Susan

with you, the situation is a bit more complicated. i don't even think the belt is the biggest problem, but the fact that you are in a long-distance relationship for most of the year.

Susan I was glad it was there to keep me from doing things I shouldn't be doing as i know I would regret them.

your aunt will disagree with me, but i think for what he accepts (long distance relationship+chastity belt), he has actually proven himself very worthy of having sex with you in the near future, he seems to really love you 🙂

        Angelina your aunt will disagree with me, but i think for what he accepts (long distance relationship+chastity belt), he has actually proven himself very worthy of having sex with you in the near future, he seems to really love you 🙂

        I apologize if other people are getting tired of me (I am) but this is outrageous.

        You are dangerous.

        @Jenna

        • Ines replied to this.

            Ines I do not understand your point in this sentence, @Avery.

            Is she not telling a minor it is OK to have sex with her boyfriend in direct contradiction to the wishes of her legal guardian?

                Avery
                If I did follow things correctly, Susan and her Bf are both over 18. So what is your issue with this?

                    curious If I did follow things correctly, Susan and her Bf are both over 18. So what is your issue with this?

                    Perhaps @Susan is over eighteen. I still think it is not appropriate to tell someone who remains the responsibility of someone else to have sex with someone when we know the person responsible has such strong feelings about it.

                    At any rate I am certain @Susan will discuss it with @Jenna before proceeding. That is the adult thing to do.

                    And this is a serious matter, so don't f around with it.

                        Avery

                        Agree. I will not ever advise about to have or not to have to someone that is not my friend and I have a deep knowledge about the relationship.
                        Further it is a chastity forum, so "IN GENERAL" I think that before marriage sex is a shame.

                            Ines according to my view it has been a pretty innocent remark on someone that talked about her situation
                            My 2 cents

                            Ines Further it is a chastity forum, so "IN GENERAL" I think that before marriage sex is a shame.

                            But it is a personal opinion. There are people here that do sex outside a marriage. And they don't seems to be ashamed by this

                                  Avery Nobody other has right to decide. Only the partners.
                                  Opinion of parents etc is totaly irelevant if you are older that age of consent

                                      Kaja Opinion of parents etc is totaly irelevant if you are older that age of consent

                                      I'm certain Jenna would not cast her out if she went ahead with this. But some parents might. And, where I live, if she is over 18, they no longer legally need to support her. So what does she do? Go to a homeless shelter? Another relative? To the BF and ask him to support her? No. In real life you cannot do things that might alienate yourself from your family.

                                      Let me add what if she got pregnant? Doubt she's been given birth control.

                                          Avery

                                          While I see your point on this issue, don't you think you are a bit inconsistent in your position?
                                          First you argue that @Jenna is wrong in belting her nieces.
                                          Thenn @Angelina observes, that a young man continues to date @Susan despite having a long distance relationship for much of the time and despite not having been able to have sex with her. To my mind, this shows he is not superficial and really interested in her as a person and not just quick sex. Or in other words, that this could be considered a stable and ongoing relationship. According to @Jenna the condition for being allowed to have sex. So when @Angelina points to that this is wrong again? Why?

                                          And if you give @Angelina the benefit of the doubt (that she is who she claims to be) then she is roughly the same age as @Susan. Two girls talking about at which stage in a relationship sex should be allowed. I don't think this is neither unusual nor wrong.

                                              Joh He understands it and knows why I have to wear it, but he wishes I didn't.

                                                curious While I see your point on this issue, don't you think you are a bit inconsistent in your position?

                                                Jenna does not want her nieces to have sex. That is clear. Lots of parents/guardians feel that way. But she has put them in belts and I don't believe this is a truly mutual decision. Do you? So I think the belting is wrong. You can agree or disagree on that.

                                                Then we have a person coming along and telling her to go ahead even though that person recognizes Jenna does not want this. This endangers the girl's relationship with her guardian. The guardian who said in her second post she has considerable financial control over the girls. Angelina telling her to go ahead is no different that Kaja saying the parents have no say. It's irresponsible. You can't just go ahead and ignore your family without consequences, just because your girlfriends say you should.

                                                I'm assuming, by the way, that this is a real-life situation. Not some kind of academic argument. You can't just do what you want because it's legal.

                                                    Angelina with you, the situation is a bit more complicated. i don't even think the belt is the biggest problem, but the fact that you are in a long-distance relationship for most of the year.

                                                    It is hard not to have him around, but in some ways it is easier because when he is around he wants to fool around and that just makes it harder. I hope that makes sense.

                                                    Angelina your aunt will disagree with me, but i think for what he accepts (long distance relationship+chastity belt), he has actually proven himself very worthy of having sex with you in the near future, he seems to really love you

                                                    You are 100% right. She thinks it is best to wait...

                                                          Avery Just so we are clear I am 19 as is my BF.

                                                          AJ and I have talked about this at length. She does not think I am ready for sex and wants me to be in committed, long term relationship. She does know that we do other things, but thinks conventional sex is out of the question, at least until we have been together for longer. She would prefer I wait until marriage, but that is something we talk about.

                                                              Milord But it is a personal opinion

                                                              Well, but an usual opinion in a "chastity" forum. Obviously I respect to everyone, but that is my opinion.

                                                                Susan AJ and I have talked about this at length. She does not think I am ready for sex and wants me to be in committed, long term relationship. She does know that we do other things, but thinks conventional sex is out of the question, at least until we have been together for longer. She would prefer I wait until marriage, but that is something we talk about.

                                                                Excellent that you discussed this. Very important that you keep up good relations with family. Very.

                                                                • Kaja replied to this.

                                                                    Avery We do talk about this. regularly. Susan knows I am against premarital sex. I know it is hard for her to wear the belt, especially when she is with her BF. But she knows how much I value her sacrifice. It is not easy to do this, especially in our hyper-sexualized society. But we both know she is doing the right thing.

                                                                        Avery The girls know I would never "cast them out" under any circumstances. Yes my stance is strict, I understand that and I know many don't agree with it. I will always support them no matter what, they know that.