Tasha If I decide to date, it would be for eventually marrying them and loving and living with them so in that case yes, the belt will obviously come off.

but the belt only comes off when the wedding has taken place, what do you think a relationship with a belt could look like for you? what do you think about it?

    Tasha usually it's by the age of 25-27

    And are they supposed to stay virgin so long?

        Milord Sigh.

        Not everyone lives in a country where the subsistence level is guaranteed by the state.

        So yes in a way it's mutual assured destruction, but if you are not really economically independent, nuking the family that provides you with resources might be one of these cases "yes it's your right, but have you considered all the side effects?" where experienced advisors (lawyers, tax advisors, etc) might suggest skipping exercising your rights.

            George

            @Tasha explained she runs a successful business and she's economically independent.

            As for the rest, impossible to make generic assumptions. I think I expressed my opinion in every possible way. Not a lot to add here.

              Tasha If I decide to date, it would be for eventually marrying them and loving and living with them so in that case yes, the belt will obviously come off.

              Does this date have to be approved by your parents?

                  Renita If I understood right, she can date only secretly. That's why they use a belt

                    Laura we are supposed to yes. But if the teen goes to other places to study, you can imagine what could happen.

                        Renita if you consider a date to be meeting another person and talking with them at a public places then most probably I could just inform them I'm going out. There isn't much else to do other than talk with the other person because of the belt.

                        If it works out I'll have to let them know eventually

                            Tasha if you consider a date to be meeting another person and talking with them at a public places then most probably I could just inform them I'm going out

                            I consider date as a romantic relationship, you can have your belt off for as you mentioned in the previous post.

                            Tasha There isn't much else to do other than talk with the other person because of the belt.

                            Kissing, hugging, caressing.

                            Tasha If it works out I'll have to let them know eventually

                            And ask for the key?

                                    Renita yeah once I find someone who I'll (hopefully ) spend my life with, I will ask for the key, or if they don't give the key, get out of the belt in whatever way is necessary

                                        Tasha yeah once I find someone who I'll (hopefully ) spend my life with, I will ask for the key, or if they don't give the key, get out of the belt in whatever way is necessary

                                        before or after you married him ?

                                            Angelina haven't really thought about when exactly, but I suppose once it's 'final' that I'll be marrying and spending my life with him, it makes sense to get out of the belt

                                                Tasha but I suppose once it's 'final' that I'll be marrying and spending my life with him

                                                That's called marriage 😂

                                                Tasha it makes sense to get out of the belt

                                                If you are ready to marry, why not wait a little more?

                                                      Laura That's called marriage 😂

                                                      I reckon it means "once the marriage has been decided, but before the ceremony has been held". While handing over the keys as part of the ceremony seems romantic, I think it might raise some eyebrows that are better left unraised.

                                                          youdontknowme this is what I meant. The ceremonies can be upto a week (varies from communities and religions) here. I belive for my family it's around 3-4 days of back to back "functions"/ceremonies.

                                                          edit: usually the marriage function happens with 100+ relatives (Most of them who we don't know 😂) who are present on all days (usually) and remember, the belt is just inside my family, not something the relatives would really know.