Ideal rules for willing wearers

Max9

Jeff Free from chastity every Sunday night
Sounds fair and good but difficult to control for masturbation

Jeff To be allowed to masturbate on Sundays/ to have sex on Sundays if she is married.

Depending on how far you want to go of course. Some want to be protected from masturbation ... depends just like #5 on the circumstances... but I feel it's actually easier if you are locked for two weeks of three weeks without breaks than having an orgasm every few days / every week.
Bust still, I really support people to be free from their device for some time every week / few weeks, especially when it's about men because of health reasons ... it doesn't need to be constantly supervides in a direct way of course. Unlocking and going for a walk in public or going to Church on sunday or so (would be inapropriate if you can see the bonther through the pants in Church) ... it's an as good protecion from masturbation as condtant supervision.

Jeff

I see you all have your POV,but we should know that for willing wearers or convinced wearers,it is important to reward them for their sacrifice and if you say there should be no breaks,come on,the wearer will throw away the equipment. I don’t know how you feel but if I were to convince someone to be a chaste, this rules would be the ‘ideal’ rules for both the wearer and key holder. Some of the advices are even sick and controlling, the main point of chastity is to be safe and reasonable. If people were given no bathroom,period, masturbation breaks, it’s literally torture.So like I said you all have your own way of thinking but the main reason to be a chaste is to be safe and not denying ourselves of any pleasures.Any other reason beyond this is just sickness and controlling.

Tobbe

Jeff to be a chaste is to be safe and not denying ourselves of any pleasures

This is two opposites! 😅
You can not be locked in a chastity belt and at the same time be completely free!
I do not think you really understand why we use chastity belts 24/7.

Ines

Jeff
Jeff, I Do not try to correct you. I am discussing! You have all the right to think or consider adequate different things.

Jeff the main reason to be a chaste is to be safe and not denying ourselves of any pleasures

Jeff, I disagree. Safety includes the protection of sexuality. This is the point. And this is only acceptable it it is willingly.

Vanessa

Jeff

Even if not a willing wearer,I would try to answer it as I think it would work for one.

1.Yes with the belt on,supervised only if with the belt off.
2.Periods can be managed with the belt on.
3.I agree.Maybe keep the thigh bands on.
4.Not for fancy occasions,can be considered if going out and/or needing to wear clothes that would not cover the waist band.
5.Why not.Sunday or another day or night,once a week,can be good.
6.Depends on the sports,and if she do sports alone or in a team.
7.Of course.
8.Possible,but not necessary.
9.Yes for masturbation(or use a token),having sex should not be planned so much,in my opinion.
10.Why?Not necessary,nor useful,I think.

Renita

🤣

I agree!

Jeff

@Ines is a willing wearer,and her answers are probably based on her rules,so your opinion is not right for everyone.

Tobbe With so many options to avoid using the chastity belt, it is hardly nothing that protects against masturbation. More a fetisch.

A willingly wearer may want to wear it,but not be totally prevented to masturbate.It doesn't mean the wearer is a fetishist.

Jeff

Tobbe well let's agree to disagree

Jeff

People try to correct me but what I have written is my opinion and I'm not making any statements. You can't say an opinion is right or wrong, you can do that for statements. So it's best we hear people's opinions and not correct it.

Tobbe

Jeff No one has said that it is right or wrong, but as you can see how others write, they do not agree with you.
I see your suggestions more as when someone takes care of the keys themselves and is given certain rules to wear the chastity belt. With so many options to avoid using the chastity belt, it is hardly nothing that protects against masturbation. More a fetisch.

Jeff

Ok, please discuss further with others and come to a conclusion about ideal rules.

Tobbe

Vanessa You've hung up on the word masturbating. My last sentence was a compilation on Jeff list and reading it, I think it will be more of a fetishist to follow it.

Angelina

Jeff So if you have something to add to this list, please do

i would add that these rules should also apply to involuntary wearers, perhaps i will become a voluntary wearer after this 😂

but basically I am of the opinion that we should not set up fixed rules for voluntary wearers, everything should remain voluntary and must therefore be regulated individually 🙂

Angelina

Vanessa so your opinion is not right for everyone.

that's right, that's what the forum is for, that we can exchange different opinions. otherwise it would be very boring here if we were always in agreement

Verrouille

Vanessa A willingly wearer may want to wear it,but not be totally prevented to masturbate.It doesn't mean the wearer is a fetishist.
Considering this, I am not a willingly wearer. And I think that now I am not a fetishist anymore.

Vanessa

Tobbe

Ok,sorry for the misunderstanding.

Vanessa

Angelina

I agree.

Angelina

Verrouille Considering this, I am not a willingly wearer. And I think that now I am not a fetishist anymore.

then you have an involuntary lifestyle ??? (sorry, the definitions are getting too exhausting 😂 ).

Vanessa

Verrouille

If it is willingly,there could be an agreement about possible releases,while using it seriously.Several of us here are using it seriously,but have releases.

Foxies If a person in a chastity belt keeps the keys

It is why wearing a chastity belt while keeping the keys is mainly useless.

Angelina

I agree.If rules have to be changed,these should be accepted again.

Foxies

While this thread is interesting is that we get to see how people think about wearing chastity devices, the whole concept of rules, as agreed to by a community of people, does seem a little silly.

If a person in a chastity belt keeps the keys then the "rules: are whatever that person wants and (can change constantly). So why bother? 🤣

If there is an interested and committed keyholder, then the rules are whatever they want them to be. Instead of "he who has the gold makes the rules" - it literally becomes "he who has the keys makes the rules" At that point the wearer becomes either willing, reluctant or unwilling.

I suppose the wearer then becomes deliriously happy, or unhappy or somewhere in between 🤣

Is there more? Am I missing something?

Ines

Foxies

Foxies the whole concept of rules, as agreed to by a community of people, does seem a little silly.

I agree, with you.... Mainly. But it is true that some elements are pretty universal in a "healthy" relationship. I think that here nobody intends in write "laws in stone".

Foxies If a person in a chastity belt keeps the keys then the "rules: are whatever that person wants and (can change constantly). So why bother?

Yes, she can be a girl with a chastity belt, but, of course is not a user in essence. I think that there are necessary 3 elements: belt, girl and key holder.

But, this is my opinion, no more.

Foxies

Ines

I understand what you are saying, and I suppose there are as many views as there are people expressing them in this thread. For me, the entire raison d'etre is the dynamic that exists between me and my keyholder. I admit the only reason I am interested in the belt is my partner and the keys that she holds. If she refused to hold the keys or lost interest in why she holds them, I would ditch the belt in a heartbeat even if I had to cut my way out of it.

Verrouille

Angelina
I proposed to be belted, she accepted and now she makes the rules, including rules against my will (I dream about masturbating for example but it is out of question for her!), so I'm a little bit an unwillingly wearer I guess, no? So I think we can discuss about "ideal rules" but the reality is that the rules are those edicted by the keyholder.

Angelina

Verrouille

that is why i always recommend that the rules should be clear beforehand and limited in time. then there is no reason to discuss changes within the time frame (except in an emergency).

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