Saintprudence Chastity belts are pretty outrageous things if you're not already up to your neck in the lifestyle
right. usually legal and psychological assessments of a situation like this take into account the 'culture of the person'. What is a appropriate for people differs. Questions such as "is said person living in an isolated community?" "are they secular or more traditional?" should be considered, for example.
Joh You are not really a virgin anymore
I disagree.
These are both true. Mum says a lot when upset. I think I understand her thoughts more now she has such an extreme different time. They have not spoken to me about this or said it should be like this for me, but I think for Mum it was first ever orgasm with Dad, more than just being virgin. I understand more just how upset she was when she found my toy.
Renita Was there a reason to not believe?
@Saintprudence answered this well. I didn't need a reason not to. Not believing was normal.
Gina But I don't think my parents are wrong.
You have written that you don't like it and also that you don't have a choice. It scares me to read these things - if my parents were both sure that it was best and that they could force it on me, then they likely could have convinced me. Would I then be writing like you do now?
Jen You should make clear that you are you and your mother is your mother and her experience is not yours. They have no right to decide about your sexuality. They will try to talk you into the belt and once agreed, there is no way back. You should block every discussing about the belt. Best you leave the room, when your parents bring up this theme. Otherwise you end like other girls here. In a discussion you make mistakes. So best to avoid it in a way like 'We can talk about everything, but not about this.' Don't try to understand your mother in this case. Showing understanding is the first step into permanent chastity. You can say, I understand your point of view, but it's your way of life, not mine. And I refuse your methods (the belt).' Girls here who didn't have a choice try to write, that there are advantages too (I can't imagine, what this should be), so as not to have to admit that they are in a hopeless situation. It's like with the Stockholm syndrome (if you don't know, ask Google). At some point you show understanding for those who do this to you in order to be able to endure it better. But that doesn't make it any better.
Laura were you told the keys would one day come back to you when you got a job, or you hoped they would?
Saintprudence hoped to have the key one day but was told that I didn't need it
Laura It's hard to believe since she didn't wear a chastity belt
I know for me it's impossible even if I knew Mum thought so strongly. Maybe I guess the wrong meaning of things which were not clearly said or maybe she wants me to believe things which aren't true. Maybe it is like @a_father said and I shouldn't try to understand. But it feels like understanding more will help restore our relationship.
Laura they were probably correct.
Laura after all you’re, what, 11 years belted and still a virgin? It would be a shame to put to waste all those years of virtuous behavior because you got the key.
Jen I know for me it's impossible even if I knew Mum thought so strongly
Maybe she feels humiliated to admit it
Saintprudence It would be a shame to put to waste all those years of virtuous behavior because you got the key.
I don't need to wear a belt 24/7 to remain virgin
Laura your parents seem to believe otherwise!
Laura forgive me, I’m probably being too strident, like a recent convert. I’ve been willingly locked for years, but by mother-in-law holding my second key - and acting as a true caring mother - for the past six months is giving me a new perspective as an adult locked by parent.
Saintprudence your parents seem to believe otherwise!
They don't see why I should stop wearing it
Laura It has been an effective tool at deterring forbidden touch and preserving virginity for more than a decade. It’s little wonder they see no reason to alter a successful schedule. The only true proof against contact is 24/7 security.
Lana and keys will be with me and not them
It wouldn't work.
Saintprudence they were probably correct.
And they know her better.
Renita and they know that there is only one reason for a long-term belted to request to be unlocked more often.
Laura I don't need to wear a belt 24/7 to remain virgin
Tell this your parents. But you know the answer. You can only stop it yourself, they won't. Here on the forum you have sometimes a very sarcstic way saying things. If you behave the same in real life, you may evict potential partners before they find out you are not as bad as you seem in the beginning. Or have you given up in the meantime?
Jen But it feels like understanding more will help restore our relationship.
You should make clear you want a good relationship but no chastity belt. In this case she has to understand you, not vice versa. Otherwise she is happy in the end and you wear the belt. If the belt is the condition for a good relationship it is blackmailing and not worth fighting for. You should make clear, buying the belt was a very bad idea and damaged the realtionship additionally. Don't forget, not only you have to understand, she has too. Both should akt as if the belt wasn't here and find a solution without the belt.
If you agree wearing the belt, she will be so proud of you, but don't forget, she is proud of herself because she made you wearing the belt. Parents know the weak points of children and take advantage of them. And which child doesn't want parents to be proud of. This whole feel-good story afterwards is just about getting your mom what she wants. Sure the stories, she tells about her life to get your understanding are true? And even if she had bad or good experiences, these are not your experiences. No reason for you to give up your freedom. Imagine, you have to ask your mom afterwards for permission if you want to touch your private parts!
