Dating a belted girl (or boy)

Milord

Susan thank you for your answer. Appreciated

Joh

Susan How does your BF See it?

Susan

Joh He understands it and knows why I have to wear it, but he wishes I didn't.

Angelina

with you, the situation is a bit more complicated. i don't even think the belt is the biggest problem, but the fact that you are in a long-distance relationship for most of the year.

Susan I was glad it was there to keep me from doing things I shouldn't be doing as i know I would regret them.

your aunt will disagree with me, but i think for what he accepts (long distance relationship+chastity belt), he has actually proven himself very worthy of having sex with you in the near future, he seems to really love you 🙂

Avery

Angelina your aunt will disagree with me, but i think for what he accepts (long distance relationship+chastity belt), he has actually proven himself very worthy of having sex with you in the near future, he seems to really love you 🙂

I apologize if other people are getting tired of me (I am) but this is outrageous.

You are dangerous.

@Jenna

Susan

Angelina with you, the situation is a bit more complicated. i don't even think the belt is the biggest problem, but the fact that you are in a long-distance relationship for most of the year.

It is hard not to have him around, but in some ways it is easier because when he is around he wants to fool around and that just makes it harder. I hope that makes sense.

Angelina your aunt will disagree with me, but i think for what he accepts (long distance relationship+chastity belt), he has actually proven himself very worthy of having sex with you in the near future, he seems to really love you

You are 100% right. She thinks it is best to wait...

Ines

Avery

I do not understand your point in this sentence, @Avery.

Avery

Ines I do not understand your point in this sentence, @Avery.

Is she not telling a minor it is OK to have sex with her boyfriend in direct contradiction to the wishes of her legal guardian?

curious

Avery
If I did follow things correctly, Susan and her Bf are both over 18. So what is your issue with this?

Avery

curious If I did follow things correctly, Susan and her Bf are both over 18. So what is your issue with this?

Perhaps @Susan is over eighteen. I still think it is not appropriate to tell someone who remains the responsibility of someone else to have sex with someone when we know the person responsible has such strong feelings about it.

At any rate I am certain @Susan will discuss it with @Jenna before proceeding. That is the adult thing to do.

And this is a serious matter, so don't f around with it.

Ines

Avery

Agree. I will not ever advise about to have or not to have to someone that is not my friend and I have a deep knowledge about the relationship.
Further it is a chastity forum, so "IN GENERAL" I think that before marriage sex is a shame.

Kaja

Avery Nobody other has right to decide. Only the partners.
Opinion of parents etc is totaly irelevant if you are older that age of consent

curious

Avery

While I see your point on this issue, don't you think you are a bit inconsistent in your position?
First you argue that @Jenna is wrong in belting her nieces.
Thenn @Angelina observes, that a young man continues to date @Susan despite having a long distance relationship for much of the time and despite not having been able to have sex with her. To my mind, this shows he is not superficial and really interested in her as a person and not just quick sex. Or in other words, that this could be considered a stable and ongoing relationship. According to @Jenna the condition for being allowed to have sex. So when @Angelina points to that this is wrong again? Why?

And if you give @Angelina the benefit of the doubt (that she is who she claims to be) then she is roughly the same age as @Susan. Two girls talking about at which stage in a relationship sex should be allowed. I don't think this is neither unusual nor wrong.

Susan

Avery Just so we are clear I am 19 as is my BF.

AJ and I have talked about this at length. She does not think I am ready for sex and wants me to be in committed, long term relationship. She does know that we do other things, but thinks conventional sex is out of the question, at least until we have been together for longer. She would prefer I wait until marriage, but that is something we talk about.

Milord

Ines according to my view it has been a pretty innocent remark on someone that talked about her situation
My 2 cents

Ines Further it is a chastity forum, so "IN GENERAL" I think that before marriage sex is a shame.

But it is a personal opinion. There are people here that do sex outside a marriage. And they don't seems to be ashamed by this

Ines

Milord But it is a personal opinion

Well, but an usual opinion in a "chastity" forum. Obviously I respect to everyone, but that is my opinion.

Avery

Kaja Opinion of parents etc is totaly irelevant if you are older that age of consent

I'm certain Jenna would not cast her out if she went ahead with this. But some parents might. And, where I live, if she is over 18, they no longer legally need to support her. So what does she do? Go to a homeless shelter? Another relative? To the BF and ask him to support her? No. In real life you cannot do things that might alienate yourself from your family.

Let me add what if she got pregnant? Doubt she's been given birth control.

Jenna

Avery The girls know I would never "cast them out" under any circumstances. Yes my stance is strict, I understand that and I know many don't agree with it. I will always support them no matter what, they know that.

youdontknowme

Avery This endangers the girl's relationship with her guardian. The guardian who said in her second post she has considerable financial control over the girls.

Avery I'm certain Jenna would not cast her out if she went ahead with this. But some parents might.

It feelslike you are implyimg a certain degree of lip service there.

Kaja

Avery Cast out? It will not be parents and familly but dangerous psychopats

Avery

curious While I see your point on this issue, don't you think you are a bit inconsistent in your position?

Jenna does not want her nieces to have sex. That is clear. Lots of parents/guardians feel that way. But she has put them in belts and I don't believe this is a truly mutual decision. Do you? So I think the belting is wrong. You can agree or disagree on that.

Then we have a person coming along and telling her to go ahead even though that person recognizes Jenna does not want this. This endangers the girl's relationship with her guardian. The guardian who said in her second post she has considerable financial control over the girls. Angelina telling her to go ahead is no different that Kaja saying the parents have no say. It's irresponsible. You can't just go ahead and ignore your family without consequences, just because your girlfriends say you should.

I'm assuming, by the way, that this is a real-life situation. Not some kind of academic argument. You can't just do what you want because it's legal.

Kaja

Avery WTF 🤣

Jenna

Avery Then we have a person coming along and telling her to go ahead even though that person recognizes Jenna does not want this. This endangers the girl's relationship with her guardian. The guardian who said in her second post she has considerable financial control over the girls.

Not to beat a dead horse here, but I have backed off that position considerably, as you well know. I have apologized profusely for my past deeds and actions. Yes it is my preference that they avoid sex, but belt wearing is only successful of both parties agree. We are all in a better place now.

Angelina

Susan You are 100% right. She thinks it is best to wait...

For you and Jenna I'll explain my post again because otherwise I'm afraid it could be misunderstood. Your boyfriend accepts a long-distance relationship and the chastity belt, that's great, he really seems to love you and if he can continue to accept it well, the relationship will work well in the long term, because then you already know how to deal with difficult situations. @Jenna once wrote that a condition for removing the belt would be that you have a long-term relationship and I think the chances are really good if the relationship continues like this that he will do everything to make it "worth it" (and yes Anyone can criticize my choice of words) to have sex with you (from your aunt's perspective and not right now, but in the not too distant future).

I'm sorry if my post was unclear

Avery

Susan AJ and I have talked about this at length. She does not think I am ready for sex and wants me to be in committed, long term relationship. She does know that we do other things, but thinks conventional sex is out of the question, at least until we have been together for longer. She would prefer I wait until marriage, but that is something we talk about.

Excellent that you discussed this. Very important that you keep up good relations with family. Very.

Kaja

Avery You are wrong at this toppic.