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Vanessa

Angelina probably yes, but only if she sees no other way out and if that is the case, we urgently need to have many conversations. but yes for a limited time i would accept

Understandable.Good you would have several talks too!

Angelina

Vanessa Good you would have several talks too!

mistrust can only be removed by talking and only then would i wear the belt 🙂

Vanessa

Angelina

Logical.

But you would wear the belt after the mistrust is removed by the talks?Why,if there is no mistrust anymore?

Angelina

Vanessa But you would wear the belt after the mistrust is removed by the talks?

well, i think if the distrust is so severe that i agree to wear the belt it will take several conversations over a longer period of time and during that time i would wear the belt. after that, when the trust is back, of course not anymore

Vanessa

Angelina

Understandable.

In such situation,I maybe would accept to do similar.

Angelina

Vanessa In such situation,I maybe would accept to do similar.

but I do not believe that this will happen. camryn knows how much i hate the belt and i think emilie knows it about you too

Vanessa

Angelina

Yes,it was only theoretical.

Angelina

Vanessa

and hopefully it will remain so 🙂

Joh

Sara2001 I have learned that emotional support doesn't need an argument about the device to happen.

What kind of emotional support do you get? Does he hug you or comfort you in another way.

Sara2001

Joh I am sorry, I don't know what you are referring. The last post is more then half a year old.

Sara2001

Joh Of course I get hugs and things like that all the time, of course he shows me that he sees what I do for him and what I have to do because of the rules from my father, but it is normally not directly related to a concrete situation related to my equipment and the comfort issues related to it.

Joh

Sara2001
Sorry, I found this post now and I am refering to

Sara2001 Daniel gave me this answer (translated by me, I hope we understood it right, it's about what is done when I get angry):
No disrespect and no disobedience are two of the most important rules in our relationship. She knows when she rebells against her equipment, she will get punished for this. She has a space to discuss her thoughts about her belt, bra and tightbands in a calm and respectful way during her weekly maintenance, outside of this meeting I expect her to never argue against the belt or show any sign of resistance. The 2 corner times every day help her a lot to avoid lapses, the knowledge that the punishment will nothing she can enjoy does the rest. So she shows how hard it is for her from time to time but she never act up. There is nothing like a pause from our rules.
And this

Sara2001 I have learned that emotional support doesn't need an argument about the device to happen. I can always say that I feel very limited or restricted. Or that this or that is not easy in my equipment. But I must begin with something like "Of course I understand why this is necessary and I don't want to change your decision but..." or "I of course understand why this is necessary but...". Of course it must not only be a phrase but he has to believe me, so it has to be honest.

Foxies

We weren't even aware of this thread until the most recent posts..
However, my partner does read this forum and if anyone wants to know what her opinions and motivations are in our relationship, she is willing to answer questions.

Joh

Foxies e weren't even aware of this thread until the most recent posts

It has an Archive tag. Now wonder.

Angelina

Foxies

then your partner should register here, i am not a fan of writing to people via several corners, i prefer to do it directly 🙂

Saintprudence

Foxies However, my partner does read this forum and if anyone wants to know what her opinions and motivations are in our relationship, she is willing to answer questions.

I do have a few questions for you both, if I may. First up: Hi! I'm Prudence , trans woman who has been posting about a year 🙂. I haven't posted much in recent months but I feel a certain kinship with you in that we are both women of a certain age who choose to remain locked by our wives. I'm not quite up there with you, as i'm pushing 50 soon, but I suspect we have certain similarities in generation. You're also a little bit of an inspiration, as I expect to spend the rest of my life in my belt and it's good to know that it still can be done later in life.

I'm curious to learn more about how you first applied the belt to your relationship. You mention you learned about it from one of her books, which tells me that in some way, your wife knew a little bit about belts going into this. So this question is for your wife: Did you have a pre-existing interest, and how did you come around to Foxies' way of thinking?

Also for your spouse, because I think this is useful for my own marriage as well to understand better: Is it hard to take up that responsibility if you're not already naturally the kind of person to do it? Plenty of dominant people would happily belt their wife, but you sound like this is not really specifically your thing. And it can definitely get complicated when your spouse isn't always happy with their locked state. (None of us are 100 percent happy with the belt all the time -- if we were, it wouldn't have to be locked!) How do you mentally manage the challenges?

Does the belt impact other avenues of your relationship? My marriage is spousal-led and the belt represents among other things my acceptance of my wife's authority over me, but I recognize that this is not the same for all.

And lastly, both for you and your spouse: is your belting something you give to your spouse and your spouse alone, or are you committed to the belt either way? Do you have any intention or plans for remaining locked in the event something happens to her?
Thanks 🙂.

Laura

Joh It has an Archive tag.

No, it wasn't

Joh Now wonder.

Sometimes I move back and forth, but not this topic

Joh

Laura No, it wasn't

Sorry. Than I mixed it with another topic I was reading.

Joh

Sara2001 Of course I get hugs and things like that all the time, of course he shows me that he sees what I do for him and what I have to do because of the rules from my father, but it is normally not directly related to a concrete situation related to my equipment and the comfort issues related to it.

I am not sure if I got it. Does it mean if you have an emotional problem of your equipment you have to handle it on your own?

Foxies

Angelina

That's fine. She will continue reading over my shoulder 👌

Sara2001

Joh Does it mean if you have an emotional problem of your equipment you have to handle it on your own?

No, of course not. If I have an emotional problem with my equipment, he hugs and cuddles me as I need it and we talk about why this is necessary and useful, but yes, even if it is not strictly forbidden, he appreciates when I don't ask or beg for a release, even in those situations. It doesn't happen anyway.

Foxies

Saintprudence

(Sorry for lengthy reply. Ines, - you have another cheap novel to read 🤣 )

This is Foxies partner writing on her account. If the moderators don’t like this – let me know and I will stop writing. We just use this one email account for non-vanilla business so I do not want to open another account.
First – we are not married though have been together over 35 years. I do lead our relationship but it is more like Captain and First Mate than D/s. I enjoy fiction writing and about 12 years ago I wrote a romantic F-F novel that had D/s elements. When I was writing the story, I came across a picture of a Neosteel belt in a magazine. I had never believed such items existed for real and was quite surprised. It looked erotic and I used the idea as part of a plot line where one of my characters voluntarily wore it as a symbol of love by giving her most precious possession to her partner.
It was just fiction and honestly, I thought it was silly. Foxies didn’t. It struck a chord with her and she wanted to wear one for me. I thought it was a ludicrous idea. I was a nurse and thought the hygiene and discomfort issues would be insurmountable. We argued for five years until finally I gave in thinking it would be a nine-day wonder. I even made it hard for her when she was “training”, as people here call it. I made do every bathroom visit in it and she had to show me that she could stay clean. She persevered, though I would always unlock her every night (and still do) when we showered together.
It was hard for me to take up the responsibility, especially because I immediately became responsible for her care and safety. Some people here, think it is a form of bondage. I would agree. It binds us very tightly together and she is never out of my mind. However, after twenty years we had been taking each other for granted. With the belt, that changed massively and its impossible to say how much it changed our relationship for the better. It emphasizes how we both have to keep each other satisfied and happy. She gave up an incredible freedom for me. Words can’t express how much it means to me and how much I love and care for her.
Since I hold her keys on a chain around my neck, I suppose it does emphasize our relationship and her acceptance of my authority. However, I would unlock her immediately if she were unhappy and the unlocking would restore her happiness. If anything happens to either of us, the belt will not be needed and thus will be discarded.

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