Tasha's stuff
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Tasha what you mean excuse?
For your future husband 
Tasha I'm sure the running sports I did during my time in school have altered it.
Of course you didn't not
Tasha checking the hymen of girls to see if they are Virgin is (imo) really archaic
But when you go to a gyn, you are being asked, aren't you?
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Laura Of course you didn't not
How can you be so sure? Granted I was just giving an example but still. I didn't play a lot of competitive sports but it might have had an effect.
Laura But when you go
Yes they will ask about it. My answer would yes, I'm a Virgin.
But again people have different definitions of virginity
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Tasha But I am a Virgin. No sexual interaction with anyone. And I intend to be like that for my future partner.
However being careful with your hymen wouldn't hurt
Other excuses are horse riding, bicycling, etc.
Stop it, really, it's ridiculous. Hymens show or prove nothing worth talking about.
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Not at all, @Tasha , but to say that running affects your hymen, it is.... well, you know.
And I was semi pro player, and hymen does not suffer with it. With other practices, maybe, but running...
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Ines , you know I love how consequently you adhere to your high moral standards! But the moment you call out other people for the state of their hymen, I have to ask if you have thought that through. Hymens come in different shapes and sizes naturally. A torn hymen does not prove you had penetrative sex, and an intact hymen does not prove virginity.
If Tasha feels she needs to give a reason for a torn hymen, it's probably because parts of her social circle convey this unfortunate set of expectations. I agree that running is probably not tearing anything, but that is beside the point.
One effect of this childish fixation on hymens - usually among less educated people - is the rising numbers of hymenoplasty surgery. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38470862/#:~:text=Results%3A%20In%20the%20examined%20cohort,procedure%20a%20week%20before%20marriage.
Renita You parents might have different opinion.
They might. I don't know. I'm hoping they don't.
Renita You are lucky.
I guess. You are too!
Renita How? Got blood?
It did hurt the first few times I did it but no blood. I worded it a bit wrong, I should have written it in a different manner to reduce confusion.
It's my choice too to not have any sexual relations before committing to someone but that doesn't mean I agree to some archaic means to prove my virginity. If the person can't trust me, I don't think it would be a very good relationship
Renita Better to ask.
Not necessarily...
The little boy's mother was going off to the market. She worried about her son, who was always up to some mischief. She sternly admonished him, "Be good. Don't get into trouble. Don't eat all the chocolate. Don't spill all the milk. Don't throw stones at the cow. Don't fall down the well." The boy had done all of these things on previous market days. Hoping to head off new trouble, she added, "And don't stuff beans up your nose!" This was a new idea for the boy, who promptly tried it out.