OK, thank you for your understanding. Let me try and answer some questions and get back to some of the others later. @Laura there is no need to restore anything but thank you for the offer. Anything I write from this point forward will be to correct the record and hopefully answer any questions that were raised before.
My real background is very similar to what I wrote initially. I grew up in a repressive religious community in the western US. I would prefer not to get into specifics. Around the age of 16 or so I was made to wear a chastity belt at the insistence of my mother. That decision wasn't to be questioned, period. It was awkward and uncomfortable, and it was my job to figure out how to live with it.
My mother was the unquestioned leader of the family. My father had two daughters from his first marriage, Susan and Kate, that came with him when he married my mother. His first wife, Susan and Kate's mother, passed away from cancer. They were about 2 and 4 years old when I was born. They were always nasty to me, probably because they hated my mother and took their anger towards her out on me. Part, and it is a big part, of my ire towards them is that they did not have to wear belts, my father shielded them from that. I had no such luck. They ridiculed me when they knew I had to wear the belt, and they didn't.
I knew at a young age that I was attracted to other girls, which was a huge taboo in my community, and the fate of an arranged marriage to one of the creepy old men there meant that I had to leave at all costs. No way could I live my life like that. When I finally got the courage to escape, I took off and never looked back. I moved to Southern California, met a wonderful older man who helped get me started working in his business. There was no sexual relationship of any kind, he was just a very kind man who saw a girl in need of help and over the years I made a good deal of money working for him. Eventually his children took over his business and I left on good terms with all of them. I had saved more than enough money that I did not need do anything.
I got bored after a few years and eventually decided to open a bar/restaurant in Southern California. At that time, I hired a girl that worked as both a waitress and bartender, she was very popular with the customers because of her bubbly personality and good looks. I try not to get involved with the personal lives of my employees because I think it is just bad business. In her case though it was difficult not to as she was always talking about her chaotic lifestyle of excessive drinking, marijuana smoking and other activities which always seemed to involve her sleeping with mostly men, but the occasional woman.
One night she broke down and told me that she had to figure out a way to get "off of the treadmill" and that she couldn't go on like this. She said that she was controlled by her addictions and her constant need to fulfill the sexual desires of others, especially men. She hated herself for it.
Not knowing what else to do, I asked if she wanted to move in with me where I could help her get control of her life. Lilly is her name. She herself came from a broken family and really had no one else to turn to and I felt compelled to help. She accepted my offer to move into my house. I fully accept that there is lots of grey area in here and some people would feel that my motivations in so are questionable.
Nevertheless, she moved in discreetly, as neither of us wanted anyone else to know she was living with me. We did not share a bedroom, and our relationship was non sexual. She appreciated the home life that I provided but did still go out regularly and did engage in many of the same risky behaviors, which she always regretted the next morning. I broached the idea of her wearing a chastity belt, as I did, to prevent these sexual encounters and curb her lifestyle. It was around this time that I joined the forum looking for ways to help convince her that this was path worth taking. Eventually I reached the point that if she wanted to continue to live with me, she had to wear the belt. I had reached my limit.
The story of Susan largely mirrors what happened between Lilly and I. There is much more that I can get into later on. But this is kind of an overview. The forum was really beneficial in that many of the people here helped me, and helped Lilly, get control over her life while helping me come to terms with a dark chapter in my past.
