Partners on the forum
Joh Of course I get hugs and things like that all the time, of course he shows me that he sees what I do for him and what I have to do because of the rules from my father, but it is normally not directly related to a concrete situation related to my equipment and the comfort issues related to it.
Sara2001 Of course I get hugs and things like that all the time, of course he shows me that he sees what I do for him and what I have to do because of the rules from my father, but it is normally not directly related to a concrete situation related to my equipment and the comfort issues related to it.
I am not sure if I got it. Does it mean if you have an emotional problem of your equipment you have to handle it on your own?
Foxies However, my partner does read this forum and if anyone wants to know what her opinions and motivations are in our relationship, she is willing to answer questions.
I do have a few questions for you both, if I may. First up: Hi! I'm Prudence , trans woman who has been posting about a year 
. I haven't posted much in recent months but I feel a certain kinship with you in that we are both women of a certain age who choose to remain locked by our wives. I'm not quite up there with you, as i'm pushing 50 soon, but I suspect we have certain similarities in generation. You're also a little bit of an inspiration, as I expect to spend the rest of my life in my belt and it's good to know that it still can be done later in life.
I'm curious to learn more about how you first applied the belt to your relationship. You mention you learned about it from one of her books, which tells me that in some way, your wife knew a little bit about belts going into this. So this question is for your wife: Did you have a pre-existing interest, and how did you come around to Foxies' way of thinking?
Also for your spouse, because I think this is useful for my own marriage as well to understand better: Is it hard to take up that responsibility if you're not already naturally the kind of person to do it? Plenty of dominant people would happily belt their wife, but you sound like this is not really specifically your thing. And it can definitely get complicated when your spouse isn't always happy with their locked state. (None of us are 100 percent happy with the belt all the time -- if we were, it wouldn't have to be locked!) How do you mentally manage the challenges?
Does the belt impact other avenues of your relationship? My marriage is spousal-led and the belt represents among other things my acceptance of my wife's authority over me, but I recognize that this is not the same for all.
And lastly, both for you and your spouse: is your belting something you give to your spouse and your spouse alone, or are you committed to the belt either way? Do you have any intention or plans for remaining locked in the event something happens to her?
Thanks .
(Sorry for lengthy reply. Ines, - you have another cheap novel to read 
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This is Foxies partner writing on her account. If the moderators don’t like this – let me know and I will stop writing. We just use this one email account for non-vanilla business so I do not want to open another account.
First – we are not married though have been together over 35 years. I do lead our relationship but it is more like Captain and First Mate than D/s. I enjoy fiction writing and about 12 years ago I wrote a romantic F-F novel that had D/s elements. When I was writing the story, I came across a picture of a Neosteel belt in a magazine. I had never believed such items existed for real and was quite surprised. It looked erotic and I used the idea as part of a plot line where one of my characters voluntarily wore it as a symbol of love by giving her most precious possession to her partner.
It was just fiction and honestly, I thought it was silly. Foxies didn’t. It struck a chord with her and she wanted to wear one for me. I thought it was a ludicrous idea. I was a nurse and thought the hygiene and discomfort issues would be insurmountable. We argued for five years until finally I gave in thinking it would be a nine-day wonder. I even made it hard for her when she was “training”, as people here call it. I made do every bathroom visit in it and she had to show me that she could stay clean. She persevered, though I would always unlock her every night (and still do) when we showered together.
It was hard for me to take up the responsibility, especially because I immediately became responsible for her care and safety. Some people here, think it is a form of bondage. I would agree. It binds us very tightly together and she is never out of my mind. However, after twenty years we had been taking each other for granted. With the belt, that changed massively and its impossible to say how much it changed our relationship for the better. It emphasizes how we both have to keep each other satisfied and happy. She gave up an incredible freedom for me. Words can’t express how much it means to me and how much I love and care for her.
Since I hold her keys on a chain around my neck, I suppose it does emphasize our relationship and her acceptance of my authority. However, I would unlock her immediately if she were unhappy and the unlocking would restore her happiness. If anything happens to either of us, the belt will not be needed and thus will be discarded.
Foxies thanks for the detailed response! I don’t mind long replies; if you read much more of me you’ll know that I never use one paragraph where four will do .
And thank you for taking such good care of Foxies. It’s very special to have someone who will supervise your belting with the proper love and attention. I feel fortunate to have my wife, just as Foxies is lucky to have you.
Joh Does it mean if you have an emotional problem of your equipment you have to handle it on your own?
No, of course not. If I have an emotional problem with my equipment, he hugs and cuddles me as I need it and we talk about why this is necessary and useful, but yes, even if it is not strictly forbidden, he appreciates when I don't ask or beg for a release, even in those situations. It doesn't happen anyway.
Saintprudence It’s very special to have someone who will supervise your belting with the proper love and attention
I couldn't have said it better. Even if it is strict it's very, very, very beautiful when you known, see and feel that it is done out of love for you.
Sara2001 ... it's very, very, very beautiful when you known, see and feel that it is done out of love for you.
Somehow its nice to read here that others see it as I do.
Of course the forum itself may be biased away from this point of view since it is specifically for the discussion of "unwed" chastity. The members who write the most here are not in wedlock and so are concerned with CB's for other reasons. I took advantage of the forum to learn about thigh bands, but crept in "under the wire" since technically I am "unwed" - smiles.
It is a bit of a shame from my perspective that there isn't a similar forum for Wed Chastity (I am familiar with BeltedGirls.com), that is not kink related.
Foxies We've talked about doing "Wed Chastity" here but concluded that enough topics already successfully overlapped both that it would be redundant .
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Angelina Is it possible to get married in your country ?
Indeed, it has been possible for same sex couples to wed for a few years now, and before that "civil unions" were allowed.
My partner and I have often discussed it, but since we have been together for so long, in our own minds we are wedded. Essentially we have no need of any sort of "blessing" by others. Possibly for sentimental reasons we prefer to remain as we are (living in sin ).
This is no critique of others who prefer recognition of their commitment to each other. Its actually rather sweet. We also recognise it can provide a legal framework for the protection of children. Sadly, this is something we have no need of.
Sorry, I wasn't aware that the specific topic of wedded chastity has a specific thread here.
Foxies clarification: there wasn’t a specific “wedded chastity” topic. Just a discussion within other topics that we seemed to have belting within marriage pretty well covered already!
Foxies We also recognise it can provide a legal framework
It has also an advantage for different sex couples. In an emergency your partner unconscious in hospital and decision should be mad if you are married it is much easier. Otherwise the doctor could not acknowledge you as partner and listen to you.
Foxies This is Foxies partner writing on her account. If the moderators don’t like this – let me know and I will stop writing.
No problem,especially if you always tell when it is you who write on this account.
And welcome!
Angelina in germany, real marriage has only been possible for same-sex couples for a few years, before that we had the system of an officially registered live partnership.
Like in France,it seems.
However,if you want to open one,I don't think it would be a problem.
Foxies This is no critique of others who prefer recognition of their commitment to each other. Its actually rather sweet. We also recognise it can provide a legal framework for the protection of children. Sadly, this is something we have no need of.
no, i don't want to put you under pressure it was just a thought, even though i understand that after a long relationship it would only be symbolic
children are another topic and yes my girlfriend and i are thinking about how to solve the natural problem of a lesbian relationship.
Joh In an emergency your partner unconscious in hospital and decision should be mad if you are married it is much easier.
I don't know how it is in other countries, but in Germany there are so-called living wills, i.e. a document stating who is allowed to make decisions in an emergency.
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Vanessa No problem,especially if you always tell when it is you who write on this account.
And welcome!
This is Angela writing on my partner Foxies account. Thank you for the welcome and I will do my best to identify myself if or whenever I add a comment - smiles.
Oh, and I very much appreciate the polite atmosphere on this form. It is a welcome change after seeing so many other forums. 