Sara2001

Does that mean he wants him to have an orgasm while denying you that pleasure?

      Angelina Does that mean he wants him to have an orgasm while denying you that pleasure?

      Absolutely, yes. He will have much more orgasms then me and it will be his decision only.

          Angelina Well, it's your choice if you're happy with it.

          but for me it is absolutely unacceptable

          Yes, if you had asked me a year ago, I had said that every woman who accepts this is crazy, but I can't really tell you why, but the more I learn about the whole power exchange thing, the more fascinated I am about it. Definitely nothing for everyone 🙂

              Sara2001

              It restricts a lot your freedom,so,even indirectly,by making you not even asking for permission.

              Angelina i think we will not agree 😉

              I think too!😉

              Sara2001 You mean it should not be to satisfying for him so he still wants to unwrap what he gets on marriage? That's a good advice, but I hope that will not be the case 🙂

              I think it is very unlikely he would not be interested by what is under the device he gets the key for opening it!😉

              Angelina

              Right,he might have good surprises.Using Netflix as an exemple too,Emilie made me watch interesting series I would not have watched otherwise,probably.

              Sara2001 I think it will be 1 or 2 times a month.

              It is not very often.Would it be enough for you to be happy?

              Angelina but for me it is absolutely unacceptable

              I would have trouble to accept it too.

                            Vanessa It is not very often.Would it be enough for you to be happy?

                            Of course it is less often than I had chosen myself, but I think it can be enough. I know if it is not enough, it will be increased. It's similar to what my and his mother get.

                                Sara2001

                                i've already noticed that your relationship has changed your character a bit 😉

                                Vanessa Right,he might have good surprises.Using Netflix as an exemple too,Emilie made me watch interesting series I would not have watched otherwise,probably.

                                that's exactly what I meant, very good example 😉

                                Sara2001

                                can daniel as punishment reduce the number of your orgasms ?

                                        Angelina can daniel as punishment reduce the number of your orgasms ?

                                        Wouldn't be necessary as she will always mpve towards a happy relationship with him. What could she even do? Spill coffee while riding in the car?

                                            Angelina can daniel as punishment reduce the number of your orgasms ?

                                            Technically he can, but he would get an angry wife in exchange 🙂 . Actually it is not on our "list" of possible punishments, it wouldn't make much sense, because earning an orgasm will always be a little game and he wants this fun, too.

                                                Megan

                                                i think that also sara has limits how far she would go in the relationship 😉

                                                Sara2001

                                                that sounds pretty good, but i'm still a little worried, hopefully you get your pleasure regularly

                                                      Angelina i think that also sara has limits how far she would go in the relationship 😉

                                                      I have extremely clear limits. They are very strict and very easy.

                                                      I I have the feeling that whatever happens is not out of love or that he doesn't see me as his partner but only as his servant or if it feels abusive, I would immediately demand a change or quit the relationship.

                                                      I'm sure how we organised everything feels very restrictive for most girls here and of course he has much more freedom and much more power than I have, but this is how both of us decided that it should be and I have only agreed to this because I have the feeling that I can trust absolutely trust him and that he always put my needs and my happiness at the first place.

                                                          Sara2001 and I have only agreed to this because I have the feeling that I can trust absolutely trust him and that he always put my needs and my happiness at the first place.

                                                          and as long as that's the case, I don't see any problems in your relationship. @Megan seems to see the whole thing a little bit different, but I think you are independent enough to know the conditions for a happy relationship and to record them 🙂

                                                            Sara2001

                                                            Would he consider your opinion?Or if he notices it doesn't make you happy?

                                                            In my case,I would feel it very low...1 or 2 a week would be better!😉

                                                            Angelina that's exactly what I meant, very good example 😉

                                                            More common in couples;.

                                                            Megan

                                                            Even in such relationships,I guess there can be arguments,and it seems it would often be solved with a punishment(for her)...

                                                            Sara2001 Actually it is not on our "list" of possible punishments

                                                            Good!

                                                            But you have a list of punishments he could use?Written one,or just talked about?

                                                            Sara2001 I I have the feeling that whatever happens is not out of love or that he doesn't see me as his partner but only as his servant or if it feels abusive, I would immediately demand a change or quit the relationship.

                                                            Good you still think about it this way,as you did since the relationship started.I guess your boyfriend knows it well,too.

                                                            Sara2001 I'm sure how we organised everything feels very restrictive for most girls here and of course he has much more freedom and much more power than I have, but this is how both of us decided that it should be and I have only agreed to this because I have the feeling that I can trust absolutely trust him and that he always put my needs and my happiness at the first place.

                                                            I would have trouble to accept it,but it seems to be a good relationship for you,which is the more important.

                                                                          Vanessa Would he consider your opinion?Or if he notices it doesn't make you happy?

                                                                          Both. But stating an option doesn't mean it will be exactly like I said but he takes the idea behind it into his descisions.

                                                                          Vanessa Even in such relationships,I guess there can be arguments,and it seems it would often be solved with a punishment(for her)...

                                                                          We have clear rules how to handle disagreements. They really work, but it is very important that I stay calm. Being disobedient or disrespectful would directly lead to a severe punishment.

                                                                          Vanessa But you have a list of punishments he could use?Written one,or just talked about?

                                                                          There is no physical list, that's why I used the quotes 🙂

                                                                          Vanessa Good you still think about it this way,as you did since the relationship started.I guess your boyfriend knows it well,too.

                                                                          This is my "red line" that must not be crossed.

                                                                                    Sara2001 what is the list of punishment's he give to you?

                                                                                    Sara2001 Both. But stating an option doesn't mean it will be exactly like I said but he takes the idea behind it into his descisions.

                                                                                    But if it doesn't make you happy,at least,it can become a bit better.Not too bad.

                                                                                    Sara2001 We have clear rules how to handle disagreements. They really work, but it is very important that I stay calm. Being disobedient or disrespectful would directly lead to a severe punishment.

                                                                                    As I think it was similar with your parents,as it is with mine(allowed to discuss,but not being angry,not screaming,no disrespect,etc...),I think it is not too hard to follow it.

                                                                                    Sara2001 This is my "red line" that must not be crossed.

                                                                                    Good you get one,and still keep it.

                                                                                            Vanessa But if it doesn't make you happy,at least,it can become a bit better.Not too bad.

                                                                                            Happiness in our relationship means long time happiness. I agreed that it is not necessary that any descision is like I want things now, but his overall leadership must make me happy. So I think it's fine, I didn't regret anything for now 🙂

                                                                                            Vanessa As I think it was similar with your parents,as it is with mine(allowed to discuss,but not being angry,not screaming,no disrespect,etc...),I think it is not too hard to follow it.

                                                                                            I think the same, but sometimes I slip and pay for it 🙂

                                                                                                  Sara2001 yes it's a good philosophy because chasing short term pleasure can lead to addiction I get the idea. Married is for life so you want to plan for everything Ina look ahead and be prepared view.

                                                                                                    Sara2001 Happiness in our relationship means long time happiness. I agreed that it is not necessary that any descision is like I want things now, but his overall leadership must make me happy. So I think it's fine, I didn't regret anything for now 🙂

                                                                                                    So,even if something make you unhappy,you would wait a bit to check if it doesn't make you happy after some time?

                                                                                                    Sara2001 I think the same, but sometimes I slip and pay for it 🙂

                                                                                                    Pretty normal,it is similar for me.I don't follow my rules everytime,and,sometimes,I disobey unintentionally.

                                                                                                          Vanessa how strict are your rules? I know Sara has to watch her tone of voice and what she says and talks about is it the same for.you or just rules like when you can see your girlfriend, etc.