Saintprudence hoped to have the key one day but was told that I didn't need it
Refusing
Laura It's hard to believe since she didn't wear a chastity belt
I know for me it's impossible even if I knew Mum thought so strongly. Maybe I guess the wrong meaning of things which were not clearly said or maybe she wants me to believe things which aren't true. Maybe it is like @a_father said and I shouldn't try to understand. But it feels like understanding more will help restore our relationship.
Laura they were probably correct.
Laura after all you’re, what, 11 years belted and still a virgin? It would be a shame to put to waste all those years of virtuous behavior because you got the key.
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Jen I know for me it's impossible even if I knew Mum thought so strongly
Maybe she feels humiliated to admit it
Saintprudence It would be a shame to put to waste all those years of virtuous behavior because you got the key.
I don't need to wear a belt 24/7 to remain virgin
Laura your parents seem to believe otherwise!
Laura forgive me, I’m probably being too strident, like a recent convert. I’ve been willingly locked for years, but by mother-in-law holding my second key - and acting as a true caring mother - for the past six months is giving me a new perspective as an adult locked by parent.
Saintprudence your parents seem to believe otherwise!
They don't see why I should stop wearing it
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Laura It has been an effective tool at deterring forbidden touch and preserving virginity for more than a decade. It’s little wonder they see no reason to alter a successful schedule. The only true proof against contact is 24/7 security.
Lana and keys will be with me and not them
It wouldn't work.
Saintprudence they were probably correct.
And they know her better.
Renita and they know that there is only one reason for a long-term belted to request to be unlocked more often.
Laura I don't need to wear a belt 24/7 to remain virgin
Tell this your parents. But you know the answer. You can only stop it yourself, they won't. Here on the forum you have sometimes a very sarcstic way saying things. If you behave the same in real life, you may evict potential partners before they find out you are not as bad as you seem in the beginning. Or have you given up in the meantime?
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Jen But it feels like understanding more will help restore our relationship.
You should make clear you want a good relationship but no chastity belt. In this case she has to understand you, not vice versa. Otherwise she is happy in the end and you wear the belt. If the belt is the condition for a good relationship it is blackmailing and not worth fighting for. You should make clear, buying the belt was a very bad idea and damaged the realtionship additionally. Don't forget, not only you have to understand, she has too. Both should akt as if the belt wasn't here and find a solution without the belt.
If you agree wearing the belt, she will be so proud of you, but don't forget, she is proud of herself because she made you wearing the belt. Parents know the weak points of children and take advantage of them. And which child doesn't want parents to be proud of. This whole feel-good story afterwards is just about getting your mom what she wants. Sure the stories, she tells about her life to get your understanding are true? And even if she had bad or good experiences, these are not your experiences. No reason for you to give up your freedom. Imagine, you have to ask your mom afterwards for permission if you want to touch your private parts!
i thought she was still a virgin (sorry if i forgot), 
otherwise yes, if she is no longer a virgin i agree with you
Jen I understand more just how upset she was when she found my toy.
So she expected your first orgasm to be with your husband and was disappointed when she realised it wasn't. ?
Jen then they likely could have convinced me.
this is the best way, but it only works if parents and daughters have roughly the same idea of sex and masturbation.
Jen But it feels like understanding more will help restore our relationship.
that's exactly the way it is and showing understanding doesn't mean you immediately end up in the belt. make your point clear but show understanding 
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Angelina that's exactly the way it is and showing understanding doesn't mean you immediately end up in the belt. make your point clear but show understanding
But she has to make clear, that understanding does not mean wearing the belt. You can understand the other without doing what they want. Understanding is necessary on both sides.@Angelina, you should know best. Your father shows understanding, but does he unlock you?
Understanding the position of the others means only, I understand how you feel / what you think. That does not mean, you agree.
Saintprudence and they know that there is only one reason for a long-term belted to request to be unlocked more often.
Usually two, but only one in her case 
Jen I disagree.
Let me describe in a more sophisticated way what I am getting at.
By the destruction of your hymen you are technically no longer a virgin. However, since you have not yet been intimate with someone else, you are of course still a virgin in terms of your experience and feelings.
Your mother gave you to understand that she went into marriage as a virgin. Possibly even without having experienced an orgasm before. For her and your father it was something very special. That's nice and true her decision to do it that way.
With you it is completely different. You know how nice an orgasm feels and your hymen is destroyed. This makes the argument for a CB invalid.
What your mother claimed for herself also applies to you. She had decided to go into marriage as a virgin. So it is also solely your right to decide how you want to handle it. Whether you only want to be intimate with your Ms./Mr. Right after the marriage or before or you make it dependent on other things.
Another train of thought to ponder.
I don't want to belittle or question the special moment your parents had on their wedding night. If that moment was so indescribably unique, why have sex at all afterwards? Everything that comes after that can only be worse. From my experience I can tell you that every time I was intimate with my new girlfriend for the first time it was also a special moment. There were also special moments in our relationship due to special circumstances. Every single one stands for itself and cannot be compared with the other moments.
a_father But she has to make clear, that understanding does not mean wearing the belt.
of course, i agree with you on this point
a_father Your father shows understanding, but does he unlock you?
no, but that is also because I have more understanding for him than he has for me.
a_father Understanding the position of the others means only, I understand how you feel / what you think. That does not mean, you agree.
that's right, so it is for me with 99% of your posts 
So,even if you don't like it much,you're more a voluntary wearer,now?
Jen Any conversation like that will make things worse.
Anyway,it seems you can't make it better by talking about it,at least...So not a good way to avoid it.
Jen Well yes, but it is becoming a proper argument
The topic of the chastity belt seems to make the ambience worse in your home,and not only for you...
So,it is your father who is on your side about it,and would accept you don't wear it?
Joh You are not really a virgin anymore
She's not physically virgin.
Angelina that is certainly what most parents want
Probably,yes.
Angelina parents can still come up with the idea of permanent wearing after a few years.
Yes.And unexpectedly,in my case.
Angelina right, she should be extremely careful, thighbands are probably not explicitly planned but could be ordered later on
Right,as they order the D-rings.
Renita It can be restored
A bit extreme in @Jen's case...
HHelen You can use it as an argument
Difficult to make them trust her,I guess.
Jen I understand more just how upset she was when she found my toy.
Good you start to understand each other a bit more.
Jen Would I then be writing like you do now?
Not necessarily;it depends on each people.
I agree,the deal is not too bad,in your case.
Laura I had the same plan. Good luck
Let's hope it goes better in her case!
Very sad and angry to hear this,I guess.
Jen understanding more will help restore our relationship.
I think so,too.
Laura I don't need to wear a belt 24/7 to remain virgin
Sure,it isn't needed.
It is often what is thought,so harder to ask for being unlocked when locked for a long time without too much problems before...
Angelina So she expected your first orgasm to be with your husband and was disappointed when she realised it wasn't. ?
Good question.
Angelina this is the best way, but it only works if parents and daughters have roughly the same idea of sex and masturbation.
Which is not at all the case for @Jen.