octavias stuff

Angelina

Padre Being kh seems mission impossible now. Not sure what to do.

under no circumstances can you continue as you are now. try to help her by seeking therapy with her. if her personality, which does not want to be in the belt, becomes too strong, it can be very dangerous for both of you. only when she is absolutely sure that she wants it in every situation, can you continue, but not now

Padre

Angelina Octavia went to see a professional therapist. They can't cure it but made it manageable for her and the personalities can get along. Now they (the personalities) will notify if the belt must be locked or unlocked. There is no minimum lock time set so locking and unlocking can happen as requested at any moment. According to literature this also seems the best way to handle it careful with each personality. And know the belt is used over two years already so there is a certain need for it.

@Ines @Laura Probably best to put a lock on this thread.

Angelina

Padre And know the belt is used over two years already so there is a certain need for it.

the question is whether all personalities find it ok to give up control of the key? otherwise you would be putting yourself in danger

OctaviaSunwilds

padre dont speak for me please, the threads can stay open imo because people can still add to them

Padre

Angelina They have a safe word now. That can be used for immediate unlock if one needs it.

Sin

Angelina the question is whether all personalities find it ok to give up control of the key?

The real question is whether Padre is one of Octavia's personalities, because that opens up a whole can of worms

Angelina

Padre That can be used for immediate unlock if one needs it.

do all personalities know what the safeword is?

Sin The real question is whether Padre is one of Octavia's personalities, because that opens up a whole can of worms

ok, we're getting into the realm of conspiracy theories, maybe we should ask Valadar about this? 😂

Padre I consider it not so nice trying to truly help someone with best intentions and then getting such comment. I know it is impossible to convince people that don't want to take someone's word.

hey, it was just a little joke, i don't think anyone is intentionally insulting you or accusing you of anything 🙂

OctaviaSunwilds

Most of the system is fine with the dynamic, it was just an issue with being surprised/communication. One of the alters is a little hesitant with it but we've discussed that as well.

Milord

Sin OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

What a plot twist!!!

Padre

Sin Octavia and Padre live on totally different continents maybe 18 thousand km apart. Hope that debunks your suspension.

Padre

Sin The real question is whether Padre is one of Octavia's personalities, because that opens up a whole can of worms

Since this remark Octavia did not write anything anymore. Maybe she doesn't feel safe anymore, maybe something else. She is still visiting the forum now and then but does no longer respond to anyone. Private communication has stopped as well. No clue if she is doing well.

Padre

Milord What a plot twist!!!

What a story. Very creative thinking I must admit. Only this is not the situation. Octavia and me are very different persons each having an officially registered identity.

Joh

Padre Why do you speak of yourself in the third person?🤔

Padre

Joh Is that wrong or not allowed? Very suspicious 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
But believe what you want if you like that better than the truth.

Joh

Padre Is that wrong or not allowed?

No, it is not wrong and you are free to write as you like. I asked only.

Padre Very suspicious 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
But believe what you want if you like that better than the truth.

Now, Your reaction is suspicious .
But in the end their will be no prove if it true or fake.

Milord

Padre This forum is full of fakes, but honestly, I was just joking. But the idea is nice, you have to admit.

Padre

Milord I consider it not so nice trying to truly help someone with best intentions and then getting such comment. I know it is impossible to convince people that don't want to take someone's word.

Joh

Padre We are not talking about your efforts to help someone. We are discussing things that are questionable and obviously inconsistent.
If you have a problem with the fact that not everything here is simply believed, then don't blame us. That's normal and appropriate on the internet.

toad

run it's the police!!!!!

Padre

Angelina do all personalities know what the safeword is?

I have explained it to be sure. Octavia came with a nice suggestion for a safeword. They know when they need out immediately and use that word unlock will happen without delay. I told them it is only for emergencies and they will decide if it is really needed. Octavia makes sure all her headmates know this, she writes a journal for that purpose.

So far they are not in a hurry when the lock opens automatically for hygiene break. Looks like there are no major issues anymore and are okay with the belt more or less. The belt was in use for two years already so it was not something that suddenly came into their lives. I think that having a reliable kh is always better than using a time lock for example that doesn't open before the time set. Emergency release will be very difficult then.

Angelina hey, it was just a little joke

In this context I could not appreciate it so much. I think this situation is too delicate to make jokes.

Angelina

Padre I think that having a reliable kh is always better than using a time lock for example that doesn't open before the time set. Emergency release will be very difficult then.

yes i think so too, i think the personal connection to a key holder makes the whole thing much more personal than pure mechanics