Padre And know the belt is used over two years already so there is a certain need for it.

the question is whether all personalities find it ok to give up control of the key? otherwise you would be putting yourself in danger

      Most of the system is fine with the dynamic, it was just an issue with being surprised/communication. One of the alters is a little hesitant with it but we've discussed that as well.

      Angelina the question is whether all personalities find it ok to give up control of the key?

      The real question is whether Padre is one of Octavia's personalities, because that opens up a whole can of worms

          Sin Octavia and Padre live on totally different continents maybe 18 thousand km apart. Hope that debunks your suspension.

          • Joh replied to this.

              Padre Why do you speak of yourself in the third person?🤔

                  Joh Is that wrong or not allowed? Very suspicious 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
                  But believe what you want if you like that better than the truth.

                  • Joh replied to this.

                      Milord What a plot twist!!!

                      What a story. Very creative thinking I must admit. Only this is not the situation. Octavia and me are very different persons each having an officially registered identity.

                          Padre Is that wrong or not allowed?

                          No, it is not wrong and you are free to write as you like. I asked only.

                          Padre Very suspicious 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
                          But believe what you want if you like that better than the truth.

                          Now, Your reaction is suspicious .
                          But in the end their will be no prove if it true or fake.

                              Padre This forum is full of fakes, but honestly, I was just joking. But the idea is nice, you have to admit.

                                  Milord I consider it not so nice trying to truly help someone with best intentions and then getting such comment. I know it is impossible to convince people that don't want to take someone's word.

                                      Padre We are not talking about your efforts to help someone. We are discussing things that are questionable and obviously inconsistent.
                                      If you have a problem with the fact that not everything here is simply believed, then don't blame us. That's normal and appropriate on the internet.

                                        run it's the police!!!!!

                                        Padre That can be used for immediate unlock if one needs it.

                                        do all personalities know what the safeword is?

                                        Sin The real question is whether Padre is one of Octavia's personalities, because that opens up a whole can of worms

                                        ok, we're getting into the realm of conspiracy theories, maybe we should ask Valadar about this? 😂

                                        Padre I consider it not so nice trying to truly help someone with best intentions and then getting such comment. I know it is impossible to convince people that don't want to take someone's word.

                                        hey, it was just a little joke, i don't think anyone is intentionally insulting you or accusing you of anything 🙂

                                                Angelina do all personalities know what the safeword is?

                                                I have explained it to be sure. Octavia came with a nice suggestion for a safeword. They know when they need out immediately and use that word unlock will happen without delay. I told them it is only for emergencies and they will decide if it is really needed. Octavia makes sure all her headmates know this, she writes a journal for that purpose.

                                                So far they are not in a hurry when the lock opens automatically for hygiene break. Looks like there are no major issues anymore and are okay with the belt more or less. The belt was in use for two years already so it was not something that suddenly came into their lives. I think that having a reliable kh is always better than using a time lock for example that doesn't open before the time set. Emergency release will be very difficult then.

                                                Angelina hey, it was just a little joke

                                                In this context I could not appreciate it so much. I think this situation is too delicate to make jokes.

                                                      Padre I think that having a reliable kh is always better than using a time lock for example that doesn't open before the time set. Emergency release will be very difficult then.

                                                      yes i think so too, i think the personal connection to a key holder makes the whole thing much more personal than pure mechanics

                                                        Something unexpected happened. Octavia messaged requesting her key because she now had a real life kh. She wanted to do some experiments. Of course such request can't be denied so within a minute she had her key back. Now he, the new real life kh has the real keys to her belt. Hope she thought this over well. Without the keys she really cannot open the belt. It's her decision.

                                                        The last two weeks a lot has happened and a lot of discussions have taken place. Also spend hours reading to try to understand what DID is and how to deal with that the best possible way. Also started to know all personalities involved and met two of them. I was prepared and ready for a long period at least lasting til may 7th, her birthday. But it has ended now. I must admit after so many discussions, emotions, and many hours reading I feel a little bit sad. Asking for feedback for me as kh, she said it was all right! I wish her the best and hopefully she found her happiness.

                                                        Good luck Octavia.

                                                          Padre

                                                          very well written. even if it is a pity for you personally, a real key holder is still better from my point of view
                                                          @OctaviaSunwilds
                                                          would you like to tell us something about how it came about and who he is?

                                                              Angelina a real key holder is still better

                                                              I consider myself quite real. But at a great distance. Now Octavia has someone she can meet and see in real life. So I am pleased for her.