Sara2001 I feel that I have answered this question a thousand times before
Sorry, not really.
Sara2001 We don't fight against my fathers rules because it is not worth it.
From what you have told us, trust is not a part of your father's vocabulary. The way it looks to me, he wants to have everything under control.
What all parents need to learn is to let go of their children so they can build and live their own lives. Do you think he can do that and not interfere with you?
My previous question was aimed exactly at that. In order to live your own life, you have to make your own decisions and not be patronized by your parents. This does not mean that you should have no contact with each other. But it is a huge difference if I ask my parents for advice and then decide what I do or if they tell me what to do and what not to do.
A general knowledge from parenthood is: if you want to keep someone, let him go.
Sara2001 but beside this, not much would change.
Exactly. Nothing would change, so why he insist to control you both?
As I wrote in another topic. I try to bring up a new view. It is on you to decide nobody else.
