Your Mom's Thigh Bands

Ines Yes.. but she is a girl too.

Ever considered that your set of values (all girls equal, men different set of rules) does not automatically apply to the rest of the world? In many relationships who is dominant and who submits to that autority is not determined automatically by gender but based on the individual preferences of the 2 people involved - and it might well turn out that the dynamics are exactly reversed from what you know and prefer.
And with gay relationships there is obviously no automatism based on gender possible but it is always determined by what both sides like.

curious rules) does not automatically apply to the rest of the world?

Yes, thanks. I am pretty aware.

curious Ever considered that your set of values (all girls equal, men different set of rules) does not automatically apply to the rest of the world? I

please, @Ines has her values, i have mine and you have yours. we shouldn't play them off against each other. we live in a society where women have more opportunities than ever before, but that doesn't mean that women always have to use them. some women want to be protected or controlled by their men. be respectful and accept different ways of life.

Angelina

I do accept that.
I just observed that Ines always puts forward her ideas of men-dominanted society and women needing control / belting etc. whenever someone writs - like in this case Maija - about a relationship where one woman wants to be keyholder of the other.

curious

yes, because @Ines doesn't think that's right. in a lesbian relationship (and i agree with you) it is not possible any other way

Angelina yes, because @Ines doesn't think that's right.

Exactly my point.
I do not understand why she always feels compelled to push her preferences into a discussion which is not about herself or her relationship. If I know my opinion deviates from what the wider society considers "normal", I fight for my right to live according to my values but I do not try to push these values onto everyone else.
And that´s is why I put forward that question to her, because I wanted to point that out.

curious I do not understand why she always feels compelled to push her preferences into a discussion which is not about herself or her relationship.

We need a score keeper to determine how many times she does it and how many times you do it.

curious

i disagree, @Ines has the right to participate in any discussion like everyone else. both you and i also participate in discussions even though the situation has nothing to do with our own

Ines well, she is. But even though she doesn't like being locked, she likes to take control over me (and I like it too). My father and Anna are actually working out some details about her keyholding my bra and thighband padlock when no family members are around (this would enable me to have the chain, currently I have to wear the padlock since no-one would be there to lock and unlock it)

Maija

Does she use bra or bands too?

Maija

i am impressed, but then the bra would no longer be a part of the goal that you are chaste, but would become a "toy" of your relationship. i think for you it is an improvement, but i don't understand it

Maija Do you have any idea what conditions are attached to it or have the negotiations already ended?

Maija But even though she doesn't like being locked, she likes to take control over me

We know she has to use a chastity belt too, but does she use thigh bands an bra too?
What is the regime of usage for the girls in her family?

Ines currently she also wears bands and bra. Other women in her family do the same

Maija Other women in her family do the same

Fair.
Does she use them 24/7 as you?

Maija currently she also wears bands and bra. Other women in her family do the same

so she also comes from a family where chastity is a kind of family thing? does she have sisters who also wear chastity devices?

Ines Does she use them 24/7 as you?

Yes

Angelina so she also comes from a family where chastity is a kind of family thing? does she have sisters who also wear chastity devices?

Yes, her mother and sister wears as well

Maija Yes

So, if your father allow her the control of some of your keys, you will have much more freedom than her.

Maija her mother and sister wears as well

Fair.