Angelina because it would damage the family, if it does not work it can destroy a lot of things within the family because the trust that was not there in this situation is no longer there in other situations.
I would let the family be destroyed by it. And I would think it was their doing not mine. But yes it would be difficult but also I don't say it to be stubborn - more like a self defence, I have to be clear about it for myself or the whole thing is overwhelming. also long term I think it would be better anyway - the short term destroy family and move on is better than long term me being destroyed. But anyway i don't think this is something i need to worry about.