confusion and pride at the same time

youdontknowme Most often this is due to culturally-instilled shame.

of course, but we are all culturally influenced. i don't think you can absolve yourself of that. the question is how far you go and how you react to it. i partly agree with you, but see it as difficult to do in practice

Joh Or they change their mindset.
There is nothing dirty or shameful about satisfying oneself.

with a single girl i agree with you, with relationships i think differently. however, i would say that it is very subjective and not every girl feels the same way about it.

Dalila But I think 3 months is too long. Maybe try 3 weeks? What does your Mom say?

maybe it would be best not to set a fixed date, so that she doesn't know if it's three weeks or three months, then it might work better, but that's just my guess.

Sin Well I guess we all know my feelings about these things... but I think getting to know your own body is really important. It's a beautiful experience and we should all indulge from time to time.

Staying chaste for a future partner is a completely separate issue in my opinion. You should know how to work with them and guide them, otherwise that 'first time' that you're all waiting for is going to be a pretty awkward, anxiety-ridden, painful experience.

I can't determine whether your being here is a blessing or a curse for me. On the blessing side your postings are a breath of fresh air, on the other hand I'm tempted to come back so I can read them.

Avery lol thankyou I think. Someone has to maintain the sanity around here!

Sin Yes. Great that you do it.

How are you doing?
Have you already had your child or is it still pending?

Joh I have a four day old baby girl.
Born on Tuesday 22/02/2022.

Sin Yay glad to have good news. You're amazing

Sin I have a four day old baby girl.
Born on Tuesday 22/02/2022.

that is extremely nice news, i wish you and the little one all the best

Sin A perfect day to be born...

Thankyou everyone :-)

Tobbe

that's right, a birthday you can't forget

Joh How did you manage to get your baby at that day?

31 hours of labour, natural birth, drug free. The first 18 hours we did at home and it was pretty much as expected. The next 12 hours was like OMG WTF and the last hour and a half was thoroughly traumatic for everyone! Not gonna lie it was way, way worse than we ever imagined. All I can say is wear your chastity belts girls!

She's soooo cute but honestly I don't know why people would choose to go through that whole process multiple times. It's crazy!! Once is enough for us. I am DONE with giving birth!

Sin The next 12 hours was like OMG WTF and the last hour and a half was thoroughly traumatic for everyone! Not gonna lie it was way, way worse than we ever imagined. All I can say is wear your chastity belts girls!

I'm guessing there is some truth in your joke...
Not that I was planning to have kids but now I'm even more scared

Megan I don't want to put you off, everyone is different. My pregancy has been perfect, not one day of morning sickness, I've been hitting the gym three times a week, I've been doing yoga up until I went into labour... So I totally thought "I've got this!"

How wrong I was! My advice: Don't try to be a hero. Get an epidural!

Sin She's soooo cute but honestly I don't know why people would choose to go through that whole process multiple times. It's crazy!! Once is enough for us. I am DONE with giving birth!

I heard it several time but later their hormone kicked in and changed it. Some got more than one child.

Sin So I totally thought "I've got this!"

How wrong I was! My advice: Don't try to be a hero. Get an epidural!

Okay!

Megan yeah still scary

Sin
How did the father manage the birth? I assume he was there.

Sin but honestly I don't know why people would choose to go through that whole process multiple times. It's crazy!! Once is enough for us. I am DONE with giving birth!

we will talk about it again when your daughter wants a sibling
no, seriously. i have heard from many that every birth is different, your pregnancy was perfect, but the birth was probably of the heavier variety. a friend's mother had 4 children and the labour was between 2 and 50 hours, so it can be more pleasant next time.

anyway, all the best futhermore

Joh He was fantastic, but it was pretty traumatic for him too. I was very thankful he was there! I was passing out and unconscious between contractions. He basically descibed it as watching my life slowly ebb away each time. Pretty scary to think if it wasn't for modern medicine it would have dragged on for a few more days and I would have died of some horrible condition like sepsis or gangrene. Childbirth was the biggest killer of women until very recently, and still is in a lot of places.