Become a belted wife
The only thing to do now is to talk with her about it.It is diffcult to decide anything as long as you don't know her feelings and thoughts about it.
I agree.Except,maybe,if she is very submissive,like in BDSM.And it seems it is not her case.
Should it be a new type of belt;the "wedding belt"?A belt like a chastity belt,but easy to open for the husband/wife? 
So this is a question for all the future belted wives, or the ones who are already in a belted with a boyfriend/husband and obviously this is more like a kind of game during your marriage, but since your spouse is still in full control of your pleasure region, it is probably fair to assume that sexual release would still be more restricted, than without your belt. How often do you think a belted wife should be unlocked/allowed to cum? In comparison to her husband?
PaulE this is more like a kind of game during your marriage
I will stay belted after marriage, and I don't feel that it will be a kind of game. Even if my wearing is consensual, we will not really "play" around it.
PaulE How often do you think a belted wife should be unlocked/allowed to cum? In comparison to her husband?
I would love to cum whenever my husband cums, I think it is good for feeling submissive if it is less often, like he can cum several times a day, not important how often he uses this chance, while I can only cum any few days or so. Actually it looks like he wants to restrict my orgasms even more so I can expect that he will only let me cum 1 or 2 times a month.
Sara2001 Actually it looks like he wants to restrict my orgasms even more so I can expect that he will only let me cum 1 or 2 times a month.
Wow, I mean that's not a lot of chances you get there. I believe you said your sister in law only get's like 12 chances a year. But yours would only be 12-24. Still a lot better, but not that much. But I also think you said they play a game of edging and denial with that.
Do you think this could be used to improve a girls behavior? Like any major punishment would also cancel her next scheduled release. That would make you want to get on his good side, right? You could even propose him to getting a few more chances a year, but making them dependent on your behavior. Win - Win
I guess it would be even more effective the way your sister in law does it, since of course hers are more rare and also she is kept in a more desperate state to want one.
Sara2001 my wearing is consensual,
Sara is this getting out of hand? I wonder one a man is 100% in charge if that is what you want a traditional old time marriage. What is in it for him to push past 100%???
What is this about his sister? Even if she is to be obedient to her husband If I were her brother, sister, or parent there would still be requirements for her happiness.
I don't know exactly what is going on so I just see this is all moving rather suddenly.
PaulE I will only get orgasms as a reward for outstanding good behaviour. If I doesn't act as expected, I will most probably loose my orgasm. I don't know if we will do the edging thing, too. I really have mixed feelings about it but my (future) sister in law swears to me that it is extremely hot for her.
Megan Sara is this getting out of hand? I wonder one a man is 100% in charge if that is what you want a traditional old time marriage. What is in it for him to push past 100%?
I think it should be anything or nothing. I don't want a husband who only want to be the leader if he feels in the right mood. In this case I would prefer a relationship with equal rights.
Megan What is this about his sister? Even if she is to be obedient to her husband If I were her brother, sister, or parent there would still be requirements for her happiness.
She is very happy and tells me that she has an exciting sex life.
Megan I don't know exactly what is going on so I just see this is all moving rather suddenly.
Right now and for the next year's nothing will change in our sex life, because as long as we are not married he will get no access to my chastity belt. After marriage he will have full control of my orgasms and will only grand them when he sees fit. He things, and I can see his point, that a submissive wife should focus on the husbands pleasure and not her own. So if I know, that no matter how much effort I invest in a sexual "session", only he can release his urges, I can focus more on him. Basically that's what we do now, too and I really enjoy his orgasms.
Sara2001 I will only get orgasms as a reward for outstanding good behaviour. If I doesn't act as expected, I will most probably loose my orgasm.
In management leadership you normally hear, that the carrot is the superior motivator to the stick. You just have to find the right carrot. I guess in your case it would be both, carrot and stick.
Sara2001 I don't know if we will do the edging thing, too. I really have mixed feelings about it but my (future) sister in law swears to me that it is extremely hot for her.
Why is that? What are your concerns? Because imho you already see some distinct benefits to your relationship, right`?
Sara2001 Right now and for the next year's nothing will change in our sex life, because as long as we are not married he will get no access to my chastity belt. After marriage he will have full control of my orgasms and will only grand them when he sees fit.
Haha sorry, I really thought it was very little, but I keep forgetting, that for a girl who has lived in total chastity for the last couple of years, 12 chances for release a year must sound like heaven. That sounds like a powerful carrot to me. And even if you only got very few, you already prove everyday, that is infinitely more than you really "need".
PaulE Why is that? What are your concerns? Because imho you already see some distinct benefits to your relationship, right`?
I never did edging, I can't because I am always in my belt. I fear it is extremely difficult and exhausting to stimulate yourself as close as possible to an orgasm and stop then. I think I would immediately dye from horniness afterwards.
Sara2001 I think I would immediately dye from horniness afterwards.
Are you sure you don't just imagine that? I have never heard of a girl die of hornyness, or even have negative health repercussions. I have heard, that it can be quite unhealthy for a man to have some a lot of backed up old semen, so I might am wrong here.
But you are considering it, so you must see some benefits, right?
PaulE How often do you think a belted wife should be unlocked/allowed to cum? In comparison to her husband?
I think they should both be allowed to cum as often as they need!
Sara2001 Actually it looks like he wants to restrict my orgasms even more so I can expect that he will only let me cum 1 or 2 times a month.
Which is very few,in my opinion...
Why?
Sara2001 She is very happy and tells me that she has an exciting sex life.
She may have told it because her husband was here,or because she's used to it,now,but didn't like it,too.
Angelina a submissive woman should of course pay more attention to the needs of the man, but not completely ignore her own
I think too.
Sara2001 I fear it is extremely difficult and exhausting to stimulate yourself as close as possible to an orgasm and stop then.
I think too.It can be a good foreplay,even if having to wait half a day or a day before getting an orgasm after some edging,but not more.
Vanessa She may have told it because her husband was here,or because she's used to it,now,but didn't like it,too.
No, it was in private while cleaning the kitchen after dinner together. I had the feeling that it was totally honest.
I don't know if 1 or 2 orgasms a month is enough or not. I think we will learn what makes me happy.
Vanessa Which is very few,in my opinion...
for a girl who has lived in chastity for years, it is a lot but I find it also very few 
Sara2001 I don't know if 1 or 2 orgasms a month is enough or not. I think we will learn what makes me happy.
would daniel increase the number if he found out you were unhappy?