Angelina I think so too, but AJ reminds me of how my sister went orgasm free for like a year and a half when she first started wearing. And she had a BF too and they used to try all sorts of stuff but nothing worked. I am going to study hard, that is all I can say.

      Tjc Differently in what way?

      Men in chastity will be obsessed with relief rather than academic success.

          Renita Men in chastity will be obsessed with relief rather than academic success.

          I think that this is true fro some men and maybe for most. But with a secure device and and firm help from the keyholder so it is clear that relief will be allowed only under the terms of whatever the agreement was, the obsession goes away fairly quickly and the focus can be on the success.

              Tjc I dont think so. We hve the same function of brain with my bf. With longer and longer time we think more and more about sex. It ends in situation tht we can not even read a book or watch a movie. Sex completly fills our brains. There is no concentration, no anything other.

                  Kate2

                  well, i felt it was just as unfair for Susan to have to wear a belt when you didn't, i thought that was wrong too. i think you should both always have the same rights and responsibilities, it prevents internal tension between you and you can support and help each other better

                      Kaja This is interesting to hear. Often I have heard the belief that when women are belted, their desire and arousal drops off. Thank you for the information. I think there is probably a lot of individual variation and every situation is different. If the relationship has a focus on the control and the denial as some have described, that increases the arousal. This would be different from a relationship where the belt is just a clinical tool to prevent intercourse and masturbation.

                          I think it is important to keep in mind that while there may be trends for various sexes, there is also a lot of individual variation in those things - which depends not just on a person's nature, but also on what their lifestyle is like.

                          And does it work? Did girls who studied while kept chaste by their parents excel in their studies?

                            KarimM

                            Can you tell? Maybe expand the concept. Because I'm not completely convinced that it's useful for studying: frustration is enemy of concentration

                              Tjc and firm help from the keyholder so it is clear that relief will be allowed only under the terms of whatever the agreement was

                              While it's not required for a girl, e.g. she can remain chaste for a long time.

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                                  Renita You are right. I think I could remain chaste for a long time on my own but I find it easier with help from a keyholder. When they are firm about the rules and conditions for release, it helps the frustration to lower to a tolerable level more quickly. This is just what works for me. I am sure other people have different experiences and opinions.

                                      Tjc Often I have heard the belief that when women are belted, their desire and arousal drops off.

                                      yes and no, i would describe it like a wave movement. there are periods when the arousal is stronger and periods when it is weaker. for women who wear the belt 24/7 it can sometimes be helpful to try to suppress it somehow, to get it out of your head, then you are less aroused and wearing the belt is easier

                                          Angelina This makes sense. I think you are right. I can suppress the arousal to the point that I don't notice it and it is not an issue and then something will trigger it to come back and I have to work to suppress or ignore it again. The idea that it comes in waves is a good mental picture. Sometimes they are gentle. long, rolling waves that are easy to deal with for weeks and sometimes they are short, choppy waves that wash over you like a storm. The long, gentle ones are much easier to live with.

                                              Tjc But the easyer way is just cum and stol the waves. After orgasm here is a calm level.

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                                                  Tjc I think I could remain chaste for a long time on my own but I find it easier with help from a keyholder.

                                                  I remain chaste for years without any negative effects. So the subj is recommended for female students.

                                                      KarimM that's why my step d wore

                                                      I thought that they did it for different purpose

                                                      Renita So the subj is recommended for female students

                                                      Would you agree to this when you were 20?

                                                            Kaja But the easyer way is just cum and stol the waves. After orgasm here is a calm level.

                                                            It is definitely easier but I have found that if I am allowed to do that, I spend way too much time distracted by cumming and riding that wave. Having to ask someone to be allowed to that helps me to better control my time. Cumming feels good and I would do it a lot if I were allowed.