Jeff rules which are ideal and sensible for willing wearers

My thoughts here are similar to Ines.

  1. Since the very first day, all my bathroom activities have been in my belt. I am not offended by my partner seeing me in the bathroom, but in our case this is part of everyday living. I certainly wouldn’t want anyone else watching.
  2. Since I have long past my menopause, this is not an issue for me. However, if it weren’t, I suspect I would prefer to keep belted, providing I could maintain hygiene and safety.
  3. I am relatively new to thigh bands and currently feeling them out. However, a part of it seems to be that the night time is when they are more likely to be used in a more restrictive way. At the moment indeed, my partner adds a padlock directly which limits the freedom provided by the normal connecting chain. While it does add some discomfort, I enjoy the attention my partner provides while she secures the lock. A locking bra is still under discussion but has been for a long time.
  4. I have only ever worn a waist band – but then I am not so young where fancy occasions (smiles) would make much difference.
  5. Oh no to this one! Scheduled releases would destroy the fun of the surprise and of course the spontaneity!
  6. Now in my mid-sixties, sports are beginning to be something of the past. However, I hike every week (COVID lockdowns permitting) and have done it since I was belted and no longer think about it. Starting this week however, my thigh bands will be unchained for hiking, though the bands will remain in place.
  7. Since I am locked up, the only alternative would be to stay inside. Sorry but that just isn’t on!
  8. We aren’t actually married though we might as well be. From our perspective, my belt is more significant than a wedding ring.
  9. The masturbation thing is complicated and I am not sure if the forum permits a deeper discussion. But simply, I can do nothing without my partners knowledge. As my keyholder, my belt allows her to either participate or not. Her choice.
  10. Utterly not necessary. My only “breaks” are when travel makes the belt impossible.

      Jeff Your suggestion may be a basis to start discussing from, but I think you have too much time without the belt on. I believe that the chastity belt should be used as much as possible. We talk 24/7...

      1. No breaks for unsupervised breaks in bathroom.
      2. Belt also during periods. It is proven that it works.
      3. The best is to use thigh bands and bra is during nights!
      4. Waist style is the best choice and should also be the first choice.
      5. WHY free Sunday nights?
      6. A well fitted chastity belt works fine in most sports.
      7. YES! But also belted at home.
      8. This is up to the partners to agree with.
      9. I see no reason to take any breaks for masturbations.
      10. NO! No breaks any days. You are locked in your chastity belt 24/7.

          Tobbe A well fitted chastity belt works fine in most sports

          It depends on the level of sport. Here I disagree fully.

              Ines I agree, but I also write "in most sports" and I not talk professional or more extrem sports.

                Foxies We aren’t actually married though we might as well be. From our perspective, my belt is more significant than a wedding ring.

                I am in the same situation and we feel the same. We have been together for a decade now. Lol

                  Jeff
                  Why should breaks be necessary. Even for the willing as i am. The purpose for my chastity is to be more reserved for my partner.

                    Jeff many rules which are ideal and sensible for willing wearers

                    Thinking about this, it seems silly (sorry Jeff) to imagine that it makes sense that there would be one list of “ideal” rules that would work for all willing wearers. Surely it would depend on many variables? A possible list of such might include:

                    1. Why the person is willing to wear a chastity belt in the first place (worse consequences, loss of family privileges, loss of respect within a cultural group etc.)
                    2. Cultural background of the parties involved.
                    3. History that might have led to the decision (perhaps an alternative punishment?)
                    4. Relationship pf wearer to keyholder
                    5. Ostensible reasons for wearing the chastity device (protection, safeguard, prevention of rape or unwanted pregnancy, demonstration of commitment or love for the keyholder etc.

                    There are doubles other considerations.

                    A rule designed to protect virginity of the wearer would make little sense for a married woman who has already given birth to sons or daughters. Also, one rule for hygiene would likely (such as for a male) be impractical for another who might be on her period or one who is unable to access his/her keyholder when necessary.

                      Jeff Free from chastity every Sunday night
                      Sounds fair and good but difficult to control for masturbation

                      Jeff To be allowed to masturbate on Sundays/ to have sex on Sundays if she is married.

                      Depending on how far you want to go of course. Some want to be protected from masturbation ... depends just like #5 on the circumstances... but I feel it's actually easier if you are locked for two weeks of three weeks without breaks than having an orgasm every few days / every week.
                      Bust still, I really support people to be free from their device for some time every week / few weeks, especially when it's about men because of health reasons ... it doesn't need to be constantly supervides in a direct way of course. Unlocking and going for a walk in public or going to Church on sunday or so (would be inapropriate if you can see the bonther through the pants in Church) ... it's an as good protecion from masturbation as condtant supervision.

                          I see you all have your POV,but we should know that for willing wearers or convinced wearers,it is important to reward them for their sacrifice and if you say there should be no breaks,come on,the wearer will throw away the equipment. I don’t know how you feel but if I were to convince someone to be a chaste, this rules would be the ‘ideal’ rules for both the wearer and key holder. Some of the advices are even sick and controlling, the main point of chastity is to be safe and reasonable. If people were given no bathroom,period, masturbation breaks, it’s literally torture.So like I said you all have your own way of thinking but the main reason to be a chaste is to be safe and not denying ourselves of any pleasures.Any other reason beyond this is just sickness and controlling.

                            Jeff to be a chaste is to be safe and not denying ourselves of any pleasures

                            This is two opposites! 😅
                            You can not be locked in a chastity belt and at the same time be completely free!
                            I do not think you really understand why we use chastity belts 24/7.

                            • Jeff replied to this.

                                People try to correct me but what I have written is my opinion and I'm not making any statements. You can't say an opinion is right or wrong, you can do that for statements. So it's best we hear people's opinions and not correct it.

                                  Jeff No one has said that it is right or wrong, but as you can see how others write, they do not agree with you.
                                  I see your suggestions more as when someone takes care of the keys themselves and is given certain rules to wear the chastity belt. With so many options to avoid using the chastity belt, it is hardly nothing that protects against masturbation. More a fetisch.

                                      Jeff
                                      Jeff, I Do not try to correct you. I am discussing! You have all the right to think or consider adequate different things.

                                      Jeff the main reason to be a chaste is to be safe and not denying ourselves of any pleasures

                                      Jeff, I disagree. Safety includes the protection of sexuality. This is the point. And this is only acceptable it it is willingly.

                                          Ok, please discuss further with others and come to a conclusion about ideal rules.

                                            Jeff So if you have something to add to this list, please do

                                            i would add that these rules should also apply to involuntary wearers, perhaps i will become a voluntary wearer after this 😂

                                            but basically I am of the opinion that we should not set up fixed rules for voluntary wearers, everything should remain voluntary and must therefore be regulated individually 🙂

                                              Jeff

                                              Even if not a willing wearer,I would try to answer it as I think it would work for one.

                                              1.Yes with the belt on,supervised only if with the belt off.
                                              2.Periods can be managed with the belt on.
                                              3.I agree.Maybe keep the thigh bands on.
                                              4.Not for fancy occasions,can be considered if going out and/or needing to wear clothes that would not cover the waist band.
                                              5.Why not.Sunday or another day or night,once a week,can be good.
                                              6.Depends on the sports,and if she do sports alone or in a team.
                                              7.Of course.
                                              8.Possible,but not necessary.
                                              9.Yes for masturbation(or use a token),having sex should not be planned so much,in my opinion.
                                              10.Why?Not necessary,nor useful,I think.

                                              Renita

                                              🤣

                                              I agree!

                                              Jeff

                                              @Ines is a willing wearer,and her answers are probably based on her rules,so your opinion is not right for everyone.

                                              Tobbe With so many options to avoid using the chastity belt, it is hardly nothing that protects against masturbation. More a fetisch.

                                              A willingly wearer may want to wear it,but not be totally prevented to masturbate.It doesn't mean the wearer is a fetishist.

                                                        Vanessa You've hung up on the word masturbating. My last sentence was a compilation on Jeff list and reading it, I think it will be more of a fetishist to follow it.

                                                              Vanessa so your opinion is not right for everyone.

                                                              that's right, that's what the forum is for, that we can exchange different opinions. otherwise it would be very boring here if we were always in agreement