Introductions

Kaushal

Welcome!

It would be good if she writes here,too,yes.

Tobbe

I agree.

Kaushal We talked and I told her that I would not stand for her to do that while we are married and I would put her in a belt to make sure if we ever got engaged.

If she hasn't agreed,you would not get engaged with her until she accepts,or break-up with her if you're sure she would never agree?Or you would have not liked it,but accepted her decision,and still get engaged?

Kaushal She wasn't happy at all, but when we got engaged a few weeks later she still agreed, knowing that this would be a condition.

So a semi-reluctant wearer?Not wanting it,but accepting it to get engaged with you?

Kaushal We can still put it on again afterwards.

So,she would have to wear it often after your marriage?

Jonas Since your fiancee is used to free access, she has given you a great gift of trust. In addition she has committed herself to managing and tolerating the daily demands of wearing a chastity belt. I hope you can both become happy and proud of your choice.

It would be hard for her,especially if it was allowed for her before...

Jonas Yes ....with time again to allow for re-adaption.

I think it is quicker to be able to wear it after we had already trained,even with a long break between two wearing.

Kaushal I have been with other women before, though not that many. I do believe there is a gender difference here though, if you are insinuating a little hypocracy on my part.

Don't you think it is a bit unfair that you have dated other women,but think she would have been wrong to have dated anyone else before?Is it the same for self-pleasure?

Kaushal sometimes women forget to see the longtime picture and emotionally live in the moment

Depend on each people.

Angelina

Right!

Vanessa If she hasn't agreed,you would not get engaged with her until she accepts,or break-up with her if you're sure she would never agree?Or you would have not liked it,but accepted her decision,and still get engaged?

Vanessa So a semi-reluctant wearer?Not wanting it,but accepting it to get engaged with you?

I guess you could call i that. She was told this was a precondition first and I proposed a few weeks later. We only really discussed it afterwards. And since she couldn't really come up with good reasons why her fingers or somebody else still needed access down there, it was decided.

Vanessa So,she would have to wear it often after your marriage?

As said before, she hasn't come up with a good reason why not. As long as I am at home she can take it of multiple times a day for showering, toilet etc.

Vanessa Don't you think it is a bit unfair that you have dated other women,but think she would have been wrong to have dated anyone else before?Is it the same for self-pleasure?

I guess it is unfair. But my point stands, women value competence, maturity, confidence in a man, which you only get from experience. So I am pretty sure she would prefer me over a boy that has been locked into a chastity cage from the age of 12 by his mother. But contrairy men, and I am generalising here, don't like overexperienced women, they prefer young, beautiful, chaste and innocent women. Everybody knows that! That is why women always downplay the number of previous sexual partners and men always upplay it. Because it makes them more attractive to their opposite.

There is a good biological reason for this too. Long lasting pairbonding in a women get's severly hampered after a few sexual partners, because women (in comparison to men) pairbond when they engage in sex. I can back this up with a few studies if anyone is interested. Afaik one non marital partner in a women is statistically an equivalent divorce risk to 25 previous non marital partners in a man. So what I wanna say is, yes, it might be unfair, but it's not men who made it unfair, it is just how humans work.

As for self pleasure you can basically make the same argument (pairbonding during sex), but there is actual health detriments if a man foregoes ejaculation, this doesn't exist to be true in a woman. Keeping her pure has therefore very beneficial effects on a longterm relationship.

So the "truths" that people have developed over millenia due to natural sellection and are now considered conservativ, religious etc. actually have their bases in solid science.

Hi. I'm happy I found this forum. I Hope to find some advices and informations here.
Some infos about me. I'm Eva, 36 years old mom with one daughter.

Eva Hello!

Hi,
maybe, it´s difficult situation... Better describe it somewhere in a close topic...

Kaushal
Agree.

Eva
If it is important for describing your situation here, other way, put the story in adequate thread.
Wellcome, and remember read the rules.

Laura I
used existing one

Eva

Welcome @Hanka!

Ines

Personally,I don't!

Hello!

SummerNight I dream to find a woman who would entrust with the keys to her heart (and her chastity belt)

You've certainly come to the right place.

SummerNight more and more I find kindness to be the most important aspect of a person

Lovely! I wish you the very best of luck with your quest.

@SummerNight , Wellcome.
Read the rules and feel yourself comfortable here.

Angelina I read a bit in the Flarum documentation. There are methods about users (e. g. user search), but I could not find until now any function or similar which would fetch/list all users. It's a pity, since I got the impression some users do not exist anymore. I. e., when I remember correctly, clicking on such a orphaned user name results into a blank webpage.

SummerNight

welcome to the forum, your wish is understandable. maybe you have the chance to meet someone through the forum

Arno

well, it also makes a difference whether a user is active here or only passive. i haven't read anything from some users for a very long time but i know that they are still online quite often

Joh who voluntarily wear a chastity belt for their partner

I qualify for that

Welcome

holy moly ... so many new members here ... must be due to corona and lockdow