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Vanessa But you would wear the belt after the mistrust is removed by the talks?
well, i think if the distrust is so severe that i agree to wear the belt it will take several conversations over a longer period of time and during that time i would wear the belt. after that, when the trust is back, of course not anymore
We weren't even aware of this thread until the most recent posts..
However, my partner does read this forum and if anyone wants to know what her opinions and motivations are in our relationship, she is willing to answer questions.
Sara2001
Sorry, I found this post now and I am refering to
Sara2001 Daniel gave me this answer (translated by me, I hope we understood it right, it's about what is done when I get angry):
No disrespect and no disobedience are two of the most important rules in our relationship. She knows when she rebells against her equipment, she will get punished for this. She has a space to discuss her thoughts about her belt, bra and tightbands in a calm and respectful way during her weekly maintenance, outside of this meeting I expect her to never argue against the belt or show any sign of resistance. The 2 corner times every day help her a lot to avoid lapses, the knowledge that the punishment will nothing she can enjoy does the rest. So she shows how hard it is for her from time to time but she never act up. There is nothing like a pause from our rules.
And thisSara2001 I have learned that emotional support doesn't need an argument about the device to happen. I can always say that I feel very limited or restricted. Or that this or that is not easy in my equipment. But I must begin with something like "Of course I understand why this is necessary and I don't want to change your decision but..." or "I of course understand why this is necessary but...". Of course it must not only be a phrase but he has to believe me, so it has to be honest.
Joh Of course I get hugs and things like that all the time, of course he shows me that he sees what I do for him and what I have to do because of the rules from my father, but it is normally not directly related to a concrete situation related to my equipment and the comfort issues related to it.
Sara2001 Of course I get hugs and things like that all the time, of course he shows me that he sees what I do for him and what I have to do because of the rules from my father, but it is normally not directly related to a concrete situation related to my equipment and the comfort issues related to it.
I am not sure if I got it. Does it mean if you have an emotional problem of your equipment you have to handle it on your own?
Foxies However, my partner does read this forum and if anyone wants to know what her opinions and motivations are in our relationship, she is willing to answer questions.
I do have a few questions for you both, if I may. First up: Hi! I'm Prudence , trans woman who has been posting about a year 
. I haven't posted much in recent months but I feel a certain kinship with you in that we are both women of a certain age who choose to remain locked by our wives. I'm not quite up there with you, as i'm pushing 50 soon, but I suspect we have certain similarities in generation. You're also a little bit of an inspiration, as I expect to spend the rest of my life in my belt and it's good to know that it still can be done later in life.
I'm curious to learn more about how you first applied the belt to your relationship. You mention you learned about it from one of her books, which tells me that in some way, your wife knew a little bit about belts going into this. So this question is for your wife: Did you have a pre-existing interest, and how did you come around to Foxies' way of thinking?
Also for your spouse, because I think this is useful for my own marriage as well to understand better: Is it hard to take up that responsibility if you're not already naturally the kind of person to do it? Plenty of dominant people would happily belt their wife, but you sound like this is not really specifically your thing. And it can definitely get complicated when your spouse isn't always happy with their locked state. (None of us are 100 percent happy with the belt all the time -- if we were, it wouldn't have to be locked!) How do you mentally manage the challenges?
Does the belt impact other avenues of your relationship? My marriage is spousal-led and the belt represents among other things my acceptance of my wife's authority over me, but I recognize that this is not the same for all.
And lastly, both for you and your spouse: is your belting something you give to your spouse and your spouse alone, or are you committed to the belt either way? Do you have any intention or plans for remaining locked in the event something happens to her?
Thanks .