Tasha's stuff

Damien

Stop it, really, it's ridiculous. Hymens show or prove nothing worth talking about.

Laura

Damien There are bunch of topics about this anyway

Ines

Damien

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Kaja

Damien So true

Ines

Tasha The way I read @Ines message, it seems as if I said something wrong and the reply comes off a bit disrespectful.

Not at all, @Tasha , but to say that running affects your hymen, it is.... well, you know.
And I was semi pro player, and hymen does not suffer with it. With other practices, maybe, but running...

Tasha

Ines I hope you understood what I tried to convey.

Damien social circle convey this unfortunate set of expectations.

Some remote parts / poorer parts still do check it.

I'll not delve more into it

Damien

Ines , you know I love how consequently you adhere to your high moral standards! But the moment you call out other people for the state of their hymen, I have to ask if you have thought that through. Hymens come in different shapes and sizes naturally. A torn hymen does not prove you had penetrative sex, and an intact hymen does not prove virginity.

If Tasha feels she needs to give a reason for a torn hymen, it's probably because parts of her social circle convey this unfortunate set of expectations. I agree that running is probably not tearing anything, but that is beside the point.

One effect of this childish fixation on hymens - usually among less educated people - is the rising numbers of hymenoplasty surgery. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38470862/#:~:text=Results%3A%20In%20the%20examined%20cohort,procedure%20a%20week%20before%20marriage.

Ines

Damien I agree that running is probably not tearing anything, but that is beside the point.

It is the only point I was talking about.

Renita

Tasha I'm sure the running sports I did during my time in school have altered it.

How? Got blood?

Tasha Rings that allow things to be attached? No (yay!)

You are lucky.

Tasha checking the hymen of girls to see if they are Virgin is (imo) really archaic

You parents might have different opinion.

Tasha

Renita You parents might have different opinion.

They might. I don't know. I'm hoping they don't.

Renita You are lucky.

I guess. You are too!

Renita How? Got blood?

It did hurt the first few times I did it but no blood. I worded it a bit wrong, I should have written it in a different manner to reduce confusion.

It's my choice too to not have any sexual relations before committing to someone but that doesn't mean I agree to some archaic means to prove my virginity. If the person can't trust me, I don't think it would be a very good relationship

Renita

Tasha They might. I don't know. I'm hoping they don't.

Better to ask.

Tasha You are too!

But my belt was ordered by me 😃

Tasha but that doesn't mean I agree to some archaic means to prove my virginity

I think so too. But for those who cares about her intact hymen, it's better to wear thighbands 😃

MissBlossom

Renita Better to ask.

Not necessarily...

The little boy's mother was going off to the market. She worried about her son, who was always up to some mischief. She sternly admonished him, "Be good. Don't get into trouble. Don't eat all the chocolate. Don't spill all the milk. Don't throw stones at the cow. Don't fall down the well." The boy had done all of these things on previous market days. Hoping to head off new trouble, she added, "And don't stuff beans up your nose!" This was a new idea for the boy, who promptly tried it out.

Tasha

Warning: maybe a long message.

Tldr: I fought my way through, I'm allowed to be beltless at home.

I've not been doing that great for the past few days. Reading some experiences here and talking to people have made me re think my stance on wearing a belt.

Since school started this week, my sister has been out of her belt, I got a release on Monday, that didn't help much. I went through some sort of a tipping point and yesterday I couldn't keep my thoughts to myself so I had to have a talk with my parents.

Not going into much detail (I can if you are curious?), my parents are not happy. They were angry yesterday, they seem disappointed today - especially my mother. I'm out of the belt at home (Like my sister is now), I'll be required to wear it whenever they are both gone or I'm going outside.

I feel I justified being belted at home by saying how it might be because of my past habits, but now I no longer think so. I'm really happy once I got the belt off me.

I also have a fear now of being kicked out, I have a 3 month buffer to pay for a apartment and food if needed, I'm planning to extend that to atleast a year to be really safe.

I pretty much told them I will move out if I don't get what I need (the look on thier faces when i said this, they were a bit scared) and I can't take being belted anymore. I think they figured that if they don't let me be, the next step i might take (with all the emotions with me) could put them on trouble for a long time. What I did could probably not be done by people who are locked by their parents (and aren't ok with it f
fully) because they are dependant on their parents. Those who are willing, I see no issue.

I should also clarify my willingness to wear. For the past 2-3 years, i was mostly ok with it, there were some days when I was super Sad about all of this. The past few days have been one of those situations. And yes, I did tell them I'm okay with wearing it outside. Maybe if I think that's too much someday, I'll talk/fight with them.

I wanted to post it yesterday, but my mind wasn't in the best of states. I'm not leaving, I'll still be around. Have a good day.

Milord

Tasha I will be the first to congratulate you. Besides my position about parental belting, I think that fight for freedom and self-determination is an essential thing and ultimately what makes a teen into an adult, so, very well done!

pestulens

Tasha Congratulations. This is definitely a case where you need to do the right thing for your own mental health. Hopefully, your parents will come to respect that in time.

Damien

Tasha I'm happy to hear you have stood your ground! I hope your parents will not use the remaining keyholding power you allow them to try and reestablish bad old patterns. All the best, please keep us posted.

Kaja

Tasha Congartulqtion! Love for you!
You do the best and you are the best example for rest of this forum.

Milord

Damien completely agree. For sure your parents will try to regain ground. But on the other side, compliance is the only thing that can keep a girl belted. If they lose it, then there is nothing else to do that accepting it.

Go on tasha!

Laura

Tasha And yes, I did tell them I'm okay with wearing it outside

How would it work if you worn it outside only?

Tasha

Laura I can't have sex with anyone. But I will be free at home without much fuss

Laura

Tasha But I will be free at home without much fuss

And you can go outsize without the belt whenever you like. This was my case

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