Angelina but i think that the psychological side is much more important, because i think the effort for a abstinence belt is not so much higher than for a chastity belt. but the psychological relationship is much more difficult

I am not sure about this. I have never worn an abstinent belt, but I have seen how my sister had changed over time since she is no longer able to masturbate once a week before sport class. I think knowing that masturbation is impossible and not having an orgasm helps the wearer to miss it less after some time. I think if I would be allowed to masturbate from time to time I would miss my orgasms much more on any other day.

      Sara2001 I think if I would be allowed to masturbate from time to time I would miss my orgasms much more on any other day.

      I think so too.

        Sara2001 I think knowing that masturbation is impossible and not having an orgasm helps the wearer to miss it less after some time.

        i understand why you think so, but i have a completely different opinion. of course it always depends on the character of the girl, but i am 100% sure that i could handle an abstinence belt better. the main reason is that i could accept an abstinence belt better and my anger against the belt would be much less

            Angelina the chastity belt is an extreme challenge for the relationship. it could easily happen that we distance ourselves very far from each other. he always has to make sure that i am psychologically stable enough and can handle the situation well

            And it means too that our keyholder should spend time related to it.Supervising showers,accepting to talk about it when we need to,or when we have questions...And accept we can be angry or resentful,especially at first...

            Sara2001 . I thought you meant things like time he has to invest for physical maintenance.

            It was what I think too.My parents need to take some time to supervise my showers if I want to take one without the belt on,which can happen pretty often during periods or when it is hot.

            Sara2001 I think knowing that masturbation is impossible and not having an orgasm helps the wearer to miss it less after some time.

            Not so sure.It would be very helpful for me to have some breaks to relieve my urges,even if I would probably want to have such breaks more often.

            Angelina

            Me too.An abstinence belt,or,at least,having some breaks,alone with my chastity belt off,would help me.

                      Vanessa And it means too that our keyholder should spend time related to it.Supervising showers,accepting to talk about it when we need to,or when we have questions...And accept we can be angry or resentful,especially at first...

                      exactly, so i would not say it is the easiest solution, not even for the keyholders (parents)

                      Vanessa My parents need to take some time to supervise my showers if I want to take one without the belt on,which can happen pretty often during periods or when it is hot.

                      right, it is the same with me. in winter i shower once a week without equipment, but if it is summer or if i have my period, i insist on being allowed to shower more often

                            Angelina exactly, so i would not say it is the easiest solution, not even for the keyholders (parents)

                            Of course that's true, that's exactly my argument. The lower the number of showers without the belt. The less time consuming is supervision. Of course it is only "easy" in terms of time consuming, that's what I tried to say.

                            Angelina right, it is the same with me. in winter i shower once a week without equipment, but if it is summer or if i have my period, i insist on being allowed to shower more often

                            That's a good definition, because it is comfortable for you, but I think more then one cleaning break per week is not mandatory but only very, very nice, even if you have your period as I know from myself. I don't say that it is not time consuming for me and I don't recommend this at all!!!

                                  Sara2001 Of course that's true, that's exactly my argument.

                                  yes, i understand what you mean and agree with you. i just try to look at different sides 🙂

                                  Sara2001 That's a good definition, because it is comfortable for you, but I think more then one cleaning break per week is not mandatory but only very, very nice,

                                  well i am very sensitive when it comes to hygiene. i clean the equipment every day (under supervision of course), maybe it's not necessary, but it makes me feel better, because once i am locked up in my equipment, i can't do much against germs

                                        Angelina right, it is the same with me. in winter i shower once a week without equipment, but if it is summer or if i have my period, i insist on being allowed to shower more often

                                        Logical.Does he accept often?

                                        Sara2001 Of course that's true, that's exactly my argument. The lower the number of showers without the belt. The less time consuming is supervision. Of course it is only "easy" in terms of time consuming, that's what I tried to say.

                                        However,it is important to have enough cleaning breaks,for hygiene and health.A keyholder should take care of it,and accept as much supervised showers as needed.

                                        Sara2001 more then one cleaning break per week is not mandatory but only very, very nice, even if you have your period

                                        During period,it is very important to have more cleaning breaks,I think.

                                        Angelina i clean the equipment every day (under supervision of course), maybe it's not necessary

                                        Even if not necessary,it is better to do it often.

                                                  Vanessa Logical.Does he accept often?

                                                  mostly yes, at least when I explain to him why it is urgently necessary

                                                  Vanessa and accept as much supervised showers as needed.

                                                  or even more, better too much than too low

                                                        Vanessa However,it is important to have enough cleaning breaks,for hygiene and health.A keyholder should take care of it,and accept as much supervised showers as needed.

                                                        I completely agree, but I have only one supervised shower without the belt for years now with absolutely no exceptions. So I have to say that one supervised shower per week is all that is needed and anything more is for the wearer convince.

                                                        Vanessa During period,it is very important to have more cleaning breaks,I think.

                                                        My experience is that it is possible to clean yourself well enough with the belt on. I would not suggest it as a default, but I do it like this for years. It is time consuming but it is possible and I have no hygienic problems.

                                                              Sara2001 So I have to say that one supervised shower per week is all that is needed

                                                              hmm i still find it unhygienic during the period and in summer when we sweat a lot. but this is probably just my personal feeling

                                                                  Angelina hmm i still find it unhygienic during the period and in summer when we sweat a lot. but this is probably just my personal feeling

                                                                  I like to shower more then once a day when it is very hot in summer or especially when I have my period. I don't feel unhygienic.

                                                                      Angelina mostly yes, at least when I explain to him why it is urgently necessary

                                                                      Good,even if not pleasant if you have to explain it everytime.

                                                                      Angelina or even more, better too much than too low

                                                                      Sure.

                                                                      Sara2001 completely agree, but I have only one supervised shower without the belt for years now with absolutely no exceptions. So I have to say that one supervised shower per week is all that is needed and anything more is for the wearer convince.

                                                                      So,it wouldn't change when married?

                                                                      Sara2001 My experience is that it is possible to clean yourself well enough with the belt on. I would not suggest it as a default, but I do it like this for years. It is time consuming but it is possible and I have no hygienic problems.

                                                                      Sure,but I think it should be considered as a valid exception,and so,allow more supervised showers.

                                                                      Sara2001

                                                                      I shower with my chastity belt on more often during summer or when I've my period too,but I like to add some more supervised showers without my chastity belt on too.

                                                                                  Vanessa So,it wouldn't change when married?

                                                                                  I don't think so.

                                                                                  Vanessa I shower with my chastity belt on more often during summer or when I've my period too,but I like to add some more supervised showers without my chastity belt on too.

                                                                                  I would like it, too. But not having this opportunity doesn't make me unhappy. It is not very likely.

                                                                                        obviously women should be allowed to climax whenever they please. It's their bodies, they are sentient human beings.

                                                                                          mekekelo obviously women should be allowed to climax whenever they please. It's their bodies, they are sentient human beings.

                                                                                          Then why shouldn't we be allowed to consensually give up climax?

                                                                                              Katie Sara2001 it’s not consensual for me any more, I really want to climax

                                                                                              Yes, there should be a path for getting rid of the chastity belt, even when you agreed to wear it before. Like waiting 4 weeks or so and deciding then if you want to continue.

                                                                                                  Sara2001 Of course you should be able to its your body and if you wish to do so because of your partner, then it is indeed your choice 🙂

                                                                                                    Sara2001 I don't think so.

                                                                                                    Not very good!🙁

                                                                                                    Sara2001 I would like it, too. But not having this opportunity doesn't make me unhappy. It is not very likely.

                                                                                                    Maybe it doesn't bother you much because you're used to not be allowed...

                                                                                                    Sara2001

                                                                                                    It's your choice,but you did it because your boyfriend wants it.

                                                                                                    Sara2001 Like waiting 4 weeks or so and deciding then if you want to continue.

                                                                                                    I agree,she should have the possibility to decide to stop wearing it if she doesn't want to.But it is more than 3 months since she accepted it.

                                                                                                    However,@Katie,what would happen if you tell your mother you want to have it off,and,if she doesn't give you the keys immediately,you would destroy the belt anyway?Would there be consequences,or not much?