Telling others about your belt

Sara2001

Max9 What does it actually give you that you want to live in a ds relation ..

This kind of relationship brings a great closeness and harmony. I think that this harmony is much more important and valuable then my personal independence. Living with a clear structure and the knowledge of severe consequences and consistency for failing makes it easier to maintain this harmony. I also love the concept that it is my job to make his life as good and pleasurable as possible while it is his job to make me enjoy my life, just with different tools.

Max9

Sara2001 I see. Well apart from the severe consequences it sounds nice indeed

Angelina

Sara2001

ah ok, i have too little experience in the bdsm area, so to say a "normal" relationship

Max9 apart from the severe consequences it sounds nice indeed

the system is perfectly ok, but there are still some actions I am critical of

Max9

Angelina but there are still some actions I am critical of

Which ones?

Angelina

Max9 Which ones?

first of all the chastity equipment 🤣

no seriously, it is unthinkable for me to give control to someone else, i was raised differently and i am addicted to controlling everything myself. so this would be my main point

Ines

BDSM, interesting.

Sara2001

Ines BDSM, interesting.

No, this is not BDSM. There is just a word that from BDSM that can be used. From my opinion it has nothing to do with it.

Kurt

Ines it certainly is 😉

Vanessa

Sara2001 He is actually in a very vanilla relationship. For now, she doesn't know anything about our equipment and rules.

She knows how relationships often work in your family?

Surprising she doesn't know about your devices;how long since they started to date?

Sara2001 I think wait for the next orgasm will be very hard.

I think so,too.

Angelina it could also make the general acceptance of the relationship system more difficult

Right.

Angelina first of all the chastity equipment 🤣

🤣

Max9

Angelina i am addicted to controlling everything myself.

So then you would be the dominant part in the relationship

Sara2001

Vanessa Surprising she doesn't know about your devices;how long since they started to date?

A few months. It's not visible at home and we are not allowed to talk about it outside of our maintenance session. It is a family thing and she is actually no part of it.

Angelina

Sara2001 and she is actually no part of it.

at what point do you become part of the family, only after the wedding, after the engagement or if the relationship lasts for a certain time?

Vanessa

Sara2001

Do you think she would know it soon,or probably never?

Sara2001

It was never discussed?Is your boyfriend considered as part of the family?

Max9

Or in an equal rights relationship.

Sara2001

Angelina at what point do you become part of the family, only after the wedding, after the engagement or if the relationship lasts for a certain time?

I don't know exactly, there is not really a reference. 🙂

Angelina

Sara2001 I don't know exactly, there is not really a reference. 🙂

neither with us, but i have the feeling that my father already sees camryn as part of the family 🙂

Max9 So then you would be the dominant part in the relationship

that's true, although i'm sexually more restricted , i'm generally a bit more dominant than my girlfriend. i act according to plan, she rather impulsive.

but we are a rather equal relationship 🙂

Sara2001

Vanessa Do you think she would know it soon,or probably never?

I don't know. Maybe if the relationship become very serious. When it is likely that they plan to marry maybe.

Vanessa It was never discussed?Is your boyfriend considered as part of the family?

He has a similar background then my family, so it was never really a question.

Vanessa

Sara2001 I don't know. Maybe if the relationship become very serious. When it is likely that they plan to marry maybe.

It would be logical he discuss it a bit with her if it's serious,I guess...

Sara2001 He has a similar background then my family, so it was never really a question.

Yes,but if he's considered part of the family,it would mean it is based on the duration/seriousness of the relationship,and not related to being engaged/married.

Angelina

Sara2001 I don't know. Maybe if the relationship become very serious. When it is likely that they plan to marry maybe.

on this level daniel should already have arrived, right?

Sara2001

so does it mean that someone belongs to your family once there is enough trust to speak openly about your lifestyle?

Sara2001

Vanessa Yes,but if he's considered part of the family,it would mean it is based on the duration/seriousness of the relationship,and not related to being engaged/married.

The main difference between Daniel and my brothers girlfriend is that it is just not necessarily to hide our lifestyle to him. Beside this, they are both more or less threatened the same way. Of course this makes a giant difference for me, but it is not that she is not welcome or things like that.

Vanessa

Sara2001

Right,I haven't thought about it,but if he's used to this lifestyle,no need to hide it.Which can be different for your brother's girlfriend.

Angelina you are the only one i think will get married before me 🙂

And she would probably be married before me too,yes.

Sara2001

I hope for you you would manage it.So you will start to prepare soon,right?

Ines

And I would add it is not the subject of the board(but I don't think @Sara2001 used it in a BDSM context).

Sara2001

Angelina on this level daniel should already have arrived, right?

Definitely 🙂

Angelina so does it mean that someone belongs to your family once there is enough trust to speak openly about your lifestyle?

No, but it means that there is no reason to hide this aspect, even if he is not part of the family. We are very careful when it comes to inviting others about or lifestyle. It is always a risk that they call the police or things like that.

Angelina

Sara2001 Definitely 🙂

well, i have a very precise time frame in which i want to get married and of all the girls who write here regularly, you are the only one i think will get married before me 🙂

Sara2001 It is always a risk that they call the police or things like that.

yes, we are also very careful who we tell about it, even if there are other reasons

Sara2001

Angelina well, i have a very precise time frame in which i want to get married and of all the girls who write here regularly, you are the only one i think will get married before me

I hope so. I hope in Summer 2022.

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