Been gone a while

Jonas

Maybe you can explain her this board should be an exception,as it helps you about your chastity.

Angelina definitely not, I look at my watch and ... Oh 55 minutes and I still have a lot to answer

Angelina i find it frankly interesting that your parents think they can influence whether you love someone, that was a lesson my father had to learn too (you remember i wasn't allowed to have a relationship until i was 18) but he learned that love is not controllable and certainly not who you love

The talking is generally before I was in love,right after I want to date someone,so it is manageable(but unpleasant).

And they can't influence it,but make the relationship difficult to keep enough(not allowed to meet,going back straight home,rarely allowed to go out unsupervised,checking regularly my phone,etc...)to make it fail.Specially as it is the start of the relationship,so still not very strong.

Angelina uh... i think you forgot that camryn hasn't worn the belt since august (see in should i become a keyholder?). since we decided against it, the belt has been in her wardrobe.

Yes,but,when she was trying to wear it more often,do you opened it yourself sometimes?And especially the last time it was opened?

Angelina there is still the possibility that she wears my old neosteel belt when we get married, it doesn't fit perfectly, but it should be enough for the occasion.

Good idea!

Funguy I can't say that I'm totally against the idea Altough I'd like to start slowly to see if we both enjoy it if it's brought up.

You would have a lot of trying to do before finding what you like about it,I think.

Funguy she wouldn’t trust him to keep my locked.

Understandable,I think!

youdontknowme It would probably be a bad idea for you to bring up the fact that it might actually result in less masturbation though

Right.

Funguy She is very against pre-marital sex which is another reason for my belt.

Not surprising.

Funguy She's said I won't have control over the keys until I'm married, moving in with him could result in him being given the keys for convince but I think that if I do move in with him before marriage then she'd be worried he'd just give me the keys and then I'd be free to be sinful and greedy (masturbate).

Do you think you would be forbidden to move in with him?

youdontknowme Be glad if she does not ask him to get locked up if you plan to move in together before marriage.

Not sure she would be at ease to ask him to wear such device.

Funguy Yeah that is the plan we have at the moment. Get married and move out and then I’ll be free.

As you're in love,it seems a good decision!

Funguy My mom would probably be okay with holding the keys if he's okay with being belted and she wants him belted. I don't think his parents would ever be okay with him wearing a belt for these purposes and much less would hold his keys. The thing is you're right that we can still do sinful things while only one of us is belted which is why she doesn't want me to stay overnight at his place.

So,if you move,but not too far away,she may suggest it?

But not force him,it seems.

Jonas Am glad that love is put before sexual orientation in your home, That's a good sign I think.

I agree.

Avery I have gone 3 months without either masturbating or having sexual contact with some else

Congratulations,I don't think I could manage it if not wearing a chastity belt.

Avery

It is a lot of measures to avoid doing it anymore!

You do it to get the benefits,mainly(better grades,better at running,etc...)?

Until married or for a set duration?

Angelina 55 minutes and I still have a lot to answer

You could of course decide not to answer every post (except mine, obviously )

Avery Thanks. But I have been very busy so that helps,

Vanessa It is a lot of measures to avoid doing it anymore!

This is what I've found too... the belt is only a part of it. Successful chastity, long term, needs lots of things to be in place, not just a belt.

Vanessa Maybe you can explain her this board should be an exception,as it helps you about your chastity.

Even though my own chastity is up and running, this forum is still a great help to me... ...it's just that I have other problems to deal with too!! Eg: I need to be more physically active, I need to curb my spending, etc etc.

So, I will still have access to this board I think, but the time I spend on here must be limited.

Vanessa It is a lot of measures to avoid doing it anymore!

Some of the stuff makes sense though. I see girls taking massages after sports and the guy runs his hand all the way up in between your legs so he's two inches and a thin piece of cloth from touching your genitals. That doesn't help you remain chaste. Or going out to bars and getting half drunk. No wonder things happen.

Vanessa You do it to get the benefits,mainly(better grades,better at running,etc...)?

Yes and it's working with my grades and my running, I have actual proof with test results and running times. Plus it feels good to know that when I do have a guy I will be able to give him something nobody else had had, at least for a whle.

Vanessa Until married or for a set duration?

I know I won't last 'til I'm married. That could be half a dozen years. But I'd like to stay away from too much masturbation and hold out for a guy I really am serious about.

Jonas This is what I've found too... the belt is only a part of it. Successful chastity, long term, needs lots of things to be in place, not just a belt.

Definitely what I've found, it's a lifestyle. I've benefitted by reading some of the nofap stuff and no nut November. You need to set yourself up to succeed. I don't know what will happen to me next summer.

Vanessa And they can't influence it,but make the relationship difficult to keep enough(not allowed to meet,going back straight home,rarely allowed to go out unsupervised,checking regularly my phone,etc...)to make it fail.Specially as it is the start of the relationship,so still not very strong.

that's true, but it's not always the case. i fell in love with camryn when we were just video chatting and after the first date i would have already fought extremely for the relationship. i just don't think that's right.

Vanessa Yes,but,when she was trying to wear it more often,do you opened it yourself sometimes?And especially the last time it was opened?

the belt was never in my possession, either camryn had worn it or it was at her home

carg You could of course decide not to answer every post (except mine, obviously )

i don't answer every post but when there are over 200 new posts in the forum like today and i only answer half of them then ....uff already almost 2 hours (luckily i have a lot of time today)

Avery Needing a belt to do it I consider a sign of weakness in me,

I see it in the same way. The belt can help in some situation but it is not the solution. The solution is to control yourself.

Avery I'm willing to accept some help, like cold showers or leaving the door open so I can't masturbate

But how about relationships?

Laura But how about relationships?

In which way do you mean a relationship could help?
As far as I understand @Avery she will keep her cast until she found the right partner.

Laura But how about relationships?

I said in the Age To Begin thread "I want on my own to keep myself clean so when I meet a guy I really want I can give him something that's worth giving away." I have no objection to f-ing the right guy at the right time.

Joh As far as I understand @Avery she will keep her cast until she found the right partner.

Yup.

Avery I have no objection to f-ing the right guy at the right time.

Nice. Is open to everyone which letters a missing

Joh Nice. Is open to everyone which letters a missing

It's interesting finding out what words in what languages can be used and where. E.g. I heard a commentator from the United Kingdom on a US TV station talking about words like bloody, wind, shagging, words that don't exist in the US version of English (well, wind does but it means something totally different in the UK). I don't remember what he said but some words can be used on the telly and some can't. Lots of people use the word I represented as f---ing but you can't say it on TV and I would never say it in front of my father. Shagging I could use. Also, I can say boobs and he doesn't mind but beware of tits.

Avery Also, I can say boobs and he doesn't mind but beware of tits.

I am just imagining a sign with tiny little birds with black head, blue wings and a yellow-green body, and beneath that the warning "beware of tits".

But of course, we know that not just tits are birds, but also boobies. And cocks.

Seems there is a reason we talk about the birds and the bees. Maybe it should be the birds and the cats instead, though.