Conrad
I understand that wearing a chastity 24/7 can cause the damage you mentioned. I've read a lot about it and want to minimize this risk to a minimum so I decided not to jump into the deep end and give the keys to KH right away to be locked up 24/7.

I'm in the process of getting used to it and making sure that the cage I'm wearing is the right one so it self-locks at intervals I set, I often double check for skin damage, I take care of hygiene and maintenance and in case of discomfort (which happens rarely) or concerns, I take a break so the 24/7 locking won't happen right away.

But before it's time to lock up 24/7 and give the keys back, we need to agree on a locking policy with KH, including hygiene and controlled breaks for inspections for skin damage and whether I have erectile dysfunction.

pestulens
As you said, the points seem justified even though they were generated by AI. The risk of damage is high, but it can be easily avoided.

      14 days later

      Avery Since I've just started my experiment wearing a belt as a part of a relationship I can only hope we achieve the same result you folks did. I must admit his kind of WTF response to my proposing a contract makes me fear he is not really interested in the nature of our relationship (e.g. like the closeness you mention) beyond the sexual part of it.

      Well, since this is the outcomes thread let me respond to my own post and report my outcome is I no longer have a boyfriend. This is OK whereas he does not have the kind of emotional attachment to me that I, or anyone else here, I dare say, would require.

      The main point for this forum is I'm going back to a chaste lifestyle using the belt as an aid, so that's somewhat different than many here who are full-timers. I do think there is some value here of having someone here who proffers the belt as an assistance device only and, believe me, it has come in handy on numerous occasions.

          Avery Well, since this is the outcomes thread let me respond to my own post and report my outcome is I no longer have a boyfriend. This is OK whereas he does not have the kind of emotional attachment to me that I, or anyone else here, I dare say, would require.

          It's sad that it has turned out like this, but you have been given clarity. I think that's very important, because in the long term it's not good to be with someone even though you're not really compatible.

          Avery The main point for this forum is I'm going back to a chaste lifestyle using the belt as an aid, so that's somewhat different than many here who are full-timers

          If you have the feeling that this is what you want, then do it.
          I also see the CB as a great way to achieve your goals. It may help you when you have a weak time. Do you already have an idea of how you want to handle it? For example, do you want to use a time lock?

                Avery Sorry that your "relationship" did not work out but Iam sure there will many future opportunities. And many will be happy in your prefered arrangement,

                Sam

                    Joh It's sad that it has turned out like this, but you have been given clarity. I think that's very important, because in the long term it's not good to be with someone even though you're not really compatible.

                    Completely agree.

                    Joh I also see the CB as a great way to achieve your goals. It may help you when you have a weak time. Do you already have an idea of how you want to handle it? For example, do you want to use a time lock?

                    Let's say I see this as a kind of two-stage process.

                    First, trying to avoid weak times by doing things like showering in the swimmer's wetdown area where one could not touch oneself without risking discipline. Not drinking which weakens one's resistance, not going to places like bars where boys will approach you, no sexy undies which turns one's thoughts to sex, etc.

                    Second, keeping the belt handy at times when temptation presents itself, e.g. when showering alone is the only alternative, under the bed when the hands begin to wander at night.

                    I've not used things like a time lock, so far have managed with putting the belt on, locking it, putting the key in a public place like a flower pot on the mantel piece where my giving in would be obvious to anyone present.

                    A big plus is I WANT to do this so resisting temptation is easier then for those who are compelled to do it.

                    Also, as I have no boyfriend now I have no object for my desires to well up upon. How @Ines managed with a long-term boyfriend I can't imagine.

                          bdsamm Sorry that your "relationship" did not work out but Iam sure there will many future opportunities. And many will be happy in your prefered arrangement,

                          Sam

                          I trust you are right.

                          American football is on the horizon.

                              Avery First, trying to avoid weak times by doing things like showering in the swimmer's wetdown area where one could not touch oneself without risking discipline. Not drinking which weakens one's resistance, not going to places like bars where boys will approach you, no sexy undies which turns one's thoughts to sex, etc.

                              You have thought carefully about when it is a risk and how you can minimise it. Very good.

                              Avery Second, keeping the belt handy at times when temptation presents itself, e.g. when showering alone is the only alternative, under the bed when the hands begin to wander at night.

                              A CB is a good tool for precisely such situations. Your solution is certainly a good way, but there is a risk that someone could take the key. In this case, a box with a time lock is a safe way to store the key and then remove it in the morning.
                              If you want to give it a try, opt for a box that you can open with force if necessary. For the worst case situation.

                                    Joh opt for a Boy that you can open with force if necessary.

                                    Best typo possible in the context of a young woman who just reported a relationship not working out

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                                      Joh In this case, a box with a time lock is a safe way to store the key and then remove it in the morning.
                                      If you want to give it a try, opt for a box that you can open with force if necessary. For the worst case situation.

                                      Thanks for the tip, I'll keep it in mind. In a pinch, my Mother has a key (she also has a belt, though it is a sex toy and used for that purpose). I recall when my Dad was trying to quit smoking he'd leave the cigarettes in the car or the garage or something. It made it inconvenient to get a cigarette (one often lights up without thinking) and it made it obvious to everybody he was going out after one. With winter coming on soon having to go out in the cold to get the key (especially since I sleep naked or almost) would be a good discouragement.

                                          Avery How @Ines managed with a long-term boyfriend I can't imagine.

                                          She never had her belt off.

                                            Avery You seem to have really good "won't" power so you will probably do OK.

                                                bdsamm You seem to have really good "won't" power so you will probably do OK.

                                                I need an object for my affections....

                                                    Avery Frankly, if it was my choice your belt would be locked on always for safety but fortunately I am not responsible. LOL!

                                                        bdsamm your belt would be locked on always for safety

                                                        It's four years coming up next month that I was first assaulted and I never think about it now.

                                                          Avery

                                                          American football is on the horizon

                                                          Been here for 3 weeks!

                                                          Ravens/Chiefs tomorrow...

                                                            Avery Thanks for the tip, I'll keep it in mind. In a pinch, my Mother has a key (she also has a belt, though it is a sex toy and used for that purpose). I recall when my Dad was trying to quit smoking he'd leave the cigarettes in the car or the garage or something. It made it inconvenient to get a cigarette (one often lights up without thinking) and it made it obvious to everybody he was going out after one. With winter coming on soon having to go out in the cold to get the key (especially since I sleep naked or almost) would be a good discouragement.

                                                            It sounds like your system is working for you. Then it is sufficient. If you need more security, you can switch.

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                                                              luhuixin Am actually glad I'm not 24/7.

                                                              So am I. Don't know how people do it, tho not many here do.