity. The realisation can hit like a freight train, ...but, in the end, being out of control of the belt just another thing you get used to.
We talked about why I took it off. But there was no real good reason. I just felt like it.
I'm not a keyholder but if I were I'd treat this as a clear case of fighting the belt. Too many of these in a row and chastity becomes a game and then becomes a memory. Thigh bands were a good response, sorry to say.
On the upside, they pink too and look cute on me
Yay! That's the spirit! 
I love your attitude and hope one day I will be this strong as well.
I can really see your (currently) conflicted feelings on chastity in your posts:
Zoe ...as screwed up (as) it is that I am wearing metal underwear...
I am just super embarrassed that I am wearing one.
I would die a thousand death.
Vs...
My girlfriend would probably tell you that I am a handful for any human being belted or unbelted
It means no begging, blackmailing, tantrums
I used to try to push my girlfriend whenever I felt the urge. Getting grumpy and moody when she wasn't in the mood.
I hope this resolves one way or the other sooner rather than later, so that if you proceed you can get to the really good bit where you are happy and proud to wear your belt and you can allow the people who you want to know the real you to know.
This may seem impossibly difficult because of the nature of the restriction: You aren't just telling others that you have metal underwear, you're also revealing that you are often thinking about, or acting on sexual impulses. This is a lot of information to give away.
Thankfully there are two things in your favour: 1) Kindly friends and family will always think the best of you no matter what and 2) People are generally only mildly interested in other's lives. In my experience there's generally a bit of a reaction, then they just accept the information and forget about it.
In general terms; it seems to me that chastity works very well both for people who want to avoid sex and for people who are highly sexual. The latter seems to be a contradiction until, well, until you're in that situation.
If your sex drive is different from your partner (or if you are just a total horndog) a chastity belt can even things up... while making the wearer feel like they are constantly having sex and never feeling rejected, neglected or dejected.
The internal monologue might go something like: "I want sex right now!!, [stamps foot!] ...but I've been given this wonderfully expensive belt to help me to wait until a more appropriate time. I feel safe, secure and looked after. Someone on the planet understands me, knows what I need and cares enough to give it to me".
My mum would probably be proud and jealous of Ann for getting me into that fancy underwear
If you are sure this is true, then you should tell her! Let her feel proud and jealous/respectful of Ann's idea...
If you do want to move forward... Forget about that key, that's not your business! Concentrate on welding your chastity belt into your self-image! Chastity rocks! It's cool. It's of constant interest. It's better than getting all the (too much) sex you want. If a chastity belt is a good fit, then wear it with pride!
Jonas "I want sex right now!!, [stamps foot!] ...but I've been given this wonderfully expensive belt to help me to wait until a more appropriate time. I feel safe, secure and looked after. Someone on the planet understands me, knows what I need and cares enough to give it to me".
Was my brain on loudspeaker again ?
Why do you have to say all the right words at the right time? Are you and Ann siblings?
You are an amazing guy. Hope you know this.
I really noticed how wearing that belt has changed me. And I am determined not to give up before I am 101% certain that's the end of that road.
Just wish the inner voices would shut up.
I won't introduce you to Ann though. You both combined would be too much of a force and probably push me to do things that are good for me. Who the heck wants this? `
Have the suspicion she is already plotting the next step. We just chose and ordered a dress for me together, that I am only allowed to wear with the thighbands on. Funny feeling I will need to wear them in public soon. Well, guess we all know, I'll do something to deserve them not too far in the future and we can't sit at home every time just because of that.
And you are right, adding the thighbands the last few days, were the right call. Just don't tell Ann I said this. 
Don't tell her either, that I really think, she has been right with the belt right from the start, pleeeease. I just need a wee bit more time.
Thanks so much for being here at the right time!
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Aw, you know it too! Listen to yourself...
I want to wear it for her.
I don't mind or even enjoy wearing it.
I feel safe and protected...
I often find putting it on myself voluntarily, when I get a "holiday"
Weirdly I feel safer and calmer wearing it most of the time.
I won't introduce you to Ann though. You both combined would be too much of
a force and probably push me to do things that are good for me.
Who the heck wants this? `
Lol. I know. I know. I did the right thing once and now I'm much happier, healthier and even more committed to my relationship than ever.
Have the suspicion she is already plotting the next step.
Ah, never a dull day in chastity!! Public bathrooms always still present a challenge. Are you wearing 24/7 at this point?
We just chose and ordered a dress for me together, that I am only allowed to wear with the thighbands on.
Sounds good.
Adding the thighbands the last few days, were the right call. Just don't tell Ann I said this.
She knows. I'm sure she knows.
Don't tell her either, that I really think, she has been right with the belt right from the start, pleeeease.
I just need a wee bit more time.
Ah, but to my mind you're wasting time that you could be spending in full chastity!!
For the right person, a chastity belt is a constant, loving, hug from their partner. Why wouldn't anyone want this?! 
Thanks so much for being here at the right time!
I'm here because my own belt prevents me wasting time on other things!!
Just wish the inner voices would shut up.
Doubts. Body fighting the belt. Unresolved feelings. They are all valid, but you get to choose which to listen to! Good luck!!
You are an amazing guy. Hope you know this.
Ofc.
Jonas Are you wearing 24/7 at this point?
Pretty much. I get a break during "the time of the month", when i am sick, traveling or serious reasons that would make it a real challenge. Every other month i get 2 days "holiday" i can freely chose. But only in advance. So no way to use it when i feel really desperate. Otherwise it is Anns call.
I can earn myself extra time off though by wearing the thighbands voluntarily. But those brownie points are being reset the moment they go on because i did something stupid.
Until now there were the odd days i granted myself an extra few hours break without permission. Didn't really keep a note how often. Might be more than i would admit. :s
Somehow i am happy i was so stupid and careless. Just getting to terms with the new phase will be a bit of a challenge.
I really enjoyed, when Ann suggested buying a dress together and we spent cuddling browsing for it. It won't be pretty getting me through the door the first time. x)
Zoe Pretty much.
Yep, it sounds like you've made huge progress while you've been away.
I can earn myself extra time off though by wearing the thighbands voluntarily.
Do they increase the security of your belt or are they simply more restrictive?
i did something stupid.
there were the odd days i granted myself an extra few hours break without permission.
I can see why the time has come for the key to be out of your reach.
Somehow i am happy i was so stupid and careless. Just getting to terms with the new phase will be a bit of a challenge.
Let the lock worry about the chastity and work to transform all your feelings into positive ones. This is an epic change and you are showing amazing strength, trust and forbearance.
I really enjoyed, when Ann suggested buying a dress together and we spent cuddling browsing for it.
Lovely!!
It won't be pretty getting me through the door the first time. x)
I am jealous. Seriously. This sounds intense, and with the right attitude big fun. Book a hotel and wear the dress and bands to dinner?
Jonas Do they increase the security of your belt or are they simply more restrictive?
Well, they tick a couple of boxes.
Yes, they definitely make the belt more secure, since the movement of your legs (spreading them) is massively hampered. (If someone knows a trick here, please teach me 
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Further you are limited to skirts and dresses (or sporting your underwear openly). Depends on what you prefer, but pants are just a lot easier on so many levels. (We are not here for having it easy though lol. Ann loves when I wear skirts and dresses. So I guess that's a bit her taking advantage of the situation as well )
3rd I am a "leg crosser" when sitting. No chance, doing that with those on. Apparently it improves my posture. Not sure about that though.
And last but not is a constant reminder of my belt.
Oh so love the idea of a weekend and dinner. Thank you ! But feels like this is a trap so I can't chicken out . Still I love that one and showed to Ann (I got a funny feeling I just made another stupid mistake this week 
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Have a good night 
Zoe Yes, they definitely make the belt more secure
Ann loves when I wear skirts and dresses. So I guess that's a bit her taking advantage of the situation as well
Am glad there's something in it for Ann in addition to it being additional security and a constant reminder for you!
3rd I am a "leg crosser" when sitting. No chance, doing that with those on. Apparently it improves my posture. Not sure about that though.
KarimM It does improve the sittng posture of my girls.
That's a really interesting point. I guess my belt improves my posture too. I hadn't really thought about it. Excellent!
And last but not is a constant reminder of my belt.
This is a good thing. Helps you to see the chastity belt as a form of constant sex, rather than none.
Oh so love the idea of a weekend and dinner. Thank you
Yep. It is. Big fun though. Leave keys at home. Don't need those silly things. Just have a lovely dinner and cuddle with Ann and tv on bed afterwards.
Still I love that one and showed to Ann
You clearly want this life. Go for it!!