@Ines why have my discussions gotten locked?
Discussions got locked?
from keyholder welcome thread: “…some discussions of voluntary wearing by older teenagers may be suitable…”
I am surprised how decisively they are getting closed too, but (outside of non-consent) if there is one thing we would like to avoid it is sexually charged messages involving a minor's chastity.
youdontknowme I understand, but it is voluntary, and I am an older teenager, and the keyholder welcome thread says that older teenagers are allowed.
It is going very fast.
Yes, spicy messages of a guessed minor are not allowed here.
Ines I’m asking a question/help
@Laura has answered you clearly.
jackstruble Dear Jack, if you're a voluntary wearer: we recommend to stop wearing chastity devices as they are not healthy for younger persons.
jackstruble "Some discussions may be suitable" does not mean anything goes.
I am not going to tell you to stop or keep going, but be realistic with your goals. Being able to go from free to 24/7 lockup is a fantasy straight out of adult fiction. If it gets painful, take it off. If you want to spend less time on sexual things, distraction works better than denial. And you can always become a "good boy" once you are old enough that someone can appreciate that sort of stuff.
Damien Thank you for your concern, but it is going to help me.
youdontknowme I’m determined for it to work well to make me more focused.
youdontknowme What I mean by good boy is focused on my studies instead of wanking all the time.
jackstruble I am afraid chastity devices do not work like that. Denying yourself access to body parts just means you will spend the time you would have spent on sexual stimulation fighting against the cage instead. Maybe even more time, because there is nothing that tells you your play session is finished, if you catch my drift. If you want to use chastity as a way to focus, it has to start in the brain before it extends to your lower body, not vice-versa.
youdontknowme How do I combine both then? Both mentally and with chastity cage?
jackstruble If you cannot keep you hands off yourself without a cage for a few hours, you should look into counseling, not cages. Try to mentally commit yourself to not touching yourself (or watching / reading materials unsuitable for your age) before you are done with homework first. Trying to exercise your willpower will get you farther than locking yourself up.
youdontknowme Yeah, so the cage is a reminder for me to focus on something else.
Not at cost of your health.
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jackstruble I think cages make a great reminder in that regard, but I am not going to recommend you to wear one at your age, particularly if you are having pain wearing it.
Use it however you like. You may find that it gets easier to wear over time, but do not expect to be wearing it all day right away without major discomfort (and if you experience major discomfort or pain, take it off to give yourself time to heal).
And definitely try to work on your willpower without it as well. You may find that the cage reminds you more of your body parts themselves than your commitment not to touch them.
And by all means, do not give the key to a stranger, especially while you are still a minor.
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youdontknowme
Do you know how long it will take for it to get easier? There is a little bit of discomfort but I found that a little lotion helps it. I think that being locked in the cage and working on willpower is good for me. I’m doing this myself so I’m not giving the key to anyone yet. It also helps because I’m now cut and the cage stops it from rubbing and annoying me throughout the day.