Yes,I can understand what you mean.
You prefer that your partner is the leader,but don't want him,or nobody else,to consider you inferior to him.
There is some parts where the society can affect the choice of a woman;for example,some studies and works are less often choosen by women,more because it was more men's studies and work usually,even if the women are totally able to do it as well,like high technologies.
However,the choice about leaving her family or not,for example,depend too on the personnality of the woman.
Angelina but a family bond is different from a relationship or a marriage