Dating a belted girl (or boy)

Avery

While I see your point on this issue, don't you think you are a bit inconsistent in your position?
First you argue that @Jenna is wrong in belting her nieces.
Thenn @Angelina observes, that a young man continues to date @Susan despite having a long distance relationship for much of the time and despite not having been able to have sex with her. To my mind, this shows he is not superficial and really interested in her as a person and not just quick sex. Or in other words, that this could be considered a stable and ongoing relationship. According to @Jenna the condition for being allowed to have sex. So when @Angelina points to that this is wrong again? Why?

And if you give @Angelina the benefit of the doubt (that she is who she claims to be) then she is roughly the same age as @Susan. Two girls talking about at which stage in a relationship sex should be allowed. I don't think this is neither unusual nor wrong.

Joh He understands it and knows why I have to wear it, but he wishes I didn't.

curious While I see your point on this issue, don't you think you are a bit inconsistent in your position?

Jenna does not want her nieces to have sex. That is clear. Lots of parents/guardians feel that way. But she has put them in belts and I don't believe this is a truly mutual decision. Do you? So I think the belting is wrong. You can agree or disagree on that.

Then we have a person coming along and telling her to go ahead even though that person recognizes Jenna does not want this. This endangers the girl's relationship with her guardian. The guardian who said in her second post she has considerable financial control over the girls. Angelina telling her to go ahead is no different that Kaja saying the parents have no say. It's irresponsible. You can't just go ahead and ignore your family without consequences, just because your girlfriends say you should.

I'm assuming, by the way, that this is a real-life situation. Not some kind of academic argument. You can't just do what you want because it's legal.

Angelina with you, the situation is a bit more complicated. i don't even think the belt is the biggest problem, but the fact that you are in a long-distance relationship for most of the year.

It is hard not to have him around, but in some ways it is easier because when he is around he wants to fool around and that just makes it harder. I hope that makes sense.

Angelina your aunt will disagree with me, but i think for what he accepts (long distance relationship+chastity belt), he has actually proven himself very worthy of having sex with you in the near future, he seems to really love you

You are 100% right. She thinks it is best to wait...

Avery Just so we are clear I am 19 as is my BF.

AJ and I have talked about this at length. She does not think I am ready for sex and wants me to be in committed, long term relationship. She does know that we do other things, but thinks conventional sex is out of the question, at least until we have been together for longer. She would prefer I wait until marriage, but that is something we talk about.

Avery WTF

Milord But it is a personal opinion

Well, but an usual opinion in a "chastity" forum. Obviously I respect to everyone, but that is my opinion.

Susan AJ and I have talked about this at length. She does not think I am ready for sex and wants me to be in committed, long term relationship. She does know that we do other things, but thinks conventional sex is out of the question, at least until we have been together for longer. She would prefer I wait until marriage, but that is something we talk about.

Excellent that you discussed this. Very important that you keep up good relations with family. Very.

Avery We do talk about this. regularly. Susan knows I am against premarital sex. I know it is hard for her to wear the belt, especially when she is with her BF. But she knows how much I value her sacrifice. It is not easy to do this, especially in our hyper-sexualized society. But we both know she is doing the right thing.

Avery Then we have a person coming along and telling her to go ahead even though that person recognizes Jenna does not want this. This endangers the girl's relationship with her guardian. The guardian who said in her second post she has considerable financial control over the girls.

Not to beat a dead horse here, but I have backed off that position considerably, as you well know. I have apologized profusely for my past deeds and actions. Yes it is my preference that they avoid sex, but belt wearing is only successful of both parties agree. We are all in a better place now.

Jenna he girls know I would never "cast them out"

Yes. And if you had copied in what I said people could see I said I was certain you would not.

Jenna We do talk about this. regularly.

Yes. And if you had copied in what I said people could see I said I was certain @susan would talk to you before proceeding.

Jenna Yes it is my preference that they avoid sex, but belt wearing is only successful of both parties agree.

Our only disagreement is that you prefer belt-wearing to moral education and emotional support.

Avery This endangers the girl's relationship with her guardian. The guardian who said in her second post she has considerable financial control over the girls.

Avery I'm certain Jenna would not cast her out if she went ahead with this. But some parents might.

It feelslike you are implyimg a certain degree of lip service there.

Avery You are wrong at this toppic.

youdontknowme I don't like to ignore you but here I think it's best.

Avery Cast out? It will not be parents and familly but dangerous psychopats