Purpose of preventing masturbation?

Angelina my father doesn't want it because he thinks that only our husband/wife should bring us to orgasm

Same for me. My father thinks it's the man's privilege to be in charge of orgasms.

Angelina Yes, at least it would be very difficult

Sara2001

luckily my father doesn't care as long as I'm married

amber Is it harmful? (I thought it wasn't?)

It isn't harmful at all.Except if excessive,of course.

Laura

One of the reason.

My parents think it it is unladylike to do it.And that I should control my urges better;

Often,one reason is because parents think it is the first step to have sex(and maybe become a slut).

amber

Does it mean you'll be able to take it off in some years?Or you can ask for permission(for example,if you're in a serious relationship)?

Angelina

Yes,it should be explained more.

Sara2001 Yes, at least it would be very difficult

He wouldn't be convinced,if noticing her girlfriend makes her happy,and that they truely love each other?

Angelina

Same for me,they never wanted to control my sexual orientation.

I think another purpose is so you don't become addicted to pleasure and have a guy in your house, or end up pregnant, or prevent diseases, or to not be distracted from life/school, or your mother is religious and wants you to remain a virgin until marriage. Sounds like she still thinks you don't know what she means, so she keeps giving you a vague answer all the time. If you do admit to know what is sex, masturbating, and STDs are, she might be honest, but I don't know. You're belted until marriage now, or until 18, whatever your mother decides.

Vanessa My parents think it it is unladylike to do it.And that I should control my urges better

Of course just my point of wiew, but in this I agree with their vision. I do not agree with force none girl, but the idea of a girl doing it... I do not like so much.

Raziel

it could also be reasons - you're right

that's why I think it's so important to talk openly about the topic, so that such misunderstandings don't arise

but I think it won't change her situation much

Hi everyone my name isnt Jimmy, male clearly and 23, but for these purposes I've chosen that name for this, and I've just gone through most of everyone's chats from months and months ago and I dont think any of you are aware of this yet but many of you have gone through a major change in your beliefs and advice you give to others.

I disagree with many things said here but emphasize with many of you as my chastity experience has been fully consetual and for my own amusement. Angelina you in particular give very surprising advice now compared to months ago.

amber after reading many of your messages amber I'm ver concerned for you in particular because it seems as though unlike the others who are controled for religious beliefs or as disaplinary measures, your mother simply desires control over you which I know can be very damaging mentally for you.

amber Although masturbation is not physically harmful, it does require a decent time investment and can be a little addictive IMO. Don't take my word for it though, I am not a girl.

Angelina it's exactly that. There's a common thing seen in psychology where someone overtime will chose something familiar rather then unfamiliar, even if that thing is bad for them. You were terrified and miserable and were pleading with people on here when your thigh bands were added on. Now, because it's familiar, you just tell people to play nice, do as their told. The thigh bands worked and you've become a great deal more submissive then at the start. Your father was successful in what he was trying to do.

Jimmycane

that's not true, you didn't read my posts properly or I expressed myself too badly, I want to express completely different things

Jimmycane You could always try not mansplaining, man.

James any chance you could explain how I'm mansplaining by pointing out what I've noticed? Because it seems like the goal of alot of people on here is to help others get used to the chastity, which I respect, but I don't share this same reason for joining this discussion. I garuntee and I hope I'll be a different view point in this. It's ironic you say I'm mansplaining dispite men on here literally using chastity as disaplinary measures.

Angelina I respect that you see it differently, just this is what I've noticed. Your overall tone seems to have changed. In my personal opinion.

Jimmycane Because the definition of mansplaining is "to comment on or explain something to a woman in a condescending, overconfident, and often inaccurate or oversimplified manner."

You've come in here with a debating, white knight sort of attitude to prosthelytize. What you don't seem to appreciate is this is a forum made by women. Whatever you might think about their situations, you don't need to come in with an offensive manner, as if you're seeking to shake the apples off a stubborn tree in early fall.

James... Condescending? Really? In a forum where women's fathers put them in chastity cages against their will? Where some have been terrified to try anything and where when a 13 year old introduces herself she's told to just go with what she's told to make it easier on herself? Really?

As I've said multiple times now I respect the different experiences each of us has been through so we obviously will have different view points, but just because I'm going against the rough and stating my own opinions and as someone who's gotten to read through months of chats I don't feel that makes me a "white knight". Sara for example I completely disagree with but I know it's just how she was raised. I'll question and point out the things she says to stimulate a conversation some may not want to have but I won't go around insulting someone's beliefs or character unless I saw something as actually abusive. Which I would hope YOU would also point out.