Tasha's stuff

Renita

Tasha My mum unlocked and took it away

Congratulations. I always fail in it because talk with the belt on 😃

Laura You have missed my irony. Since @Renita can't get free from her belt by moving out she should move in

It's not as much ironical as you think. If I moved in, I wouldn't wear the belt when we are both home.

Tasha Just a day out the belt and I'm already happier

It's more than a day now.

Tasha Would be hard to go back in

When is it planned to be?

Milord

Renita Congratulations. I always fail in it because talk with the belt on 😃

Break it. So you can talk without the belt on. Breaking the lock is not so hard. Pretty easy actually because it is very small

Or when you are opened refuse to get back and talk with her while unbelted.

Tasha

Renita When is it planned to be?

Like when going outside or when I'm left alone at home. Or if I decide to dumb things, maybe they put the belt on me. But I don't think I'll do dumb stuff.

Tasha

Joh well I had worked out a deal like that before, I also mentioned it on the fourm somewhere.

For me it didn't really work out, probably because of my sister being out, I having the possibility to get out of the belt fully, and emotions

Joh

Tasha For me it didn't really work out, probably because of my sister being out, I having the possibility to get out of the belt fully, and emotions

Sorry, I don't get it.

youdontknowme

Tasha Now I imagine you bringing a boy home and asking for the key with him around...

Renita

Tasha Like when going outside or when I'm left alone at home.

And it didn't happen yet or what?

Laura

youdontknowme Now I imagine you bringing a boy home and asking for the key with him around...

But she is unbelted at home, just need to find an excuse for him 😂

Tasha

youdontknowme I'm not that stupid haha. If I dare ask that there will be a huge commotion at the home.

Joh Sorry, I don't get it.

I was promised monthly unlocking before, I remember posting it here.

Aside:
And I've been very busy and will be this week.

Angelina

Tasha Thier opinion would be to he belted at home which is not what I'm looking to be in again.

Milord Disagree of course

please read again, i said accept the opinion of the parents and not follow the opinion

Milord

Angelina and i disagree on accepting their opinion.

Angelina

Milord and i disagree on accepting their opinion.

hey, it's nothing different than what I often do to you here. I don't agree with you on some points, but I accept your opinion and try to understand it. @Tasha should do nothing different either.

Milord

Angelina

Maybe we give a different meaning to the word “accepting”. I don’t accept opinion I disagree with. I respect the right to express them, but I don’t respect the idea per se if for me it’s completely wrong. I normally give a lot of explanation on why I don’t accept them.

So in my opinion accepting is recognising that the idea is valid, even if I disagree on it
For example I accept the idea @Ines being belted. Do I think she should? No. But I accept she want this and happy about it.

Hope the example clarify my position.

pestulens

Milord That approach works well when in a situation where the ideas themselves are primary (like this forum). However, when trying to navigate a personal relationship we sometimes need to accept and work around unreasonable and/or irrational ideas.

To use Tasha's situation as an example, if she completely disregards her parents' opinion it will probably damage the relationship. Thad doesn't mean she has to do what they want all the time, but at least take their opinion into consideration and show them that she takes it seriously and they are more likely to accept a compromise she is willing to make.

Angelina

Milord So in my opinion accepting is recognising that the idea is valid, even if I disagree on it

well, maybe i'm too much of a free speech advocate, but for me, any opinion is valid for now, i just don't have to share it. otherwise @pestulens has described well what I mean

pestulens To use Tasha's situation as an example, if she completely disregards her parents' opinion it will probably damage the relationship. Thad doesn't mean she has to do what they want all the time, but at least take their opinion into consideration and show them that she takes it seriously and they are more likely to accept a compromise she is willing to make.

That's exactly how it is

Milord

pestulens I agree, but when it is out of convenience, I will not call this accepting idea, i will call it accepting situation.

On a personal opinion, that someone must accept unfair limit to her personal freedom cannot be accepted even as a situation. But this is me.

Tasha

pestulens show them that she takes it seriously and they are more likely to accept a compromise she is willing to make

Yeah, I think me allowing to be belted while outside probably eased me into getting out of the belt.

I would still like to keep a healthy relationship, but if things don't pan out I'm absolutely willing to break the relationship. But again I think of my sister, wouldn't want to leave her unless she can do something of her own

Tasha

Renita we did go out once with my parents, me and her weren't belted because we were together with my parents. They were by my side while shopping around.

But I'm sure if I were to go out by myself they will bring the belt

Renita

Tasha But I'm sure if I were to go out by myself they will bring the belt

I'm asking if you didn't go outside for almost a week beside that shopping?

Milord

Tasha for me this is exactly how it should be.

Tasha

Renita not really. Apart from walks around my house, no where. I don't go out a lot, mainly I stay inside (I prefer to be inside too)

Renita

Tasha Do you have to ask parents' permission to go outside alone?

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