Jeff many rules which are ideal and sensible for willing wearers

Thinking about this, it seems silly (sorry Jeff) to imagine that it makes sense that there would be one list of “ideal” rules that would work for all willing wearers. Surely it would depend on many variables? A possible list of such might include:

  1. Why the person is willing to wear a chastity belt in the first place (worse consequences, loss of family privileges, loss of respect within a cultural group etc.)
  2. Cultural background of the parties involved.
  3. History that might have led to the decision (perhaps an alternative punishment?)
  4. Relationship pf wearer to keyholder
  5. Ostensible reasons for wearing the chastity device (protection, safeguard, prevention of rape or unwanted pregnancy, demonstration of commitment or love for the keyholder etc.

There are doubles other considerations.

A rule designed to protect virginity of the wearer would make little sense for a married woman who has already given birth to sons or daughters. Also, one rule for hygiene would likely (such as for a male) be impractical for another who might be on her period or one who is unable to access his/her keyholder when necessary.

    Jeff Free from chastity every Sunday night
    Sounds fair and good but difficult to control for masturbation

    Jeff To be allowed to masturbate on Sundays/ to have sex on Sundays if she is married.

    Depending on how far you want to go of course. Some want to be protected from masturbation ... depends just like #5 on the circumstances... but I feel it's actually easier if you are locked for two weeks of three weeks without breaks than having an orgasm every few days / every week.
    Bust still, I really support people to be free from their device for some time every week / few weeks, especially when it's about men because of health reasons ... it doesn't need to be constantly supervides in a direct way of course. Unlocking and going for a walk in public or going to Church on sunday or so (would be inapropriate if you can see the bonther through the pants in Church) ... it's an as good protecion from masturbation as condtant supervision.

        I see you all have your POV,but we should know that for willing wearers or convinced wearers,it is important to reward them for their sacrifice and if you say there should be no breaks,come on,the wearer will throw away the equipment. I don’t know how you feel but if I were to convince someone to be a chaste, this rules would be the ‘ideal’ rules for both the wearer and key holder. Some of the advices are even sick and controlling, the main point of chastity is to be safe and reasonable. If people were given no bathroom,period, masturbation breaks, it’s literally torture.So like I said you all have your own way of thinking but the main reason to be a chaste is to be safe and not denying ourselves of any pleasures.Any other reason beyond this is just sickness and controlling.

          Jeff to be a chaste is to be safe and not denying ourselves of any pleasures

          This is two opposites! 😅
          You can not be locked in a chastity belt and at the same time be completely free!
          I do not think you really understand why we use chastity belts 24/7.

          • Jeff replied to this.

              People try to correct me but what I have written is my opinion and I'm not making any statements. You can't say an opinion is right or wrong, you can do that for statements. So it's best we hear people's opinions and not correct it.

                Jeff No one has said that it is right or wrong, but as you can see how others write, they do not agree with you.
                I see your suggestions more as when someone takes care of the keys themselves and is given certain rules to wear the chastity belt. With so many options to avoid using the chastity belt, it is hardly nothing that protects against masturbation. More a fetisch.

                    Jeff
                    Jeff, I Do not try to correct you. I am discussing! You have all the right to think or consider adequate different things.

                    Jeff the main reason to be a chaste is to be safe and not denying ourselves of any pleasures

                    Jeff, I disagree. Safety includes the protection of sexuality. This is the point. And this is only acceptable it it is willingly.

                        Ok, please discuss further with others and come to a conclusion about ideal rules.

                          Jeff So if you have something to add to this list, please do

                          i would add that these rules should also apply to involuntary wearers, perhaps i will become a voluntary wearer after this 😂

                          but basically I am of the opinion that we should not set up fixed rules for voluntary wearers, everything should remain voluntary and must therefore be regulated individually 🙂

                            Jeff

                            Even if not a willing wearer,I would try to answer it as I think it would work for one.

                            1.Yes with the belt on,supervised only if with the belt off.
                            2.Periods can be managed with the belt on.
                            3.I agree.Maybe keep the thigh bands on.
                            4.Not for fancy occasions,can be considered if going out and/or needing to wear clothes that would not cover the waist band.
                            5.Why not.Sunday or another day or night,once a week,can be good.
                            6.Depends on the sports,and if she do sports alone or in a team.
                            7.Of course.
                            8.Possible,but not necessary.
                            9.Yes for masturbation(or use a token),having sex should not be planned so much,in my opinion.
                            10.Why?Not necessary,nor useful,I think.

                            Renita

                            🤣

                            I agree!

                            Jeff

                            @Ines is a willing wearer,and her answers are probably based on her rules,so your opinion is not right for everyone.

                            Tobbe With so many options to avoid using the chastity belt, it is hardly nothing that protects against masturbation. More a fetisch.

                            A willingly wearer may want to wear it,but not be totally prevented to masturbate.It doesn't mean the wearer is a fetishist.

                                      Vanessa You've hung up on the word masturbating. My last sentence was a compilation on Jeff list and reading it, I think it will be more of a fetishist to follow it.

                                            Vanessa so your opinion is not right for everyone.

                                            that's right, that's what the forum is for, that we can exchange different opinions. otherwise it would be very boring here if we were always in agreement

                                                a month later

                                                Vanessa A willingly wearer may want to wear it,but not be totally prevented to masturbate.It doesn't mean the wearer is a fetishist.
                                                Considering this, I am not a willingly wearer. And I think that now I am not a fetishist anymore.

                                                    While this thread is interesting is that we get to see how people think about wearing chastity devices, the whole concept of rules, as agreed to by a community of people, does seem a little silly.

                                                    If a person in a chastity belt keeps the keys then the "rules: are whatever that person wants and (can change constantly). So why bother? 🤣

                                                    If there is an interested and committed keyholder, then the rules are whatever they want them to be. Instead of "he who has the gold makes the rules" - it literally becomes "he who has the keys makes the rules" At that point the wearer becomes either willing, reluctant or unwilling.

                                                    I suppose the wearer then becomes deliriously happy, or unhappy or somewhere in between 🤣

                                                    Is there more? Am I missing something?

                                                      Foxies

                                                      Foxies the whole concept of rules, as agreed to by a community of people, does seem a little silly.

                                                      I agree, with you.... Mainly. But it is true that some elements are pretty universal in a "healthy" relationship. I think that here nobody intends in write "laws in stone".

                                                      Foxies If a person in a chastity belt keeps the keys then the "rules: are whatever that person wants and (can change constantly). So why bother?

                                                      Yes, she can be a girl with a chastity belt, but, of course is not a user in essence. I think that there are necessary 3 elements: belt, girl and key holder.

                                                      But, this is my opinion, no more.

                                                              Verrouille Considering this, I am not a willingly wearer. And I think that now I am not a fetishist anymore.

                                                              then you have an involuntary lifestyle ??? (sorry, the definitions are getting too exhausting 😂 ).

                                                                  Angelina
                                                                  I proposed to be belted, she accepted and now she makes the rules, including rules against my will (I dream about masturbating for example but it is out of question for her!), so I'm a little bit an unwillingly wearer I guess, no? So I think we can discuss about "ideal rules" but the reality is that the rules are those edicted by the keyholder.