Some already mentioned your opinion. I wanted to start a thread so we don’t jam up introductions.

To give some background she has impulse control issues. She is failing her collage courses. She spends to much time at her boyfriend’s dorm and isn’t studying. She is a smart girl. Above average IQ. But she always does what’s she wants and rarely makes positive choices. She has some issues that I don’t want to go into here, but she will always need a caretaker (weather it be us or a husband someday) because she won’t make healthy choices without guidance.

My proposal was to make her wear a chastity belt if she wants me to keep paying for college. This would at least prevent pregnancy. Hopefully she will get a few cold showers and think less about sex. Maybe allow her a night free of the belt if she gets an A on a test.

Nothing is decided yet. Her biggest objection is comfort, not being able to pleasure herself, and missing sex with her bf. She has no issue with the being controlled or touched by her parents.

I also am trying to teach her to be more lady like and sophisticated. I though partial thigh band use might help with that to. With a chastity belt she needs to dress more conservatively which may giver her less distracting attention from boys.

What’s everyone’s thoughts? I’d like to hear from girl in similar situations and their parents who lock them.

I’m open to other ideas, but rights no she is out of control sexually.

    @Padre
    She does see a therapist weekly. We have been through several and tried to take their recommendations. She however chooses to ignore them.

      Damien assuming she takes them. As I mentioned she has impulse problems. A patch can be removed whenever she feels like it. Pills can be forgotten. So yes there are better options. But none that she can be made to take.

        PigtailSam Have you been observing this forum for a period of time?

        You seem to know the Etiquette involved in this forum along with the buzz words that tend to get a half decent debate going.

          PigtailSam I haven’t see your posts and answered elsewhere.

          What will happen if she refuses? You will not pay for the college?

            PigtailSam
            Of course it is up to the therapist. It may be necessary to severely confront her with her future and consequences if she continues her behavior. It may be harsh but sometimes it is needed to get trough. And maybe the therapist can give advice about using a belt or not. May be part of a confrontation therapy. Of course the therapist will know best what to do. There can only be one captain.

              Philip I know nothing about buzz words. Long time leaker but I just joined today. I’ve read a decent amount though.

              Padre several have given up on her. She knows the consequences for f her actions but she just doesn’t care

                PigtailSam and what if she accept because of your pressure. What if she grow hating you?

                Another problem, the idea that being in chastity will help her concentrate is silly. You are basically removing the release, so craving will increase a lot. She will think only to sex and nothing else.

                  PigtailSam When my sister was that age, she got an IUD that was good for several years (5 I think but not positive) from what I understand, those are supposed to be one of the most reliable methods and once in you need a doctor to take it out if/when you want to get pregnant. Sounds like a good option for someone with impulse control issues.

                  Other concerns: dose your daughter live at home? If not, how would you handle hygiene?
                  Also, how involved is the boyfriend? If he cairs about her than maby he would be willing to encourage her to study.

                    PigtailSam
                    I don't think you will find the right help on this forum. I guess you hope it will since several therapists have given up on her and you are desperate. Maybe there is a therapist who can do more and be more determined. Maybe they can let her experience the consequences using hypnosis so it may be a very real experience for her that will make her think again. I think a psychiatrist can do a lot and that is what you need.

                    PigtailSam She is failing her collage courses. She spends to much time at her boyfriend’s dorm and isn’t studying

                    Did you know about this before she started college?

                    PigtailSam My proposal was to make her wear a chastity belt if she wants me to keep paying for college

                    You should have done it long time ago. College is always risky place for a girl.
                    https://unwedchastity.org/d/5-chastity-belts-in-colleges-and-unversities

                    PigtailSam not being able to pleasure herself, and missing sex with her bf

                    What is more important for her?

                      Milord she won’t hate me. We are very close. I don’t plane to force this on her. Is plan to talk her into it and incentivize her to accept it.

                        pestulens she can remove an iud if she wants to. (At least I think they can be removed). Also I’d rather not force her to take medicine she doesn’t need. But I get that an iud might not be as bad as a belt. But it does seem worse to me forcing her to take birth control.

                          pestulens Other concerns: dose your daughter live at home? If not, how would you handle hygiene?
                          Also, how involved is the boyfriend? If he cairs about her than maby he would be willing to encourage her to study.

                          Just figured out how to quote lol

                          She does live at home. Her bf really brings out the worst in her. He doesn’t encourage her to study and work hard.

                            Laura Did you know about this before she started college?

                            I’ve always known about her poor study habits but she managed to get by in highschool without much studying. As I mentioned she is really smart. She just doesn’t apply herself. In highschool the material was easy enough she didn’t have to try hard. She met the boy friend in college. He has been a poor influence on her.