Home and family rules

Sara2001

Wouldn't you like to be more responsible about other things,like how to manage wisely your money and such?

Angelina in my home, the one who has the best arguments wins the discussion, so he doesn't want me to get support from camryn so he can avoid additional arguments

Good way to act.My parents tend to listen to my arguments,but they generally think much about a rule,and know how to counter a good argument.

Angelina own time management is part of the sense of responsibility

Yes,and I'm sure I could manage it well,even if not doing it like I must,but my parents think it is important to learn that work should come before fun...

Vanessa ,but my parents think it is important to learn that work should come before fun...

my father only thinks that the work has to be finished, he doesn't care when and where but the work has to be finished in time

you can see by this that he works self-employed

Sara2001 I don't know. If I am not in charge, it can't be my fault :

hahaha this is also an interesting way of thinking

Sara2001

Right,a good part about it!

Angelina my father only thinks that the work has to be finished, he doesn't care when and where but the work has to be finished in time

you can see by this that he works self-employed

Yes,I guess it can impact a bit how he thinks about it.I would like my parents think that way,too...

Vanessa

he says that time management is an important step to becoming a responsible woman

Angelina

Even if my parents doesn't think the same(they agree that learning about time management is important,but it is a less important part than "work/study come first",in their opinion),I think it is a good opinion.

Vanessa

it's just the rules of your parents, so it's hard to change anything, but maybe you can change something else because at 24 you should be able to organize your own time management

Angelina

Maybe I would try to argue about it after I get some more jobs,to show them my employers trust me and they should do so,too...

Vanessa

it would be bad if your employers trust you more than your parents, after all your parents have known you all your life

Angelina

But they know more my misbehaviors,too!

However,I would probably try to use it to make them notice I'm responsible enough,now,and they can give me a bit more freedom.

Angelina

Sure,but they care more about how I act(and acted),so I've to prove that I'm responsible enough to get this freedom.And having(and keeping)a job is a good proof about it.Being in a serious relationship too.

Vanessa

that's right, and in your professional life you will learn how to behave in a mature and adult way, you can use this knowledge at home to prove to your parents that you can manage your own time

Angelina

Yes.For now,I don't care much about it,the new rules with Emilie will be important to get used to,but I'll have a talk about it a bit after it.

And,generally,I have more chances to get some changes about my rules,if I don't ask for too much changes at the same time.It is longer,but increase the chances that my parents would accept it.

Vanessa And,generally,I have more chances to get some changes about my rules,if I don't ask for too much changes at the same time.It is longer,but increase the chances that my parents would accept it.

this is the same with me, I always say that we have to think in small steps and be patient, then we have more success

Sara2001 My father and Daniel agreed that from now on I will mainly get my rules, punishments and maintenance from Daniel.

on the one hand this is very good for you, you can prepare yourself for how it will be in your marriage and on the other hand it is certainly more pleasant to follow daniel's rules than your father's (of course not all rules are suspended, I understand that)

on the other hand i hope that your relationship has reached a point where this trust is justified and that daniel does not abuse this power