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Introductions
This will answer a few questions. Laura, you asked if I wore the accessories during my engagement. Yes, as I'll explain.
Vanessa asked about the second reason for the belt. I'm not sure this will make sense to anyone but me, but here it is: Once I said yes, he saw me in a new light. I wasn't just another girlfriend he was living with. I was to be his wife and, by tradition, I should come to the altar pure and virginal. The virginal part wasn't possible, but having me spend our engagement pure was as close as could be arranged under the circumstances.
The locked belt was his way of accomplishing it. The accessories - thighbands, chastity bras, and some other things - he used them all at different times to ensure that everything was out reach, depending on the the circumstances.
He is a very thoughtful lover and, prior to our engagement, we had a very active and completely satisfying sex life. Putting that on hold was a most unwelcome change. Being kept absolutely pure was absolutely hell. For the first several months, it was so frustrating I thought I would go mad. It was a long engagement and felt even longer.
I can't say I came to the altar as a virgin, but when the time finally came, I arrived with only a very distant and vague memory of an orgasm. When my maid of honor laced me into my wedding gown, I felt as almost as innocent of vaginal sex as a proverbial convent girl. The apparatus worked as intended. Our honeymoon was amazing.
Sara, you asked about rules and protocols. The rules are simple: he makes them, I follow them. For the most part, it's impossible for me not to follow them. As for protocols, I'm not sure I understand. Are there any specific questions you have?
Retina, you asked about my belt wardrobe. I have several. I dread the thought of a UTI, so I keep everything scrupulously clean. I don't understand why someone thought the dishwasher was amusing, it's the best way I know. The dishwasher cleans and drys. Followed with a careful alcohol wipe and the belt is completely disinfected. If someone knows a better way, please tell me.
Mary I don't understand why someone thought the dishwasher was amusing, it's the best way I know
It is very popular. Specially in @strictfather home.
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Mary Putting that on hold was a most unwelcome change. Being kept absolutely pure was absolutely hell. For the first several months, it was so frustrating I thought I would go mad. It was a long engagement and felt even longer.
I assume he still had the key and could open you anytime. The last step could be to hand the key to somebody else as one my friend did
Mary I can't say I came to the altar as a virgin, but when the time finally came, I arrived with only a very distant and vague memory of an orgasm. When my maid of honor laced me into my wedding gown, I felt as almost as innocent of vaginal sex as a proverbial convent girl. The apparatus worked as intended. Our honeymoon was amazing.
Did you ever regret you were not a real virgin on your wedding?
Mary Sara, you asked about rules and protocols. The rules are simple: he makes them, I follow them. For the most part, it's impossible for me not to follow them. As for protocols, I'm not sure I understand. Are there any specific questions you have?
I mean in my family the woman have several strict rules, like not spending money without permission, not going out without permission and a weekly maintenance session with maintenance spanking on sunday. The rules in my boyfriend's family are also very strict but a bit different. For example they don't do maintenance but back talking is handled much stricter then in my family. In both families it's common to wear at least chastity belt. Most probably for me a chastity belt and a chastity bra will be in place for me. But at least it looks like I then don't have to wear my tightbands anymore. Actually I have to wear them 24/7.
You said you have to wear chastity bra and tightbands while your husband is on business trips. How long is it usually and what do you have to to during this time, like going to work or something like that.
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James I understand what @Ines wanted to say 
Nobody here, but @strictfather uses dishwashers. Just because we don't have spare belts.
But he uses it in his imagination only 
However if it works, spare belt is a great idea. There is another beauty of spare belts, if a girl gets her belt broken it will be replaced instantly
I agree;she should have quit the relationship when it was forced,if she didn't want it.
Mary I'm happily married
It's the main point.If you're happy like it,it is ok.
Mary The used belt goes into the dishwasher and I put on a fresh, clean one.
It doesn't damage it?
Mary The biggest problem I have is with the thighbands and chastity bra when he goes on business trips. When I'm wearing only the belt, I can do my cardio and pilates. But when he has me wearing accessories, that becomes impossible. So when he's out of town I can't exercise. I don't like those down times.
How long does it last,generally?
Lea Yes I am afraid of it :/
Let's hope it won't happen.You'll know it soon,anyway.
Ines But for sure @strictfather will be glad with it.
Welcome!
So,you accepted it reluctantly?
Renita Epidemic of chastity belts recently
To be able to wear it often/permanently when the hot times come back.People tend to be more "sexual" in Spring or Summer,I think.
Amira No, they don't require me to wear it permanent, at least not yet. My stepdad says it would be the easiest but I disagree. I said that I need time without it for cleaning and other things. Mom agreed with me that I can not wear it without breaks.
So,you still have some influence on it?
Amira Umm, no one so far said any word about masturbation so I think they have it not on their mind that I do it. I think I better not ask about it. What do you think?
If you have to use the secondary shield,it is partly for it,I think(even if it can prevents some sort of sex,too).
Nataly I was told i am going to wear it till marriage
and no breaks, have it all the time on me.
Sorry for you!
Ok,I can understand his idea,even if I find it a bit extreme,especially if the engagement was long...I understand it was awful to not be able to have sex with him,if you were used to(it happened to me when used as a punishment,unable to have sex with my boyfriend/girlfriend anymore,but it was for some weeks).
I imagine the honeymoon was wonderful,however.
Laura I assume he still had the key and could open you anytime. The last step could be to hand the key to somebody else as one my friend did
He probably could open her belt but didn't want to.
Laura Did you ever regret you were not a real virgin on your wedding?
Good question.
Angelina i'm not worried in winter with you
Why?
Laura if a girl gets her belt broken
It should not happen often...
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Vanessa He probably could open her belt but didn't want to.
Honestly, can't imagine it
Vanessa It should not happen often...
@BikelockFugitive wouldn't agree
Sara, his business trips vary in length, from overnight to more than a week. During those times, I use the shower head very carefully. It doesn't get in there properly, but it's the best I can do. I also take Keflex as a prophylaxis. I dislike taking antibiotics, but it's preferable to the potential UTI. As for work in thighbands and a chastity bra, that requires some camaflouge. I routinely wear pencil skirts and a blouse, a jacket top or blazer and heels. I look good in them, so that's no sacrifice. I choose structured tops, close-fitting skirts, and stilettos. Since that's what I always wear all the time, it creates no outwardly observable change when I'm also wearing a chastity bra and thighbands. A leather top is particularly helpful in disguising a rigid bra.
We do not have a weekly spanking session to punish me, or anything of that nature. I've read Fifty Shades (dull; couldn't finish it) and I know what a flogger is, at least in theory. But that is not us. Our marriage is not about his punishing me for breaking rules.
For most part, it's not possible for me to break the rules. It's like the belt, which I wear faithfully, because there is no way on earth I can take it off. Spending money inappropriately is impossible, since I have no cash and my credit card is set up so he has to approve every transaction. Going out without permission is not an issue. The pencil skirts have no kick pleat and so limit my stride that I can't walk more than a couple of blocks. My Uber is his account, so I can't ride to a place he doesn't want me to. So where would I go without permission? I don't break his rules because I can't.
Laura, yes, I do regret not being intact on my wedding day. Considering my family and peer group that woud have been like growing a snowman in Death Valley. My mother gave me birth control pills when I was 16. I was in no hurry to use them since my boyfriend was sweet, but incredibly shy, and never moved below my waist. My best friend was the last other holdout in our group and, when she lost hers, I felt I had to. So we did it ... and the earth did not move. Now I'm sorry I didn't wait for Paul to be the one and, especially, that I did not wait for my wedding day. His reaction is that of a typical guy, "We did what we could.", but I feel a loss.