Telling others about your belt

Vanessa

Sara2001

Do you think she would know it soon,or probably never?

Sara2001

It was never discussed?Is your boyfriend considered as part of the family?

Max9

Or in an equal rights relationship.

Sara2001

Vanessa Do you think she would know it soon,or probably never?

I don't know. Maybe if the relationship become very serious. When it is likely that they plan to marry maybe.

Vanessa It was never discussed?Is your boyfriend considered as part of the family?

He has a similar background then my family, so it was never really a question.

Vanessa

Sara2001 I don't know. Maybe if the relationship become very serious. When it is likely that they plan to marry maybe.

It would be logical he discuss it a bit with her if it's serious,I guess...

Sara2001 He has a similar background then my family, so it was never really a question.

Yes,but if he's considered part of the family,it would mean it is based on the duration/seriousness of the relationship,and not related to being engaged/married.

Angelina

Sara2001 I don't know. Maybe if the relationship become very serious. When it is likely that they plan to marry maybe.

on this level daniel should already have arrived, right?

Sara2001

so does it mean that someone belongs to your family once there is enough trust to speak openly about your lifestyle?

Sara2001

Vanessa Yes,but if he's considered part of the family,it would mean it is based on the duration/seriousness of the relationship,and not related to being engaged/married.

The main difference between Daniel and my brothers girlfriend is that it is just not necessarily to hide our lifestyle to him. Beside this, they are both more or less threatened the same way. Of course this makes a giant difference for me, but it is not that she is not welcome or things like that.

Vanessa

Sara2001

Right,I haven't thought about it,but if he's used to this lifestyle,no need to hide it.Which can be different for your brother's girlfriend.

Angelina you are the only one i think will get married before me 🙂

And she would probably be married before me too,yes.

Sara2001

I hope for you you would manage it.So you will start to prepare soon,right?

Ines

And I would add it is not the subject of the board(but I don't think @Sara2001 used it in a BDSM context).

Sara2001

Angelina on this level daniel should already have arrived, right?

Definitely 🙂

Angelina so does it mean that someone belongs to your family once there is enough trust to speak openly about your lifestyle?

No, but it means that there is no reason to hide this aspect, even if he is not part of the family. We are very careful when it comes to inviting others about or lifestyle. It is always a risk that they call the police or things like that.

Angelina

Sara2001 Definitely 🙂

well, i have a very precise time frame in which i want to get married and of all the girls who write here regularly, you are the only one i think will get married before me 🙂

Sara2001 It is always a risk that they call the police or things like that.

yes, we are also very careful who we tell about it, even if there are other reasons

Sara2001

Angelina well, i have a very precise time frame in which i want to get married and of all the girls who write here regularly, you are the only one i think will get married before me

I hope so. I hope in Summer 2022.

bismarck

Sara2001 Have you discussed with your partner that if you beget daughters, will they have to wear the belts later, or even the bands? How about your son-in-laws? And any suspension of thigh bands wearing when looking after your children, which your partner have parts in them. If there is a sudden fire, earthquake, tsunami, volcanic eruptions, sinking boats, bad human traffickers abduct your children, terror attacks, zombies infection, martian invasion...... under panic, it would be very difficult or even unable to find the key to the bands also it takes time to open the locks. Any time delay could be regretful. What your father done do not respect you very much and you have been over respected him as a father, for a long time. What he's done to you and your female family members are very disrespectful.

Angelina

Sara2001 I hope so. I hope in Summer 2022.

then perhaps I will be right, with us summer 2023 is the goal 🙂

bismarck zombies infection, martian invasion

i think then the world has bigger problems than thigh bands 😂

Laura

nor for me, and I would add that we all want to remain decent here 😉

Kurt

Ines it certainly is 😉

Ines

Kurt
No, it is not interesting at all. At least for me.

Sara2001

bismarck Sara2001 Have you discussed with your partner that if you beget daughters, will they have to wear the belts later, or even the bands

We don't know now. But not very likely.

bismarck If there is a sudden fire, earthquake, tsunami, volcanic eruptions, sinking boats, bad human traffickers abduct your children, terror attacks, zombies infection, martian invasion...... under panic, it would be very difficult or even unable to find the key to the bands also it takes time to open the locks. Any time delay could be regretful

In middle Europe nothing of that happend in the last thousands of years, or it was at least seldom enough to not be an aspect. If our house is on fire I can get out quick enough, even with the tightbands. But that I will have to wear the tightbands (which I hate), doesn't mean that this is the case for hypothetical children, too.

bismarck What he's done to you and your female family members are very disrespectful.

I think he hasn't demand anything dangerous. But you are right, that females don't get the same respect from males as males from females in our family. Of course this is absolutely the case. Man lead, woman have to follow or will be punished. Man lead in freedom, woman have to accept strict rules and limitations. That's how or family is organised, absolutely.

Angelina then perhaps I will be right, with us summer 2023 is the goal

2022 is what we hope, but 2023 is likely, too.

Vanessa Right,I haven't thought about it,but if he's used to this lifestyle,no need to hide it.Which can be different for your brother's girlfriend

Yes, that's why there is a difference.

Vanessa I hope for you you would manage it.So you will start to prepare soon,right?

What do you mean? Prepare wedding? We have already started to make plans but we haven't booked anything or things like that.

Vanessa And I would add it is not the subject of the board(but I don't think @Sara2001 used it in a BDSM context).

BDSM is not a part of our life. I think BDSM is a sex game.

Laura

Ines Neither for me

Kurt

Ines >Yeah I know, it was a joke. Maybe a bad one 😅
I don't want to start a discussion about these theme, because this is your place and I'm happy to found a place where chastity could be discussed seriously 😀

Kurt

Sara2001 Vanessa Angelina Laura @Ines
First of all I want to apologize for this post, I start to begin reading the entire forum and every single post in it. I'm far from achieving that goal, but I try my best (info for the admins, the ones I marked as „following“ are the ones I have already read. I don‘t know if you can see this.)

By reading your comments (so far), a picture of you about your characteristics , starts to form in my head and I want to confirm if this pictures of you, I‘ve drawn so far, is near the reality (the reality in MY opinion). So this was one of the reasons I was making this post. This way I can confirm that my guesses (for now) of you are true (and yes they are).

This is your forum and I‘m only a guest in it. And I know you want this not to go out of hand and so you take action instantly and your absolutely right about this. Because of how you handle this, this forum is such a great place and I wish it would stay like this. So again I apologize for doing this post.

The other reason for doing is, is a longer text. Which I would start writing (this should take a couple of days) and I would post it in offtopic. But I will not post it, if you don‘t get me the go for it.
I can also write the text and send it to the admins via email so they can approve if I can post it.
So the decision is on your site.
Have a nice day!

Angelina

Vanessa And she would probably be married before me too,yes.

this is entirely in your hands 😉

Sara2001 2022 is what we hope, but 2023 is likely, too.

What does it depend on ? (except if you want to)

bismarck

Sara2001 Miss to mention snow avalanche or car crash. Yes I also think human have a reason to be born with two legs instead of one point some some legs, and as it is not about BDSM I think you both may change mind on that too! It's good to hear that your children are not going to suffer the restraints. I've met some scarfed or veiled women I stop short of that I saw one woman with sweat all over the face I think many men would like to see his partner dressing conservatively but if having a daughter could not tolerate her feeling unhappy.

Vanessa

Sara2001 But not very likely.

So this "tradition" would probably end with you(as your sister and brother seem to want equal rights relationships)!

Sara2001 What do you mean? Prepare wedding? We have already started to make plans but we haven't booked anything or things like that.

Yes,like deciding which guests would be invited,the flowers you will have,the caterer,the room where you and your guests would take the meals,etc...

Sara2001 I think BDSM is a sex game.

For some,it can be a lifestyle,I think,but different than your relationship and not related to chastity.

Angelina this is entirely in your hands 😉

If I want to follow my plans,it is in the hands of my employer(or future employers),too!😉

Sara2001 Finishing his studies, finding a job, finding a place to live and organising a wedding day.

I think it can be hard to manage studying and wedding at the same time.

Sara2001 I think this will be very difficult, because this day is soooo important for me.

I would not like at all to not be allowed to take decisions for my own wedding,or never have the final saying...Do you think he will take care to make his choices close to what you want,even if it is him who would decide?

Angelina Home Office ? 😂

It would be useful to be trained to work from home in case of a pandemic,like presently!

Laura

Kurt I can also write the text and send it to the admins via email so they can approve if I can post it.

Please don't do it, because I don't have time for it.
Your posts are fine, no need to apologize.

Ines

I think the same. No previous censure here.

Sara2001

Angelina What does it depend on ? (except if you want to)

It's maybe to much to organise at the same time. Finishing his studies, finding a job, finding a place to live and organising a wedding day. But we will try our best and I will do anything to make his life as easy as possible, so he hopefully has the time to organise everything. It will be a good prove how good I really am in accepting his decisions. I would love to decide everything around our wedding on my own, but I will only be allowed to explain how I would like it and make suggestions without demanding something. I think this will be very difficult, because this day is soooo important for me.

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