Laura we are supposed to yes. But if the teen goes to other places to study, you can imagine what could happen.

      Renita if you consider a date to be meeting another person and talking with them at a public places then most probably I could just inform them I'm going out. There isn't much else to do other than talk with the other person because of the belt.

      If it works out I'll have to let them know eventually

          Tasha if you consider a date to be meeting another person and talking with them at a public places then most probably I could just inform them I'm going out

          I consider date as a romantic relationship, you can have your belt off for as you mentioned in the previous post.

          Tasha There isn't much else to do other than talk with the other person because of the belt.

          Kissing, hugging, caressing.

          Tasha If it works out I'll have to let them know eventually

          And ask for the key?

                  Renita yeah once I find someone who I'll (hopefully ) spend my life with, I will ask for the key, or if they don't give the key, get out of the belt in whatever way is necessary

                      Tasha yeah once I find someone who I'll (hopefully ) spend my life with, I will ask for the key, or if they don't give the key, get out of the belt in whatever way is necessary

                      before or after you married him ?

                          Angelina haven't really thought about when exactly, but I suppose once it's 'final' that I'll be marrying and spending my life with him, it makes sense to get out of the belt

                              Tasha but I suppose once it's 'final' that I'll be marrying and spending my life with him

                              That's called marriage 😂

                              Tasha it makes sense to get out of the belt

                              If you are ready to marry, why not wait a little more?

                                    Laura That's called marriage 😂

                                    I reckon it means "once the marriage has been decided, but before the ceremony has been held". While handing over the keys as part of the ceremony seems romantic, I think it might raise some eyebrows that are better left unraised.

                                        youdontknowme this is what I meant. The ceremonies can be upto a week (varies from communities and religions) here. I belive for my family it's around 3-4 days of back to back "functions"/ceremonies.

                                        edit: usually the marriage function happens with 100+ relatives (Most of them who we don't know 😂) who are present on all days (usually) and remember, the belt is just inside my family, not something the relatives would really know.

                                            Tasha Utterly different question - cricket fan at all?

                                              Tasha If a wedding takes few days, what day is a wedding night?

                                                  Tasha Laura not quite sure what you mean hah

                                                  Traditionally, the wedding is only complete once the marriage has been consummated - i.e. the groom and bride have spent a night together with all that implies. The belt has to be off before then, but otherwise, the only influence it should have on the ceremony would be the belt's impact on clothing choices and dance styles.

                                                      Laura if you mean the night where things happen, it's usually the 2nd day in my culture. Things vary a lot so it's definitely not the same everywhere.

                                                      The belt would have to be off before the functions begin, people here might not even know what a chastity belt is.

                                                        Tasha haven't really thought about when exactly, but I suppose once it's 'final' that I'll be marrying and spending my life with him, it makes sense to get out of the belt

                                                        and how do your parents see it? does it always have to be marriage, or is it also enough if you are seriously together with someone for a very long time and want to live with him, for example?

                                                        youdontknowme Traditionally, the wedding is only complete once the marriage has been consummated - i.e. the groom and bride have spent a night together with all that implies.

                                                        really? i always thought from the moment they both say yes and are officially married

                                                              Angelina I mean, sure, that is the point at which the couple is considered married, but a non-consummated marriage could be annulled (which is distinct from divorce in that the marriage is treated as if it had never existed) when the same was not possible for a consummated marriage.