Been gone a while
Laura How would you know if he is right one?
If you find the right person you know it. Follow you feeling.
I have actively sought a new partner several times in my life. In the process I have met many women. We talked, drank coffee, went for walks and told each other our previous life, what we like and what we do not. It comes all by itself and at some point you know. She is the right person.
Avery Yes and it's working with my grades and my running, I have actual proof with test results and running times.
You enjoy your running
it's a great bonus to have
Avery Plus it feels good to know that when I do have a guy I will be able to give him something nobody else had had, at least for a whle.
But is it about that? I think this thought is nearly a trap. There's also what your giving yourself - when you have a guy you'll have something special
you haven't had for a while. That's what makes sense to me.
Avery I know I won't last 'til I'm married
It's hard it's a crazy thing to think about
Avery Needing a belt to do it I consider a sign of weakness in me
Wow you go
That's just stress for me like locking the belt is a decision I make it and then I can relax but just being strong is like an fight with yourself. For when your actually doing stuff sure but alone or overnight...
Joh The solution is to control yourself.
if only
Avery Yup
Is right partner like - meaning life partner? I guess at least expecting it to become that?
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Jen locking the belt is a decision I make it and then I can relax but just being strong is like an fight with yourself
This sums up my own feelings exactly
Keeping plates spinning is tiring. Making a choice you can't easily go back on removes the stress and, as you say, the internal struggle and fight.
I treat the belt as a part of me. So in any meaningful sense, I am controlling myself, by choosing to wear it. 
I'm not so sure that change has to be this thing that always comes from within. We are allowed external help! For example, a friend of mine quit smoking, not because he was mentally ready to but because he'd been in hospital. The week or two where he couldn't smoke, gave him a really useful head start.
Jen But is it about that? I think this thought is nearly a trap. There's also what your giving yourself - when you have a guy you'll have something special
It's about self-discipline, self-respect, getting really in touch with your body and what it needs rather than what it wants and striving to do what's right with the gifts God gave you. And feeling a little bit special. Looking at myself in the mirror naked and knowing I'm not giving it away.
Jen It's hard it's a crazy thing to think about
I'm going to see some of the Brigham Young girls Friday and Saturday in Florida. I'd love to know what the married ones did. Did they give themselves to their guys before they got married. I have read, but not actually been told, people look the other way if you're betrothed.
Jen Wow you go
That's just stress for me like locking the belt is a decision I make it and then I can relax but just being strong is like an fight with yourself. For when your actually doing stuff sure but alone or overnight...
I've made changes in my lifestyle to make it easier. Like showering in the locker room where I can't masturbate, sleeping with my door open so people can hear if I masturbate (I yell a lot). No drinking which weakens your resistance. stuff like that.
Jen Is right partner like - meaning life partner? I guess at least expecting it to become that?
Right. I think. I don't want to get married too young tho. Want to have a career started, a few $$$ in the bank, just be older and understand more about what I want. So if I have a strong feeling for someone soon I'll give in, I'm pretty sure.
Avery Also, I can say boobs and he doesn't mind but beware of tits.
In germany there are "Möpse" (which also describes a breed of dog). 
youdontknowme But yeah, wiener puns are great
so the penis of an austrian is an "Wiener Würstchen"? 
Angelina In germany there are "Möpse" (which also describes a breed of dog).
And quite the fun visual joke, where a man compliments a women in the street on her nice pair of those, everyone around gets offended, but she thanks him and lowers her two pugs to the ground.
Funguy Yes, that was most logical. But from what you told about your mother, I didn't want to completely rule out option 1.
And to me your English is fine; this was something that could easily have gone wrong with a native speaker too. In contrast to computer languages, natural languages can often be ambiguous, and you really have to work hard to avoid them.
yes and the other day i met a pretty woman in the lift who told me to press the 2, somehow the situation escalated
Avery Thanks, that will come in handy.
Jonas Successful chastity, long term, needs lots of things to be in place, not just a belt.
Probably yes;
The belt is only a help.
Jonas So, I will still have access to this board I think, but the time I spend on here must be limited.
Try to,at least,have time on it not counted as "social media" but in special "forum" part,with its own duration.
Avery Some of the stuff makes sense though.
Yes,but there is a lot of measures,even if I understand the purpose of these.
Avery it's working with my grades and my running
Good!
Avery I will be able to give him something nobody else had had
Understandable,yes.
A good gift to a man you love.
Avery serious about.
So until a serious relationship?
Good goal.
Avery I don't know what will happen to me next summer.
Harder in Summer?
Or only due to the clothing?
Angelina i just don't think that's right.
Or you had "love at first sight" ("coup de foudre" en français).
Angelina the belt was never in my possession, either camryn had worn it or it was at her home
Ok,I thought you may have opened it during her training for permanent wearing(even if you decided not to do it).
Avery leaving the door open so I can't masturbate
Even if no one is close to the door?
Avery Needing a belt to do it I consider a sign of weakness in me, though not in others.
Maybe at first,until you manage your urges better?
Jonas some sort of cyborg
Joh If you find the right person you know it. Follow you feeling.
Sometimes,I think a new boyfriend/girlfriend was the right,but I was wrong,however...
Vanessa So until a serious relationship?
Good goal
Right.
Vanessa Harder in Summer?
Or only due to the clothing?
That plus lots of free time, places to go, stay out later because it's warm. Lots of temptations.
Vanessa Even if no one is close to the door?
Well I'm kind of a screamer. Plus someone might still be up in the common room, plus it's usually dead quiet after about 11.
Vanessa Maybe at first,until you manage your urges better?
I'll use it if I have to. Just seems like a fail.
Vanessa I will still have access to this board I think, but the time I spend on here must be limited.
Try to,at least,have time on it not counted as "social media" but in special "forum" part,with its own duration.
At this stage I've a lot of input in making and setting up the rules. Once the "lock" is in place however, I no longer get a say, for obvious reasons. So, yeah, I'll make sure at this point that there's time to visit the forum
Part man, part machine, flesh and steel as one!
Joh
let me know how it went
Vanessa Or you had "love at first sight"
not at first sight, but at the first date
Vanessa Ok,I thought you may have opened it during her training for permanent wearing
I have (un)locked the padlock, but not any more.
Vanessa Sometimes,I think a new boyfriend/girlfriend was the right,but I was wrong,however...
As I wrote in another topic. Nobody is perfect from the beginning.
For me helped a lot to get my head around who I am, what I like and not like and what I expect from my partner. After that was done I started to search for a new one.