confusion and pride at the same time

Sin otherwise that 'first time' that you're all waiting for is going to be a pretty awkward, anxiety-ridden, painful experience.

i agree with your post, except for this sentence. the first time is always a certain borderline experience. i experienced this with my girlfriend, but it is also a special experience because there are only a few moments between pain and happiness. i think the point in time is relatively irrelevant because at the beginning it is always something new, nobody is perfect and only with time you learn more and more how your partner reacts and what pleases your partner. but this can be before, but also after the wedding

Amira Do what feels right for you. That is the only important point.

Amira then happy belated chastity birthday, Angelina!

as i am a friend of sarcasm i try to enjoy it, thank you

Amira so I gave that decision away and we are back to the rule from November and will see how it's going to work out this time.

so in short, no more breaks for now? good luck, certainly hard but i understand why it might be better for you

Amira I do and sometimes that even involves listening to my Mom

Frankly speaking she can be right but is is not a general rule.
I didn't listening to my father and found out much later is was a mistake. It is a good way to take her advise in to account but not follow it blindly.

Amira I feel that it's more complicated to have breaks because this gives a bit of a feeling of becoming a lot of focused on the free days and I am not sure if I want that focus.

I'm not sure if this is your only issue with releases, because you also described unwanted feelings once you were locked up again, but if this is the major issue with you having breaks, why not leave it up to your mother to decide when you get breaks, and not tell you? Then you can't anticipate on them, but still occasionally enjoy free time.
(Of course your mother should use different durations between the breaks, so that you can't learn when to expect one.)

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i like the idea, this way @Amira wouldn't focus too much on the days when she gets breaks. also it would make the whole thing a bit exciting and playful if the breaks were a surprise.

Dont do it!

Why you want it?

If want be virgin - dont have sex (lot of girls/boys can do it without cb...)

etc

Kaja If want be virgin - dont have sex (lot of girls/boys can do it without cb...)

i don't think it has only something to do with sex. some girls also feel dirty when they satisfy themselves, this can be prevented or at least greatly reduced by the belt.

Angelina some girls also feel dirty when they satisfy themselves, this can be prevented or at least greatly reduced by the belt.

Or they change their mindset.
There is nothing dirty or shameful about satisfying oneself.

Amira I feel the same way after a release. I am find that I am extra-sensitive for two days and then things start to calm down, but once I do calm down it is a very "deep" calm for at least a week. Then it starts to pick up again. So I look forward to the release and then to the deep calm. Maybe you have the same thing, but it sounds like you have difficulties with the calming down after the release.

It sounds like you enjoy the releases and you also want to have the control which means you need to limit it and this feels very difficult. Maybe you can try to find a release timing that gives you the best calm period. Having a longer time between releases might help. But I think 3 months is too long. Maybe try 3 weeks? What does your Mom say?

Aside, I had a release on Monday, so I am still in my calming-down phase

youdontknowme Most often this is due to culturally-instilled shame.

of course, but we are all culturally influenced. i don't think you can absolve yourself of that. the question is how far you go and how you react to it. i partly agree with you, but see it as difficult to do in practice

Joh Or they change their mindset.
There is nothing dirty or shameful about satisfying oneself.

with a single girl i agree with you, with relationships i think differently. however, i would say that it is very subjective and not every girl feels the same way about it.

Dalila But I think 3 months is too long. Maybe try 3 weeks? What does your Mom say?

maybe it would be best not to set a fixed date, so that she doesn't know if it's three weeks or three months, then it might work better, but that's just my guess.

Sin Well I guess we all know my feelings about these things... but I think getting to know your own body is really important. It's a beautiful experience and we should all indulge from time to time.

Staying chaste for a future partner is a completely separate issue in my opinion. You should know how to work with them and guide them, otherwise that 'first time' that you're all waiting for is going to be a pretty awkward, anxiety-ridden, painful experience.

I can't determine whether your being here is a blessing or a curse for me. On the blessing side your postings are a breath of fresh air, on the other hand I'm tempted to come back so I can read them.

Avery lol thankyou I think. Someone has to maintain the sanity around here!

Sin Yes. Great that you do it.

How are you doing?
Have you already had your child or is it still pending?

Joh I have a four day old baby girl.
Born on Tuesday 22/02/2022.

Sin Yay glad to have good news. You're amazing

Sin I have a four day old baby girl.
Born on Tuesday 22/02/2022.

that is extremely nice news, i wish you and the little one all the best