Vanessa I am addicted to orgasm, she is not. I am happy for her and I am happy that my energies are redirected into living a highly productive life. The only downside is that I'm aroused all the time, but it's not painful, just very frustrating on times.

      Jonas

      It's very different not being addicted,and never doing it...

      But if you like it,it's good.

          Vanessa It's very different not being addicted,and never doing it...

          right but maybe it's like some drug addicts. one orgasm and he can't stop himself anymore

              Angelina right but maybe it's like some drug addicts. one orgasm and he can't stop himself anymore

              Yeah, I definitely feel addicted so relapse is always a danger.

              But this is also all about how I make decisions in general... I think about things for a very long time, discuss them with my wife, then when I'm ready I finally I make a very strong choice and live with it.

              I've decided orgasm and (especially) masturbation aren't good for me, ...so they're out of the picture.

              This doesn't mean I don't miss them both!!

              But I prefer living with the feeling of sexual frustration if it means that I also feel fully engaged in life with a drive to succeed etc.

                  Jonas But I prefer living with the feeling of sexual frustration if it means that I also feel fully engaged in life with a drive to succeed etc.

                  i try to understand, but i think it is better not to do it if it causes you serious harm, even if the consequence is enormous frustration.

                      Angelina I wasted a lot of time. Can't do that now. Can only live and engage with the world!! 🌍

                      The trick, I think, is to transform frustration into positive words and activities, like I think you do.

                          Jonas The trick, I think, is to transform frustration into positive words and activities, like I think you do.

                          well, i haven't managed to turn the frustration into something positive yet, but i generally always try to stay positive 😃

                              Angelina well, i haven't managed to turn the frustration into something positive yet, but i generally always try to stay positive

                              Your contribution to the this forum is positive and supportive. That's just the kind of transformation I want to achieve!! 😃

                                Angelina

                                Maybe.But it is less dangerous than drugs,generally!😉

                                Jonas I wasted a lot of time.

                                If it was the main reason,limiting it would have worked,too.

                                Anyway,if you prefer it this way,it is your choice,of course!

                                Angelina i haven't managed to turn the frustration into something positive

                                Similar for me.

                                        Vanessa If it was the main reason,limiting it would have worked,too.

                                        😀 We've disagreed on this one before a while back.

                                        I only have success quitting things when I go cold-turkey. If I have a smoke or in this case an orgasm, I'm right back into the addiction again.

                                        Anyway,if you prefer it this way,it is your choice,of course!

                                        Yes, and the forum has made me aware that I am lucky that these decisions are all my choice...

                                            Vanessa Maybe.But it is less dangerous than drugs,generally!😉

                                            I agree 😉

                                            Jonas I only have success quitting things when I go cold-turkey. If I have a smoke or in this case an orgasm, I'm right back into the addiction again.

                                            hmm... i think i have written before about the father of a friend who was an alcoholic and today can normally drink a glass sometimes without getting addicted again 😉

                                                  Angelina Yep, but I'm sure you can understand that this might not be the case for everyone. For me, the cycle just restarts. Best to avoid addictive things completely, I find.

                                                      Jonas Yep, but I'm sure you can understand that this might not be the case for everyone.

                                                      of course, that is always individual 🙂

                                                        Jonas 😀 We've disagreed on this one before a while back.

                                                        Yes,and I doubt we can agree about it!😉

                                                        You should do what works best for you,anyway!🙂

                                                        Angelina the father of a friend who was an alcoholic and today can normally drink a glass sometimes without getting addicted again

                                                        Very rare.

                                                              Vanessa You should do what works best for you,anyway!🙂

                                                              i agree with you 100%, that is the most important thing 🙂

                                                              Vanessa Very rare.

                                                              Yes

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