Happy New Year!

a_father

Angelina I've never seen somebody who really wanted a job and didn't get one. If you really want, you start at the beginning with every job you can get and search for a better one afterwards. It's the same as in relationsship. If you have a partner you are more interesting for other people, because you have proven, you are able to handle a partnership. If you have a job, you become more interesting, because you show, that you can mange a job.

Angelina

a_father

you are right, but i meant more that finding a job is not enough. it is also very much about the emotional relationship that many here have with their parents.

Vanessa Probably much more,we're only a few numbers of chastity belt wearers,here.But most of the wearers would hide it,and not tell it to anyone.

well, if i type in the appropriate words on google, i find the forum very quickly 😉

Vanessa Maybe it is why you remember the date better,so!😉

probably 😉

Jonas

hmm... when I read that, you should work a bit more on your mental strength. 😉

Vanessa

Jonas

With a chastity belt,it is mainly frustrating to surf porn,so I doubt you would do it,even if possible.

Angelina i am glad to have advantages in this point. 🙂

You're lucky!

But it's right that my parent's thinking about it is logical.

Angelina do you think there is much more outside the forum ? 😉

Probably much more,we're only a few numbers of chastity belt wearers,here.But most of the wearers would hide it,and not tell it to anyone.

Angelina well, that doesn't apply to me, because i knew my father would want it to be permanent.

Maybe it is why you remember the date better,so!😉

Jonas

Vanessa Jonas

With a chastity belt,it is mainly frustrating to surf porn,so I doubt you would do it,even if possible.

I understand the idea and am sure it's true for other people, but for without a filter I'd view the porn and tolerate the frustration. As with all the things I'm working on about myself; I need a lock to keep me on track. Doesn't have to be a perfect lock just enough to keep me honest. 😉

Vanessa

Jonas

It works for me,no need of a filter(and I could bypass it easily,anyway).

But if a filter works for you,it is good.

Angelina well, if i type in the appropriate words on google, i find the forum very quickly 😉

But you want to find information on the net,in english,and while knowing you search for this board.

Jonas gambling

Good example,as gamblers sometimes ask casinos to forbid them to enter,to help them cure their addiction.

Angelina i share this, chocolate and for me coffee 😉

Similar for me!😉

Jonas

Angelina hmm... when I read that, you should work a bit more on your mental strength

My mental strength is my ability to make pre-commitments to enforce the behaviour that I want - from myself.

It's like when another user on here says that they wear a belt to stop themselves acting like a "slut". As soon as someone makes such a decision and backs it up with a belt, a commitment that they can't go back on, they are as far away from the problem and the weakness, as they could possibly be!

Angelina

Jonas

of course, maybe i put it a bit harshly. it just amazes me that some users here write that the belt is the only solution.

Jonas

Angelina of course, maybe i put it a bit harshly.

No problem at all! 😃 I am constantly talking about my various weaknesses on here - for cigarettes, chocolate etc etc! But the point is that I'm addressing all of them!! It's really quite an exciting time for me. And right now I am probably more strict with myself than most of the keyholders on here!

Angelina it just amazes me that some users here write that the belt is the only solution.

I see addictions as being like a black hole. From a far distance the pull seems like nothing, but when you've fallen in their pull is huge! It is really hard to escape. And it's hard for people outside the gravity well to see why you're having trouble!! 🤣

For example; I don't have a problem with gambling. It has hardly any attraction to me personally at all, but looking at other people's experiences I can see that gambling can be a real problem. It appeals to something deep within people and is clearly something to be very wary of: IE: I can see gambling is a black hole.

Naturally, after my own experience I see masturbation in the same way because I know that it can eat time and relationships. But at the start of my experience, far out from the pull of black hole, well, it just felt nice and I could stop and start whenever I wanted.

Many people think we should invest time to develop the mental strength and willpower required to make firm decisions. I take the opposite view: Putting a lock on the problem ends it immediately. Making such a pre-commitment forces me to confront the exact feelings that were holding me in addiction. Freeing me faster!! 😁

Angelina

Jonas chocolate

i share this, chocolate and for me coffee 😉

Jonas Putting a lock on the problem ends it immediately. Making such a pre-commitment forces me to confront the exact feelings that were holding me in addiction. Freeing me faster!! 😁

yes it makes you free faster, but is it also better ? it comes with a lot of side effects

Jonas

Angelina it comes with a lot of side effects

Lol. Well that's true. I have to wear a chastity belt for the rest of my life! 🤣 That's quite a side-effect!!

But then, this is more related to just how far down the black hole I slipped. And anyhow, I see the belt as more like the physical embodiment of my iron will! It will not happen again!

Angelina

Jonas I see the belt as more like the physical embodiment of my iron will!

I find this designation very interesting, because I thought that no physical embodiment are necessary for this. 😂

Jonas

Angelina 🙂 This is the essence of pre-commitment: Making a decision so strongly that you can't go back on it later.

Angelina

Jonas

Well, it seems to be working for you 🙂

Jonas

Vanessa It works for me,no need of a filter(and I could bypass it easily,anyway).

But if a filter works for you,it is good.

It's like a lock on a door - I could break it, but it's another obstacle, something to help to keep me honest, and something that hopefully would be noticed if I got around it.

Only problem is that I no longer have admin rights on my own PC - now that's frustrating!! 🤣

Vanessa Good example,as gamblers sometimes ask casinos to forbid them to enter,to help them cure their addiction.

Yes and you can get apps to lock yourself out of the phone or block certain gambling sites.

Using gambling as an example helps me to understand people who can have just one cigarette and seemingly not get addicted at all, but it also reminds me that they're playing with fire. Such things are best avoided!

Angelina

Vanessa But you want to find information on the net,in english,and while knowing you search for this board.

that's right and when i write the same words in german i don't see the forum

Vanessa

Jonas omething that hopefully would be noticed if I got around it.

Not necessarily!😉

Jonas Only problem is that I no longer have admin rights on my own PC - now that's frustrating!! 🤣

It can make installing new software difficult and make troubleshooting almost impossible.yes.

Laura

Jonas Only problem is that I no longer have admin rights on my own PC

Install a second OS with double boot if it's your own PC

Angelina

Vanessa It can make installing new software difficult and make troubleshooting almost impossible.yes.

but an IT expert like you could certainly help him, or? 😉

Vanessa

Angelina

Sure!😉

Laura

Not sure these softwares work in safe mode too.

And he can boot on an external devices,too,to bypass it.

Jonas

😉

Jonas

Laura
sticks fingers in ears
"la-la-la I can't hear you"
I'm a good boy Laura... 😇

Partly because as co-adminstrator of me I'd simply snitch on myself and then we'd go dump all my PCs, HDs etc in the trash. Turns out we're really serious about me quitting porn (and everything else that's bad for me).

(Thanks for the thought though!)

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